Teacher Chen Guo subverts the three views and explodes the circle of friends.
Friends are useless.
Teacher Chen Guo talked about what is useless in the video:
Fudan spirit is a kind of "free and useless soul", which is useless without utility.
The same is true of making friends. We don't make friends because they are useful.
In life, when we discuss anything, the first question is what is its use. For example, when we choose a major, the first thing that comes to mind is, what will this major bring us in the future?
Utilitarianism is universal. It's like praying for Buddha. I won't go to see the Buddha if I have nothing to do. Once you go to see the Buddha, you have to get a visa, otherwise you will be in trouble in your life and need the blessing of the Buddha. In fact, this is a kind of use.
Use it when you need it, and it doesn't exist when you don't use it.
Friends are useless. The reason why we want to make friends is not to take advantage of Ta.
Not to let Ta comfort us when we need comfort, but to use it; It's not for a safe exit, it can vent a lot of bad emotions at once, which is also a kind of use.
Friends are not for taking, but for giving. People make friends because you have too much love to give and too much love to give.
Therefore, making friends is not to be loved, but to love others.
Why love? Because this person makes you feel a tacit understanding that you have never had in spirit.
He is not your relative and has no blood relationship with you, but you and he have spiritual understanding on the same issue.
Friends are like air, and friends are like water. They are not often remembered, but they are everywhere.
This is a kind of empathy that friends bring us, and this is a true friend.
People are sometimes wonderful. When you really encounter a crisis in real life, many times you will not ask your friends for help, but will ask some people with clear interests to help you.
Just like we seldom borrow money from friends, seldom ask friends to help us find jobs, and seldom ask friends to come forward to solve very difficult difficulties. Why?
Because friendship, like love, is smart, transparent, pure and beautiful. Sometimes I really can't bear to or don't want to, because of my personal reasons, let my friends take on some utilitarian purposes when they are unnecessary.
Making friends is because of love. If you love ta, don't get involved with ta when it's unnecessary.
Love doesn't mean that I have to give you good things, constant gifts and put in a good word for you. If I love ta, don't make trouble about it! Love ta, don't let ta worry more!
Just as we all love our parents, don't let them worry too much about you, and don't give them trouble when it is unnecessary. This principle of love also applies to friends.
We usually don't want the people we love to have any utilitarian use, just like we treat our parents. Many times we don't want our parents to help us solve many difficulties because they have done too much for us.
A hedge between keeps friendship green. What is as light as water? I don't often think about it, but it is everywhere.
Friends are so important, since friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, don't confuse friendship with too much paint.
Friends are not practical goods, not daily life, but luxury goods. Once you have it, you will feel satisfied.
Friend, you don't have to do anything, just stay with me when I have a crisis. Maybe we just shake hands at this time, but that's enough.
Psychologically, if you have such tacit understanding and empathy, you will be satisfied.
Because you are here, let me know that I am not lonely at all.
Friends are "useless", this is the true meaning of friends!