if it's only for you, it's probably related to your relationship, so you need to reflect on whether there are some misunderstandings between you. If there is only one thing for you, then it is only this thing that is difficult for him and unwilling to offend you. If most people have this attitude towards most things, that is to say, the behavior of the other party is universal. Then, this kind of behavior is worth analyzing.
Wu Zhihong, a psychologist, once analyzed her personality and said that there was a habitual procrastination in her past life experience. Later, I found that the reason behind this is because I can't refuse others. Obviously, I don't have the energy or ability to do it, but as long as others speak, they will always answer first. Others are happy, but they are in a panic. I'm embarrassed to tell the truth, which shows that I don't keep my word, so I evade and delay.
people with flattering personality are prone to such behavior. I'm embarrassed to refuse others, and I have no ability to do it. Or you obviously don't like this person, but you still show a positive attitude towards others. On the one hand, it maintains a false good relationship, on the other hand, it does not expose its true thoughts and abilities.
In addition, there is another obstacle to interpersonal communication, called social fear, which is mainly manifested by being unsociable and avoiding contact. This is not targeted and will lead to generalization. It is generally related to major changes in the environment or interpersonal relationships, and it is not well adapted to the new environment. Need to be relieved by psychotherapy.
These three behaviors are dissatisfied with you, disagreeing with you and not catching a cold. Although interacting with people, no one can be liked by everyone. In order to express themselves better, people always disguise their words and deeds and hide their true thoughts in their hearts. Even if they hate someone, they will not directly show it. If you don't even bother to cover it up, your behavior will expose this feature. The words and deeds of perfunctory, evasive and evasive are such psychological reactions. The following behaviors, in particular, reflect this signal:
A. Always perfunctory, ignoring your existence
For example, you and the other party, he likes to ignore and looks at the other party; Or keep making excuses and saying that you are busy; Or keep looking at your watch and your mobile phone, and make outgoing calls ...
B. There is a clear difference between you and others.
If someone asks for the same thing, he will respond quickly, and if you ask for it, he will refuse or not respond. This indifference means that you are disgusted or disapproved.
C, suddenly make excessive emotional changes to you
If the other person is kind to others on weekdays, but suddenly he is angry with you inexplicably, it means that he has been dissatisfied with you for a long time, but it just broke out.
If the above prevarication, perfunctory and prevarication happen, you should either choose to stay away or reflect on yourself ...
First of all, you can be sure that the other party shows fatigue in the process of interacting with others and is not sincere enough to the people in the interaction!
1. Generally, this kind of person feels that you are not so important in his social circle, or that you are either on or off, so he doesn't want to put too much energy on you psychologically;
2. I may feel that I don't want to continue my relationship, but I don't want to be too determined psychologically, thinking that I am perfunctory to let the other party know my mind;
3. I am unable and embarrassed to refuse directly, and I feel lucky. I think that although I am perfunctory, I will at least respond, which is much better than ignoring it.
4. It may be because individuals have communication phobia. In the face of interpersonal communication, they will have psychological resistance and can't communicate well, which makes people feel that they are just perfunctory!
Finally, I recommend reading the following book:
The Complete Works of Interpersonal Psychology is a book published by China Overseas Chinese Publishing House on January 1st, 212. The author is Zheng Xiu, who talks about interpersonal psychology in interpersonal communication.
since you can't describe it clearly, you can only make a rough analysis, if you have a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? Or interesting? If he doesn't refuse, it shows that he is actually interested in you, but he has some concerns, such as family factors, physical factors and economic factors. This person is not strong enough and hesitant. It is recommended to know the situation from his friends!
the other person doesn't want to make friends with you.