There is a woman in her thirties beside me. Men earn money outside all the year round. The woman took two children at home and planted five acres of land. There is no one around her who doesn't praise her skills. Her family arranged a well-organized competition and was very filial to her in-laws. Inside and outside, she is an expert. She can use agricultural machinery and drive a tractor at home. During the day, I am busy doing housework in the field. In the evening, I train my children to study. I also work on handmade toys, and I can earn more than 2000 in the off-season. I am optimistic every day.
There is also a woman who is different from others. She is a person who likes to play. When a man works, he has to pay for it every month. The land at home is planted by others, and she takes her children to school alone. She rented a house on the street in the name of taking her children to school. During the day, she spent time at the mahjong table and was entertained by irresponsible men. At night, she dresses like Hua. This friend went out fooling around with that confidant sister, and the children were taken care of by grandparents at night. There are endless gossips and stories behind her, and she also boasted that making friends is not afraid of others gossiping, which ruined her reputation. By the end of the year, there were few men left and finally divorced.
These two kinds of people are not only around me, but also around everyone. Normal people, people live all their lives to make a name for themselves and set an example for future generations. It is a role that everyone admires and can afford to let go, and it is open-minded for a lifetime. And those nasty women, reckless depravity when they were young, knew their mistakes once they entered the second half of their lives, and then regretted it. The price of being young and frivolous is tragic and cannot be recognized by everyone. Think about how heartless you are.
I believe there is such a story around you. Welcome to discuss it.
A woman who can stand loneliness is busy at home and abroad. Not only do they have to send their children to school, some of them are pregnant with a second child. It is inevitable that they work hard.
Sex is human nature. Married couples live a normal life, but their lives are not normal. But in order to make a living, many husbands can only go out to work, and in order to take care of their children, they can only leave their wives around. Except for a few poor rural areas, they are somewhat dissatisfied with life. Husband can still rely on feelings to maintain, but left, the problem came.
Hard work with children, resentment in my heart, resentment in my heart because of poor local conditions, empty feelings of my husband, long days and nights, how can I be satisfied?
Flies don't bite seamless eggs, and they have no thoughts in their hearts. How can they be cheated? This man has been away from home for a long time, flirting with the men in the village under the guise of being cheerful. Some left-behind young women, wearing particularly low-cut clothes and short skirts, can't bear to look straight.
In this impetuous society, husbands, don't leave your wife alone in the countryside.
In the village, there was a woman in her thirties named Jane, with a slender figure and a fair face. Her husband Liang went to work in Guangzhou. Most of those who went to work in Zhejiang in those years were young people.
Jane met her husband, A Liang, in Guangzhou that year, because their hometown was very close, and they came from two towns adjacent to a county. Come and go like this, you can't hold other people's offensive. I had a baby, and then I gave birth to a girl. It's inconvenient to take the children to work, so let Liang go to work by herself, and Jane will take care of the children at home. Usually I have no other hobbies, but I like to eat snacks and play mahjong. Because at that time, children could run by themselves when they were three or four years old, and almost all the same children were together, and they didn't need adult care. When playing mahjong, close the door and let several children play together.
A Liang's friend is in his thirties and single. When Liang is not at home, he often buys some snacks for Jane, and the relationship has always been good. The villagers joked that this bachelor is more like a husband than others. Liang doesn't see each other several times a year. You are here from time to time, and Liang is not jealous.
So after two years, one day Jane left her child and ran away with another man.
Everyone laughed at me for buying snacks for more than two years and still running away with others. It is said that when Liang came back from the Spring Festival, he knew that Jane had disappeared and ran to Jane's house. Jane's house didn't know where Jane had gone, so he couldn't come back. The next year, I said that I would never work that far again.
Later, according to an insider who played mahjong together, Jane occasionally said that bachelors were all hands and feet when playing mahjong, which made people feel very painful. Everyone is familiar with it. It's hard to say anything. Three months before Jane left, it was said that a fellow villager came to visit Jane. Jane didn't play mahjong then. The fellow villagers took Jane to the county and the city to play, and said that Jane was also invited to eat a lot of delicious food. Two months later, Jane often yawned when playing mahjong, which made her sick. At that time, everyone was joking about whether she was pregnant. Liang is not at home, so he doesn't make trouble. Three or four days later, Jane left.
Later, it is said that Jane was found. It is said that she went to the home of a person who used to work in Guangzhou in the next county. It was a fellow villager who came to see Jane while Liang was away. At that time, both of them were contacted by SMS, and they were missed by others. Jane was married to Liang at that time.
It was not until eight years later that A Liang found another wife that she contacted Jane again and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to divorce her.
As a researcher on the issues concerning agriculture, countryside and farmers, I have been investigating in rural areas for a long time, and I know a lot about those young left-behind women in rural areas. From my research in rural areas, what young rural left-behind women do during the day and at night is roughly as follows.
During the busy farming season, young left-behind women certainly have to do farm work. In addition to doing farm work, they may have to drive their children from school. When they are not busy with farm work, they are much more leisure. Under normal circumstances, some young left-behind women will surf the Internet at home when they are not busy with farming. Some young left-behind women can play mahjong. Some young left-behind women play mahjong during the day and then at night. For this young rural left-behind woman, playing mahjong is addictive.
There are also young rural left-behind women near the market town, who will go to the market town to dance square dance at night.
Once, when I was investigating in a village, some old people in the village told me that there was a young left-behind woman in this village who liked to write articles. So, under the leadership of several old people, I quickly found this young left-behind woman and had some exchanges with her.
She told me that she wrote articles every day. I asked her, what kind of articles does she write? She said that she wrote essays mostly because she liked to write essays at school. She has published more than 65,438+000 articles in newspapers and magazines. Talking about fees, she said that she wrote prose as a hobby and didn't care about fees. Besides writing prose, she also writes some articles about rural technology.
I asked her, how many young left-behind women like her like to write articles locally? She told me that in the local area, she is the only rural left-behind woman who likes to write articles. She joined some author groups, and sometimes, she would communicate with the authors in the group. She doesn't want to comment on young left-behind women who chat online and then cheat. After all, that's their privacy.
Finally, she told me that she would video with her husband who works in other places every three days, and they would say something to each other in the video.
What is left is a heavy word, a sad back and a helpless wry smile. Everyone who stays, old people, children and women, has their own stories.
In many rural areas, because farming can't solve the problem of survival, going out to work has become the easiest way to get rich. So the young husband left, leaving behind his parents, children and young mother.
So, what are young left-behind mothers in rural areas busy with during the day and night?
I'll tell you two real cases, but they only represent a part, so please don't compare them.
Young left-behind mother-mother A: When a man goes to work in Zhejiang, he can bring back 20,000 to 30,000 yuan in cash every year, which is several times that of digging land in other places. A 29-year-old mother takes care of her parents at home, with two children and five acres of paddy fields.
The income of 20 thousand to 30 thousand brings visible changes to a poor family, which is the most gratifying thing for mother A. In the morning, she sends her boss to school, then works in the fields with her father-in-law, and her mother-in-law takes care of her children at home. Every day is such a scene.
During the slack season, mother A will grow some vegetables to sell in the market during the day to subsidize her family. In the evening, after the children fall asleep, knit some sweaters. The day passed quickly.
Although the night without men feels empty, it is worthwhile to pay for a better life for this family. The happiest thing is that men go home for the New Year, and besides bringing back tickets, they also have a hot body that has been waiting for a year.
Mom a is very satisfied. The family is healthy, frugal and spend a little money. In a few years, she can still build a two-story building, as long as her life is smooth and she doesn't want to be rich or expensive.
Young left-behind mother-mother B: 32-year-old mother B also wants to go out to work with men, but her mother-in-law is in poor health and her children are still at school. It is really impossible to leave them with my father-in-law.
A person has been away for a year, and it is only a few days to go home for the New Year. It's fine during the day. There is a lot of work at home, and every busy day is a day. But the night is long, and it's really hard.
When a woman climbs to the age of 30, her desire in that area is particularly strong. She can't sleep at night without a man. Seeing other left-behind mothers dressed up, going to dance halls and fooling around in bars, mother B also itched.
It's a lie to say that you don't want to. Just thinking can't quench your thirst. After all, you are not the kind of woman who can let go. Going out to eat is also risky. How can it be from the village?
So, biting ninja is the only solution. Although uncomfortable, for a man, he always maintains a innocence and is worthy of him. It's not easy for a man to make an occasional phone call to relieve hunger and complain a few words, as long as he is sorry.
When life is better in a few years, men will not be allowed to go out again. Well, this is life. For the sake of family, bear it.
Q&A Summary: Every left-behind family has its own pain and helplessness, as well as laughter and tears. If life is easy, who wants to let men go out to make money? But life is not only for yourself, but also for parents and children.
Some young mothers who stay in the countryside live a very chic life. It is impossible to summarize what they are busy with during the day and night, but there are similarities, such as the following things, that is, they do more.
I don't know what's going on in other places, but here, except children, almost everyone can play mahjong, which is also one of our greatest hobbies. Young left-behind women are one of the main players at the poker table.
First of all, they have enough free time.
Women who stay in the countryside can't find any formal jobs, so they are unemployed. As long as the youngest child has gone to kindergarten, there is enough time for free activities. Although they are farmers, there are very few farmers now, especially their men are not at home and lack the most important labor force, so they can't grow their own. And now a lot of housework is given to machines, which greatly liberates rural women, so they are the most leisure.
Secondly, they have money.
Because they are young and strong, their men can earn hundreds of dollars a day when they work outside the home, and they can get back tens of thousands of dollars on time every month. These money are given to their wives, and the daily expenses of the whole family are arranged by her.
However, the living cost of rural people is still relatively low. If there are no other big expenses, how can you spend 654.38+0 million a month? So they have enough money to play mahjong. As long as you don't play too much or have bad luck, the loser or winner will always have enough money in his pocket to play mahjong.
So if you want to say what young left-behind women are doing during the day, playing mahjong is definitely the cutting edge, because it can kill a lot of time. If parents-in-law can still cook, they don't have to go home all day.
The reason why rural left-behind women want to stay behind is because they have young children to take care of or go to work in cities with their husbands. If we can be together every day and earn more money, my husband will not agree even if he doesn't want to go, so they have a task to stay in their hometown, that is, to raise and accompany their children.
Some things grandparents can't do well, such as helping children with their homework. They don't even know a few Chinese characters. How can they help their children study hard? Therefore, we still need young parents around. Although their academic qualifications are not high, they can use some modern tools and communicate better with school teachers, so it is still helpful for children's learning.
The most important thing for young left-behind women to accompany their children is weekends. They are willing to spend money to give their children a more colorful childhood, so they take their children shopping, amusement parks and outings every weekend. In the process of accompanying children, I also relax and enjoy a more colorful life, so I am very willing to put down mahjong at this time.
Smart phones have become the most indispensable partners of modern people because of their powerful and rich functions. Even in rural areas, they have basically spread to everyone, and they spend no less time playing mobile phones than people in cities.
Especially in the dead of night, when they have put their children to sleep, but still can't sleep, mobile phones have become their only comfort. They can watch live shopping on it, or chat with strangers online, which can make them laugh and get out of the loneliness without men around.
So I sometimes feel that rural left-behind women are not poor. They have money and leisure, and there are enough ways to pass the boring time. Aren't they happier than working women who work alone outside and women who work with their husbands at home to make money?
A day when young mothers stay in summer. Get up at 4: 30 in the morning, clean the room and go out to pick peaches for others. Hourly wage 12 yuan, time is counted.
Go home at 7: 30 in the morning, dress the children, send them to school, and then continue picking peaches.
Picking peaches at nine o'clock in the morning (earning 48 yuan's living expenses), I went home to serve the elderly to take medicine and help them go to the toilet to wash.
Make breakfast at 9: 20 in the morning, and serve dinner at 10: 00 on time. After dinner, wash the pots and pans until 1 1 in the morning.
After a short break from 1 1: 00 to 12: 00 in the morning, I began to wash clothes for the whole family on sunny days and was busy until noon 13: 00.
Buy food at noon 13: 00 and go home. After choosing the dishes, clean up and start cooking lunch. 14: 00, the whole family has lunch and washes the pots and dishes.
Look at the mobile phone at noon 15: 00. There are things to buy at home, such as clothes for the elderly, clothes for children, and some daily necessities.
Go to my orchard to weed and break buds at 0/6: 00 p.m. 18: 00 p.m., and go home to pick up the children from school.
In the afternoon 18: 30, it was still dark. After supplying water to the solar water heater at home, I will continue to work in the orchard.
Go home at night 19: 30, check the completion of children's homework after simple washing, and see if the elderly are hungry and want porridge.
At 20: 00 in the evening, after a busy day's life, the old man has gone to bed and started to sleep with his children, sometimes telling bedtime stories.
At 2 1: 00 in the evening, I started to clean the children's dirty clothes for school and work all day.
At 2 1: 30 in the evening, the child went to bed and the husband who went to work also got off work. You can video chat, but you can't chat for too long, which will affect your husband's work the next day.
Go to bed at 22: 00 at night and get up in the middle of the night to cover the child. If the old man is not feeling well, he will go to the village clinic to see a doctor.
Sometimes I feel like a robot, dragging my tired body to sleep and having little free time to think about other things. Life has long been swallowed up by the daily chores of daily necessities. Conclusion: This is the day when young mothers stay at home in summer. In a family where there are old people and young people, the husband can't take care of the family when he goes out to work. A wife should take care of her in-laws and children who are studying. The whole family depends on this young mother for food, clothing, housing and transportation. They should also find ways to increase their family income to relieve their husbands' financial pressure. Besides having a short video chat with their husbands at night, they should also take good care of their crops and earn money to subsidize their families after harvest.
This is a real day for a young left-behind mother in rural areas. How do you feel after watching her day's life?
In rural areas, it is very common that men go out to work and women stay at home to take care of the elderly and children. So, what are these young left-behind mothers busy with during the day and night?
There is a flower at each end of the flower. Let's talk about positive energy first. Li Guozhu and Zhao Zhihua in our village are a young couple. They are from the same village and have been classmates since primary school. After graduating from high school, neither of them went on to college. At the age of marriage, they fell in love freely and became a family. As the song goes, this childhood couple is kind and loving, and the rope swings. Although there is no shortage of food and clothing in the countryside now, the way to make money is still not easy to find. In order to live a richer life, the couple decided that Li Guozhu, the husband, went out to work to earn money, while Zhao Zhihua, the wife, stayed at home to take care of a pair of primary school children and the elderly. Because both husband and wife have a very deep emotional foundation, Lao Yan is very loyal to each other, although separated. When Zhao Guozhu first entered the factory, he was an ordinary worker. Because of his flexibility, although he only has a high school education, he participated in the skills training of electricians and welders organized by the industrial park in his spare time. From the ordinary workers on the assembly line, they were promoted to the workshop director first and then to the production director. Apart from keeping enough living expenses and pocket money, all the wages he earns every month are sent home to subsidize his family. Let's talk about his wife Zhao Zhihua who stayed at home. The burden on her shoulders is not easy. Every morning before dawn, she gets up and starts cooking breakfast. Take good care of two children and parents-in-law. After breakfast, they will send their two children to the primary school in the town by battery car. After returning home, I began to clean up the housework non-stop. There is a sow and two shelf pigs at home. The piglets born by sows were sold after the full moon, leaving only two piglets to feed themselves. Every year in the twelfth lunar month, when the Chinese New Year is coming, Li Guozhu will kill the Chinese New Year pig as soon as he comes back, and the family will get together and celebrate the Chinese New Year happily. In addition, there are more than two acres of farmland at home. Since there was no male labor at home, Zhao Zhihua planted rape without much labor. When rapeseed is harvested in one season, 50 or 60 Jin of vegetable oil can be squeezed out, which is enough for their family to eat for a year. Feed the pigs with the rapeseed cake left over from oil pressing, which is smooth and full. In the evening, after giving the two children a bath and cleaning up all the housework, the couple video chat, which is the happiest time of their day. In recent years, e-commerce has become popular in rural areas, and Zhao Zhihua, who likes to ponder, also aims at this rare business opportunity. She led several younger sisters who are also full-time mothers to sell the original ecological bamboo shoots, wild mushrooms, pecans and other mountain products in her hometown to many big cities through the Internet.
Next, let's talk about some things that left-behind mothers are not proud of. Some time ago, there was a jingle circulating on the internet: mowing the grass is at noon, and my mother is very hard. Playing mahjong every day, no one cooks lunch. Instant noodles, clothes don't mend. How much did you lose? 250 a day. There are indeed some left-behind women who dress themselves up with the hard-earned money earned by their men working outside the home, doing nothing all day and indulging in mahjong tables. What's more, he hooked up with some idle people in the village and did something indecent. There is such a family in our village. Men work outside and women stay at home. Women who stay at home rush to the mahjong room in town after breakfast every morning and sit for a whole day. Playing mahjong during the day, singing and drinking with a group of social prodigals in the town at night, getting drunk. Once I went out, because I was in a hurry, the fire in the kitchen was not completely extinguished, and my house was burned down. A woman ran into a big disaster because she was ashamed to see her man and ran away with her lover in town. A good family, because of the woman's freewheeling, ended in such a bleak way.
Fortunately, now in rural areas, special activities to crack down on gambling have also begun. I believe that in the near future, the social atmosphere in rural areas will be fundamentally improved.
In fact, the daily life of more left-behind women is boring. They also want to go out to work with their husbands, but they must stay at home to take care of the elderly and children on both sides.
Washing these chores seems easy, and they are repeated without interruption every day.
There are basically no recreational activities in the daily life of left-behind women in rural areas. What I can do occasionally is for my sisters to get together and play mahjong. Now, in order to enrich their lives, they will also learn some simple square dances. Every night, everyone gets together to dance square dance, which not only exercises the body, but also relieves the depression of long-term separation. I come from the countryside and am very familiar with the stories of my parents in the countryside. Because farmers don't make money farming, rural young men go out to work, some with their daughters-in-law, some at home with their daughters-in-law, and their husbands go out to work alone. This has led to a group of rural left-behind women. Without husbands, what are they doing all day? Next, I will tell the true story of two rural left-behind mothers and see what the left-behind mothers are doing.
There is a mother surnamed He in the village. She is 30 years old and gave birth to a son and a daughter. The boss is a daughter. She is five years old and the youngest is a son. She is two years old. Her in-laws are all over 60 years old. After her husband went out to work, Mama He shouldered the burden of life with her weak shoulders.
During her husband's absence, Mother He got up early and took care of her two children carefully. She has been busy since she got up in the morning, and can't drag her tired body to rest on the kang until the dead of night when both children are asleep. The burden of life made her almost breathless.
Although his mother's in-laws are over 60 years old, the two old people are still in good health. The two old people have taken care of three acres of apple trees, and the work of taking care of the apple trees in the field is entirely borne by the grandmother. At dawn, the in-laws got up early, simply drank a cup of boiled water, chewed a few dried buns, went to work in the fields and began to get busy in the orchard.
Fertilization, pruning, pruning, flower arrangement and bagging are needed in spring, weeding, spraying and fruit arrangement are needed in summer, and bagging, fruit collection, packaging and sales are needed in autumn. In-laws spend the whole year in the orchard, and the hardships of life can be imagined. But the two old people and their daughter-in-law understand each other and are indifferent to each other, leading a hard and fulfilling life.
Mother He is mainly responsible for logistics support, but also takes two children to ensure three meals a day for the whole family. After getting up in the morning, before the children got up, she quickly made a fire to cook. When the two children woke up, Mama He's breakfast was ready, and she had to carry her son and drag her daughter to deliver meals to her in-laws. Every day, every month and every year, she is as busy as a typhoon.
The 30-year-old mother He is at her peak. Although she is very busy and hard, her physical needs are very strong. She wants her husband to be stupid, and she wants her husband to be crazy. She dreams of sleeping in her husband's warm and generous arms, but this is not reality. This is just a dream, something that can be desired but not desired.
Whenever two children fall asleep in the dead of night, Mom He wants to video chat with her husband who is thousands of miles away. Speaking of the sad place, mother He couldn't help rolling down her tears. Life is too hard for He Ma, but she knows that it is even more difficult for her husband to leave home. The two young people consciously resolved their resentment through mutual calmness and mutual understanding.
Although life is very hard, when her husband brought 70,000 to 80,000 yuan in cash at the end of the year, plus 30,000 to 40,000 yuan in the apple orchard, the annual economic income exceeded100,000. Mom, he thinks her hard work and hard work are worth it. The next year, she supported her husband to go out to work, relieved the burden on the family and began a hard farming life.
There is a mother Wang in the village. She is twenty-seven or twenty-eight. She is young, beautiful, romantic and bad-tempered. She hasn't been married long and can't get together with her in-laws. She quarreled at both ends for three days, and her in-laws separated in a rage. It is not easy to live alone. Because of the difficulties in life, my husband had to go out to work.
Mother Wang gave birth to a son, who is only six years old this year and has just entered the first grade of primary school. Because the school is five miles away from home and the children are too young to walk, mother Wang rented a bungalow near the school to accompany her children to study, and she also wanted to accompany her children to study. Several acres of fertile land at home have been planted by others.
Mother Wang, neither farming nor farming, only cooks three meals for her children every day. She leads a relatively leisurely life. She dresses up beautifully all day. Once she is dressed up, she looks even more beautiful. Mother Wang has become a great beauty in men's eyes. In her place of residence, malicious men often come to date.
Mother Wang is young and beautiful. At the age of 27 or 28, she is at the peak of her physiological needs. How can she resist the "interest concern" of men? Not long after, mother Wang fell in love with a business owner in a neighboring village. Mother Wang and the boss obviously went out in pairs and even spent the night together.
With the support of the rich boss, Ms. Wang, who loves money very much and likes dressing up very much, has a particularly moist life. She dresses her with high-end cosmetics and clothes. Over time, Ms. Wang almost forgot her husband who went out to work.
It turns out that this boss is a divorced single man. The boss has a crush on the Queen Mother and wants to marry her. She wants to live a good life with mother Wang. Mother Wang has become accustomed to the life of the rich, realized the taste of being a rich woman, and bred the idea of divorcing her husband, and this idea is getting stronger and stronger.
Finally, my husband came back at the end of the year and felt that his wife was indifferent and didn't understand him. The husband realized that his wife had changed her mind. Maybe she's not at home, and a third party is involved. Under the repeated coercion of her husband, mother Wang told the truth and asked to leave home and divorce her husband. In the case of necessity, her husband and wife went through the divorce procedure, and she enjoyed life with her boss.
Mothers left behind in rural areas are generally young and in their prime. I separated from my husband because of the pressure of life. Some of them can endure the hardships of life, while others can't. Especially because of their physiological needs, they did many incredible things, which led to the end of their marriage and the breakdown of their families.
The author believes that it is best for a husband to take his wife with him when he goes out to work. On the one hand, they have a concern, on the other hand, they are emotionally entrusted and physically satisfied. Don't let the young mother stay in the countryside. Young mothers who stay in the countryside can't bear it and will be jealous.