This song has been sung for decades, singing the dream of every generation of children to be friends with every child, every child's desire for friendship, and opening their hearts to make friends. Making friends is the most natural way for children to socialize, but making good friends is not it? Cheers, shake hands? It's that simple.
Making friends can meet the social needs of children growing up, but children are still young and lack a lot of social skills and experience. Parents should help their children make friends and teach them some basic social skills.
Understand children's social performance
Participate in some school activities, or take children to participate in sports activities after school, and secretly observe and pay attention to the way children interact with others. What's the difference between his behavior and his performance at home? Why is this happening? Children only like watching and never join their friends' activities?
Some children may find it difficult to say hello at first, some children may feel anxious in large groups, or be afraid of public speaking, which makes it impossible for children to communicate with other friends in a friendly way.
Then, parents can decide where to focus and what skills to cultivate according to their children's behavior, and trust their children's intuition, because parents know their children best.
Be a role model for children.
Children really learn by example, and parents should pay attention to the way they interact with others.
Every time parents talk to friends or neighbors, supermarket cashiers, etc. The child will see it. Almost every situation can be an opportunity to learn and let children see how their parents make friends and treat people.
If parents want their children to dare to speak in public, they should first let their children see their parents speak in public in Kan Kan.
Parents want their children to be eloquent, first of all, they must be eloquent. If parents want their children to make friends, they should be honest with their friends. Parents should set an example for their children, and children are imitating their parents' behavior.
Don't compare children.
Every child is unique and has his own personality. Some children are introverted and have few friends. Some children are extroverted and have many friends. Simple comparison is meaningless, and it may also hurt children's understanding of friendship.
Don't compare with others, compare with yourself. Is there any improvement, improvement or progress compared with before?
As long as children make progress, improve and make progress, parents should actively encourage them, so that children can not only make progress, but also gain parents' affirmation and confidence. Some people pay attention to quality rather than quantity when making friends.
Mr. Lu Xun once said? It is enough to have a bosom friend in life, and we should treat them with the same mind. ? Who else cares? Many friends make the road easy? The more friends, the better. No one here is right or wrong. Even different people and friends have different standards.
Encourage children to ask questions.
Children often like to talk about themselves. Therefore, it is not surprising that asking questions helps children make friends. ? What do you like best? ? Children will tell their hobbies, and there will be many topics around hobbies.
Among the topics that the other party cares about, * * * has much in common, which is a good foundation for friendship. At the same time, it can improve children's emotional intelligence. The so-called high emotional intelligence is to understand each other's psychology and let them do what they like, and the other party will accept and like themselves more easily.
Being a likable person, liking is the catalyst of friendship, and naturally you become a good friend.
Let children invite their friends to the party, such as children's birthdays, and other children will invite you on their birthdays, thus forming a good interactive relationship, and good friends will eat and play together. For example, inviting friends for an outing, taking part in outdoor activities and taking photos together can not only promote the communication between parents, but also deepen the impression between children and become good friends.
Party is a group activity, and every child is a member of the group, which can enhance children's sense of participation and self-awareness and enhance their understanding and experience of friendship.