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With the opening of society and the integration of China with the international community after China's entry into WTO, people's communication is increasing, and politeness and elegance are becoming more and more important. In daily communication, the use of honorific, modest and elegant language can reflect a person's cultural accomplishment, and the use of polite language can not only respect others, but also win others' respect for themselves and harmonious feelings, so as to carry out normal interpersonal communication. This year's college entrance examination questions have made a good guide in this respect. Please look at the following two questions:

1. Sichuan VolumeNo. 19: In daily communication, it is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation to pay attention to language politeness and elegant words. Please write down the following two words used in different occasions. (6 points)

For example, when visiting friends, you can say "I came to see you on purpose", which is more elegant, or you can say "I came to see you on purpose".

(1) Invite friends to our home. You can say "I'll wait for you at home this afternoon" or "I'll wait for you at home this afternoon".

(2) If you give your work to others, you can write "Please give me more advice" or "Mr. _ _" in the book.

[Reference Answer]: Waiting for correction

2. Heiji Guijuan 19: In daily communication, it is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation to pay attention to language courtesy and elegant words. Please write down the following two words used in different occasions. (6 points)

For example, when visiting friends, you can say "I came to see you on purpose", which is more elegant, or you can say "I came to see you on purpose".

(1) If you want to entrust someone to do something, you can say "please help" or "thank you".

(2) Ask for forgiveness. You can say "please forgive", "please forgive" or "please".

(3) When asking the age of the elderly, you can say "How old are you" or "Your old man".

[Reference Answer]: Please forgive me for my long life.

Both questions involve polite and elegant wording. Greater China has always been known as the "state of etiquette". Our ancestors paid great attention to etiquette in their daily communication and always showed politeness and gentleness. We should carry forward this fine tradition and pass it on from generation to generation. So what should we do?

First, pay attention to the occasion, respect others and be modest.

It is appropriate to use different languages in different occasions. In daily communication, when talking about people or things related to each other, we should use respectful language, that is, honorifics; When talking about people, things and things related to you, you should choose words with mild tone, that is, modesty. The two are completely different and cannot be used indiscriminately. Otherwise, it will be rude and make people laugh.

Please look at these two sentences:

1. It is a great honor for Teacher Wang to humiliate me.

You wait under the shed tomorrow morning, and I will consult on time.

Calling the arrival of others "humiliation", that is, guests are willing to come to their own homes, is a humiliating thing for guests and a courtesy. It is modesty to say that your home is "humble". Use appropriate and polite language. In Example 2, "giving up" is a modest speech when talking about one's home. Here it should be a tribute to "your home", because "I went to consult on time" is obviously going to the other's home. ?

Second, master everyday polite expressions skillfully.

1. address format

The forms of address are "big family, small family, making strangers". That is to say, in your own home, anyone older than yourself should be preceded by the word "home", such as my dad (my dad); If you are younger than yourself, use the word "shed" in front, such as my brother (my brother). If you are an outsider, use "Ling×××", such as your son (someone else's son).

1994 there is such a question in the national college entrance examination Chinese paper:

In the following sentences, the correct sentence to add traditional courtesy title is

A. Our family's tutor is very strict, and your father often tells us to be honest and upright in society.

Your Yuan won the prize in this children's art exhibition. Thanks to your careful guidance, our whole family is very grateful to you.

C. I know that the product you designed won the quality award, and your father has already told me the news.

D. Your son deserves to be a noble son. His horse is lifelike.

A word has been added to this question, referring to one's own father, called "my father"; The plus sign in item B refers to your own daughter, which should be called "little girl". These two sentences should be modest, which misuses honorifics. The words added in item C refer to the father of the other party and should be called "your father". This sentence should be respectful but it misuses modesty. Only the "your son" in item D is a respectful name for the other son and a correct sentence.

Besides, there are other honorifics and modesty. For example:

(1) Humility:

Young student: a young person or a younger man calls himself. Old age, an old chap like me, old age: the requirements of the elderly.

Little brother: Men call themselves among friends or acquaintances. Modesty: Call yourself madam.

Children and dogs: Call yourself a son. Daughter: Call yourself a daughter.

(2) Respect:

Step one, your Excellency, stage and hand: address each other. Male, gentleman, gentleman: male.

Adult: Call elder. Lao Zhang: Call an old man.

Master: a monk or person who has profound knowledge and artistic attainments and is respected by everyone.

Family: Call someone else's family. Gaozu: Call someone else's student.

In-laws: call each other relatives. Your father: Call the other person's father.

Your mother: Call each other's mother. Your wife: Call the other wife.

Your son and heir: call each other son. Lingyuan: Call each other's daughter.

2. Polite language

There is a good saying: polite words are well used and praised by gentle people. Therefore, we should remember the common polite songs:

Say "hello" when you meet someone, ask their last name, say "your last name" and ask their address to say "your home"

I've heard a lot about you for the first time, but I didn't say "long time no see". I asked for help and said "excuse me"

Ask someone to say "excuse me", ask someone to help you say "excuse me" and ask someone to answer "consult"

Ask someone to do something and say "please". Please say "I'm sorry" for convenience.

Please change the article to say "correct", accept goodwill, say "appreciate", ask for advice and say "teach"

Say "thank you" when you get help, wish people health, say "take care", congratulate people and say "congratulations"

When old people visit others, they say that "old" means being unwell, "in poor health" and "visiting".

Say "take it" when giving gifts, "save it" when taking photos, and "patronize" when buying.

I hope to take care of "care" and praise people's opinions, say "high opinions" and return to the project, and say "return"

Invite someone to an appointment and say "pleasure". The other person will write to say "thank you" and say "my humble abode" at his home.

It is not enough to say "consider", but to say "sorry", to make people understand and to say "forgive"

Improper words and deeds "sorry" condolences to others "hard work" greeting guests and saying "welcome"

Guests say "come", wait for others to say "welcome", and say "no meeting" without meeting.

Guests sit down and say "please sit down", accompany friends to say "company" and leave to say "goodbye".

Go first in the middle and say "I'm sorry". Please don't send someone away, say "stay" and send someone away and say "peace".

Ask people to decide to say "Cai Jun", accept the lesson, say "learned", thank people for their love, and say "wrong love"

Be praised as "flattering", make friends and get married, say "climb the mountain", wish people health and say "take care"

At the end of the letter, it says "salute" to the teacher, "teach well" to the editor and "compile security".

In a word, polite language seems simple, but it is not easy to do it. This requires us to study more at ordinary times and strengthen our self-cultivation, so that the fine tradition of our Chinese nation as a country of etiquette can be further carried forward.