At what age, middle-aged people tend to decline physically and psychologically, and all kinds of pressures surround him. Only by maintaining a good physical and mental condition and communicating with people is as light as water, which is beneficial to yourself, your family and your friends. Middle-aged people, you are no longer young, so take it easy!
In middle age, no matter how good the relationship is, don't get too close. This is the result of many people's experience and practice.
Human nature has weaknesses. When a person is emotionally lonely, he especially wants to have someone to accompany him. This person is not necessarily a lover, sometimes a confidant, sometimes a girlfriend, and sometimes a person who meets by chance. I am also close to a friend who encourages me. She seems to be a kind woman. Through understanding, she looks very kind, but her family economy is relatively difficult. At that time, my career was developing well, so I wanted to help her open a business and improve her living conditions. I volunteered to pay the rent for her first, and some money for the purchase.
However, this person had no business potential at all and made three. Her children went to college, and spent too much money. They borrowed another 2, from me, and paid me back 1, the next year, with a total debt of 34,.
Usually, we often chat together, and she did accompany me through a lost time. However, this person often showed kindness and helplessness in front of me. In the present words, that is, People always have difficulties, and it will be fine after this period.
Sometimes, she will send me some agricultural products from my hometown, although they are worthless, but I still thank her and give her something several times or even dozens of times.
After a long time, she borrowed money from me in other ways one after another, and I gradually found out that I was stuck in the routine and I didn't continue to lend it to her. Of course, she slowly. I even thought of her as a friend who was closer than my own sister. Finally, I found out that, in fact, the purpose of her approaching me was to ask me to help her ... I borrowed my money and never mentioned it back. In eight years, it was like there was no such thing.
The year before last, that is, in 18, I really couldn't help it. I called her and told her that my child wanted it. Your child graduated from college and has been working for several years. Your family of three has made money, and the conditions are good. Why don't you pay me back? Besides, my child needs money.
As a result, she led her daughter to my house and said that her daughter never borrowed my money for the exam. Even she forgot to pay me 1 thousand later, so she refused to admit it. She also said that she had the habit of keeping accounts. She helped me, too. She often told the Buddha that I was a good person and asked the Buddha to bless me. I was speechless. Why did people do this? Finally, she admitted that I had paid in advance for opening a shop for her, and when she left, she took out the money from her bag and gave me back 1 thousand. She said that she would find someone to lend me money when she went back. She also said that she was depressed and felt bored.
Later, my husband told me. Don't take things too hard, after all, the relationship was so good. The next day, I called her and said, maybe I'm in menopause, and my temper is a little short, so don't pay back the money. We have a good time. When I helped you, she cried on the phone and broke off the relationship from now on.
When I was young, I made friends and wanted to tie them up every day. Talk about a love, and want to know where the other person is and what he is doing all the time. I feel that as long as the other person keeps a distance from himself, the relationship is no longer good. However, after middle age, people have suffered a lot, and have seen through many things, knowing that even if the relationship between people is good, they should not go too close.
Actually, it's true. No matter between friends, relatives or even husband and wife, we should keep a certain distance so as not to lose the original beauty.
1. Keep a safe distance between men and women
No one can guarantee that they don't have friends of the opposite sex. When you are young, you can go back and forth together and be alone, and there is no problem. But after middle age, when you get along with friends of the opposite sex, you should keep a distance, whether you like it or not.
In middle age, everyone has formed their own family. If they have a partner, if they don't know how to measure themselves, they are causing trouble for each other's family. No one wants their lover to have an unclear relationship with the opposite sex. Moreover, middle-aged men and women are inevitably dissatisfied with their present lives, and if they get too close to other members of the opposite sex, they will inevitably do things that are difficult to turn back.
2, between relatives, learn to be grateful
Although we are relatives, we all have our own families, and everyone will work hard for the interests of their families. Poor people are not asked in downtown areas, while rich people have distant relatives in the mountains. No matter whether you are poor or rich, it is a duty for relatives to help you, and it is their duty not to help you. It is always icing on the cake, but not much to give you in the snow.
For relatives, you can't kidnap them morally. You can force them to do something for you in the name of relatives. Others have no such obligation. Don't interfere in the family affairs of relatives, and don't help make important decisions. Sometimes, you treat others like family, but they treat you like an outsider, and even think you are a dog with a mouse. Between relatives, knowing the limits, knowing how to advance and retreat, immoral kidnapping, the relationship can last forever.
3. Leave personal space between lovers.
When couples reach middle age, they are not bored, and "love" is no longer as simple as verbal expression. Companionship is the longest-lasting confession.
Middle-aged couples, no matter how much they love each other, should leave personal space for each other to do what they like. Leaving personal space does not mean distrust, but it is a sign of mutual trust. Couples with the same hobbies can accompany each other. Couples with different hobbies should not force each other. This is also a sign of love.
People live in a society, and it is impossible to live alone. You have your parents, your wife (husband), your children, your friends, and so on. You have to deal with each of them, and it is indispensable to have personal contacts with relatives and friends, and to get together and talk with classmates.
The communication between people is definitely a university question. Some people are comfortable in all kinds of relationships and get along well. Few people talk about his bad. It is really not easy for those who can do this.
We have all been young. Young people, full of blood and lofty sentiments, can do anything for friends, and what can be done between good brothers is mine, and what is mine is yours.
But after middle age, we are no longer what we were when we were young. We have too many responsibilities. We should think twice before doing anything when we have to, and we can't be so impulsive. After middle age, no matter how good the relationship is with relatives and friends, don't get too close.
Don't walk too close. It doesn't mean that you should be separated from the people around you and set up an artificial barrier. How can the relationship be broken when the childhood partner is small? How can the feelings of classmates for so many years be separated? How can the kinship linked by blood be abandoned? Wait, this relationship still exists, and we should cherish it.
Don't go too close. It means that after middle age, you can't wear a pair of pants like you did when you were a child. You can stay in his house for ten days and a half months, and you can spare all your money to help your friends.
1. Don't get too close to the leader
After middle age, don't cling to wealth, don't flatter yourself, and don't be too wronged to cater to the leader. You have a good relationship with the leader, or you have to work for the leader with white hair, or you are jealous of your colleagues for no reason, or you lose your own heart and become a weapon to be used.
2. Don't get too close to your colleagues.
In middle age, man proposes, God disposes. Stop fighting with others and intrigue. Just be peaceful between people and don't get too close. Work only for happiness, and everything goes with fate.
You can "just sweep the snow in front of your own door, regardless of the frost on others' tiles". Don't impulsively think that I have a good relationship with him (her), you can do anything for him (her), and colleagues are colleagues.
3. Don't get too close to your classmates.
There is nothing wrong with having a light-hearted relationship with your classmates in middle age. Don't think that the relationship is good. When your classmates open their mouths to borrow money, their minds get hot and they pour out their pockets.
after middle age, it's no longer the time when you had enough to eat and the whole family was not hungry. You have a wife and children and parents to support, and you have to pour out everything to your classmates. How can your wife and children live?
4. Don't get too close to your relatives.
When you are in middle age, you must learn to be polite with your relatives. No matter how good your relationship is, don't get too close. Don't think that we can still do whatever we want when we were young. It's really wrong. It's not that your relatives have changed, nor that you have changed. It's that your environment has changed and your shoulders are responsible.
don't lend money to the other party just because you feel good. Sometimes good intentions may not lead to good deeds and good results.