Reply on 3.16 Xiaohan's parents are divorced, her father is nowhere to be found, and her mother has been working outside for many years. She has been fostered in her aunt's house since she was a child, and she feels insecure. When he entered junior high school, he started to rebel, made social friends, and got into bad habits such as smoking and drinking. The head teacher's repeated attacks have not been effective, and the school's disciplinary punishment has reached the highest level. My mother always preaches and protects her, and clearly expresses her support for the teacher's work, but she is unwilling to transfer to another school and cannot raise her personally. Seeing Xiaohan sleeping in the classroom and causing trouble every day, what should the head teacher do?

Name An Yanhui

3.16 defense?

Seeing this question reminded me of teacher Ren Mingjie’s talent show. There are a group of parents in his class The left-behind children are no longer around, but under the care and care of Teacher Ren, they are cheerful and positive. Looking at the children's heartfelt smiles in the video, I feel that Teacher Ren and the children have truly integrated into each other and grown together. If I were Xiaohan's class teacher, I would get along with Xiaohan from the following aspects:

1. Take special care of Xiaohan and give her a sense of security. Due to family reasons, Xiaohan lacked care and love since she was a child, so she would disguise herself like a hedgehog. Everyone wants good things, Xiaohan just doesn't know how to make himself better and stronger. I will often chat with Xiaohan and tell her that if she has any questions, she can go to the teacher and the teacher will solve it with you. I also want to share with Xiaohan the difficulties of being a parent. Her mother works far away from home so that Xiaohan can have better living conditions. Such a mother is greater than other mothers. Encourage Xiaohan to have more contact with her mother. Even if her mother is not around, they should share their lives, joys and sorrows with each other. Only with more contact can maternal love be felt.

2. Contact home and school to educate Xiaohan. Tell her mother truthfully about your child's performance in school, and list some examples of problematic teenagers leading to criminal cases. Tell her that if this continues, the child will have big problems, and you will not be able to afford it. Share every detail of Xiaohan's school experience with Xiaohan's mother, encourage her to praise her children promptly when they make progress, and comfort her when they are sad. Build a bridge between Xiaohan and her mother, so that Xiaohan's mother can truly take on the responsibilities that a mother should take. responsibility.

3. Moral education activities, children grow together. Carry out credit reporting activities with themes such as "Mom, I want to tell you" and "My Mom" ??in the class; if conditions permit, carry out outdoor activities such as spring outings and study trips to enhance collective cohesion and let the children in the class feel The class group is also a big family. In this big family, you can feel care and love, and your heart will grow.

Li Zengzhi

The missing love needs to be made up for, and the broken wings need to be comforted! I deeply sympathize with Xiaohan's situation. I suggest guiding from the following aspects:

1. Make up for the shortcomings

It is recommended that the class teacher devote more time and more affection. For example: have a meal with your child every day, ask your child to come to the office every day after school to give words of encouragement and warm explanations, and invite your child to your home for lunch from time to time on weekends. Provide certain material assistance based on ability, so that children can receive "parental love" from teachers and warm their frozen hearts! Let children feel the warmth of the world.

2. After the above blowing of the south wind, lead the children back to reason, talk to Xiaohan's classmates several times, help Xiaohan find his own points of interest, and guide Xiaohan to make career planning. Only when there is a direction Only then will he not be tempted by the outside world and help Xiaohan return to normal.

3. "Teacher's love is the soul of a teacher, and if you are not strict, you will not be a teacher." After the teacher-student relationship became more harmonious, he signed a code of conduct agreement with Xiaohan to restrict his bad behavior and diligently supervise and impose strict requirements.

4. "Teacher's love can never replace the love of parents." Even if Xiaohan's mother no longer wants to manage her children, the class teacher must spare no effort to guide parents to care for their children. The class teacher can let parents and children Make regular videos, or record some videos for each other to watch.

"Never abandon, never give up on every student" is our most basic love for students. Perhaps we still have little success after many efforts! But we still have to never forget our original intention! Go all out! "But ask about hard work, not about harvest."

Teacher Wang Qian’s comments:

I remember when I communicated with you before, I said a principle when dealing with class management issues, especially problem students, "If I were a child, if this "It's my child." You might as well reverse the roles and think about it from another perspective, "If I were Xiaohan, if I were Xiaohan's mother," what would I want the head teacher to do?

Think about it, if you were Xiaohan, who had experienced various punishments and contracted various bad habits, and the head teacher came to you to communicate sincerely, would you be able to listen?

Only by being close to one’s teacher can one believe in one’s teachings

First she gets close to you and is willing to listen to you, then you can talk to her again to be effective

This She is a child who has lacked love for a long time and is extremely insecure in her heart. She will be wary of many people, including the class teacher

I agree with what Zengzhi said about blowing the south wind hard.

Such a child first cares about life, truly cares, rather than caring for the sake of caring

Such children hang out with gangsters, contract various bad habits, and are rebellious , making bad friends is, in a sense, seeking a sense of security and belonging. Because she will feel abandoned, unwanted, and incompatible with the world around her. Therefore, we cannot simply think of her behavior as a problem with the child's character. I think what we need to do at this time is to snatch her back from those bad boys. How to rob? I think it should be companionship.

So if this child is in our class, I may keep her with me. Just like Zengzhi said, buy her food, school supplies, and even clothes. Take her to get a haircut, take her home, etc. Warm and soften her with love first, so that she can let go of her guard against you and be willing to listen to you before talking about the conversation.

Another thing, let’s think about it again, “if Xiaohan was my child”, what kind of feelings and thoughts would you have when faced with the communication from the head teacher?

What do you think? She talked about the "Family Education Promotion Law". Is it useful?

My mother has been working outside for a long time, which shows that she is a woman who is running around for life, which is not easy. She has no time to learn the family education promotion method. Think about it, everyone, what are her most basic requirements when she puts her child at her aunt’s house

In addition, why does she protect her

Why is she unwilling to transfer to another school and why can’t she take care of it herself

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After thinking through these questions clearly, I think your answer will have different ideas

There is no such thing as easy in the adult world. Who doesn’t want to watch over their children and enjoy family life?

So back to those two sentences, "If I were a child, if this was my child." The defense is to discuss how to solve practical problems in class management. I have repeatedly communicated with everyone that it is important to have a well-founded defense, but education is faced with living lives and people standing in front of you, so it is more important to be affectionate and righteous. We must learn to be warm-hearted people. teacher.

Think about how such a mother should communicate

This case is mainly about communication. Communicate in layers, communicate with Xiaohan, communicate with Xiaohan’s mother, and also communicate with Xiaohan’s aunt. But when handling, be sure to pay attention to "respect". Divorce is a private matter, and children will be more sensitive, so I don’t recommend holding class meetings on such issues. ***Class meetings are held for sexual issues, and personality issues mainly rely on communication.

This is my idea, and I would like to recommend some ideas to everyone. There is no standard answer or template for the defense. You can try to change your mind and try again.