First, observe your emotions. That is, always remind yourself: "What is my mood now? For example, when you are unfriendly to your friend because he is late for an appointment, ask yourself, "Why should I do this? How do I feel now? If you realize that you are angry with your friends for being late again and again, you can handle your anger better. Many people think that "people should not have emotions", so they refuse to admit that they have negative emotions. You should know that people have emotions, and suppressing emotions will bring worse results. Learning to observe your emotions is the first step in emotional management.

Second, express your emotions appropriately. Give an example of a friend being late for an appointment. You may be angry because he worries you. In this case, you can gently tell him, "You haven't arrived after the appointed time. I'm afraid something will happen to you on the road. Try to convey to him the feeling of "I'm so worried" and let him know how you will feel if he is late. What is an inappropriate expression? For example, you accuse him of being late for every appointment. Why don't you consider my feelings? When you criticize the other person, it will also cause his negative emotions. He will become a hedgehog and be busy defending against foreign attacks. He can't stand in your position and think of you. His reaction may be: "There is a traffic jam on the road! what can I do? Do you think I don't want to be on time? As a result, the two began to quarrel, not to mention a happy date. How to "properly express" emotions is an art, which needs to be experienced, carefully pondered and, more importantly, used in life.

Third, ease the mood in an appropriate way. There are many ways to relieve emotions. Some people will cry bitterly, some will complain to their friends, some will go shopping, listen to music, take a walk or force themselves to do other things to avoid unpleasant memories. Worse ways are drinking, driving fast, and even committing suicide. I want to remind you that the purpose of relieving emotions is to give yourself a chance to clear your mind, make yourself feel better and have more energy to face the future. If the way to relieve emotions is only to escape pain temporarily, then it is not an appropriate way to bear more pain. If you feel uncomfortable, you should face it bravely and think seriously. Why are you so sad and angry? What should I do so as not to make the same mistake in the future? What can I do to reduce my unhappiness? Will this be more harmful? According to these angles, choose a way that suits you and can effectively relieve your emotions, and you will be able to control your emotions instead of letting them control you!

In addition, it is also important to establish an attitude towards life that goes with the flow.

Attention should be paid to cultivating the mind, because a person's mood will affect his mental outlook and physical condition. It is very important for a person to be calm and detached, and to maintain a psychological balance, and his emotions are not affected by others.

Open-minded, calm, carefree, treat life with a normal heart, and be content.

Be optimistic and open-minded in life.