Others say that happiness means that cats eat fish, dogs eat meat, and Altman beats small monsters.
So what is happiness? Different people have different opinions.
In terms of marriage, it has been a match between the old and the young since ancient times. As far away as Confucius and Sun Yat-sen, as close as Yu.
Let's not talk about Confucius and Sun Yat-sen for the moment. Let's talk about Yang Zhenning. When he is 82, he wants to marry Weng Fan, 28. Although he has been recognized and blessed by many people in the society, the age gap between them still worries many people.
One is a Nobel Prize winner in physics, and the other is a master student. There are so many things in their combination that the world can't understand. But getting married is your own business. Up to now, people are still beautiful and happy, and even become a much-told story.
I have to say: happiness is to raise your own heart, not others' eyes.
Just like Aunt Lin in The Sea of Life, an excellent and beautiful doctor finally chose to marry a madman who had been a spy and was expelled from the army.
And this madman is the hero of this book-Colonel, a legend. In the book, the colonel is portrayed as a near-perfect person for a year. He is handsome, capable, brave and humorous.
The novel tells the life of a legendary figure based on what the first person "I" saw and heard. This legend has two names, one is called "eunuch" and the other is called "colonel".
The "colonel" who was originally a carpenter was arrested as a soldier under the torrent of the times. As an excellent soldier, he was arrested and became a spy. Later, he became a famous military doctor, saving lives on the battlefield, but because he was handsome and capable, he attracted inexplicable rape. All the great achievements before were erased and expelled from the army. If you are expelled, you can be expelled. You are a good cook, and you can get along well even when you return to China. Life is not a problem. But in the Cultural Revolution, I focused on being a spy. Turns out to be crazy. This is the first half of his legend.
In the second half of his legend, it was because a beautiful young girl found him after his madness and insisted on marrying him. She not only supported her elderly mother, but also took good care of him for the rest of her life.
Happiness, in the cognition of his wife Aunt Lin, raises his own heart, not others' eyes.
Mai Jia, the author of The Sea of Life, is the winner of Mao Dun Literature Prize. 1964 was born in Jiangjiamen Village, Dabo Town, Fuyang City, Zhejiang Province. He graduated from the Art College of the People's Liberation Army, is a famous novelist and screenwriter in China, a member of the Presidium of the Chinese Writers Association, and the father of China spy war station novels. His parents are both farmers. When Mai was a child, his political status was relatively low. His grandfather was a Christian, his grandfather was a landlord, and his father was a "Rightist" and a counter-revolutionary. A few black hats at home made Mai's family discriminated against by others since childhood. No one wants to make friends with him, even the teacher who is a model insults him. When there was no effective communication in childhood and he was bullied, Mai Jia kept a diary of his inner fears, which made him later.
Representative works include Decryption, Assassination and Wind, among which the spy war work Wind, based on his novel, was made into a film starring Li Bingbing, Zhou Xun, Huang Xiaoming and other first-class stars, which became the first work of the contemporary spy war film frenzy and had great influence.
Happiness has different definitions in different times.
In today's digital rhythm society, everything pursues speed, even those things that come unhappy, such as love, pursue speed, just like lightning, which comes quickly and goes quickly.
So there is the saying "flash marriage", in fact, this flash marriage is really just right. Special image, in the past, marriage had to go through at least several procedures, such as blind date, engagement and marriage (marriage), which took at least six months and eight months. But now some people get married after meeting each other for a few days, just like lightning.
There are flash marriages and flash marriages. After a few months of marriage, it is also a euphemism. This is called timely stop loss.
Love in the sixties and seventies, parents' agreement, matchmaker's words. Naturally, you have to go through blind date and engagement before you can get married. I don't know how much work to do if I meet any parents who have opinions. Before the parents agree, the two sides can't even meet.
How serious and solemn this is. Even after marriage, I never talk about love. It's always so subtle and long.
Love at that time never said "I love you". Love is too traditional and too sad. If you fall in love with someone, you will be persistent, even persistent. The women who grew up in Qiong Yao's and Sanmao's novels are representatives of that era.
I have never said "I love you", but I have never done anything that doesn't love you. In sharp contrast to saying I love you every day now.
Love in the sixties and seventies is different from modern love, and the definition of happiness is also different.
Earlier, what was love like in the early years of the Republic of China?
At the end of the Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the Republic of China, the status of women was still very low, and marriage was not free, even deceptive. In the ocean of life, the mother of the little blind man is such a representative.
On the wedding night, the groom was changed without knowing it. Later, when he learned the truth, he couldn't change it. He had to leave after giving birth to the little blind man. Growing up in a family without maternal love and affection, the little blind man will inevitably have personality defects and unsound personality. As a result, he became the greatest contributor to Commander Hu's interrogation of the colonel, thus laying a curse.
In the sixties and seventies, love and happiness were the fate of parents and the words of matchmakers. Then fall in love and grow old together. In modern society, happiness is a ceremonial sentence: I love you. Happiness has different definitions in different times.
Happiness has the same definition in different times.
In the Sea of Life, my first marriage, my ex-wife was a good girl, and she lost her body because of life. After marriage, in order to stay away from those gossip, in order to make "I" clean and decent. I closed the shop and moved to a brand-new place, but I had no choice but to buy a car with faulty brakes, and finally let that broken car take the lives of myself and my children. This act of thinking for the other half wholeheartedly was interpreted as love at that time.
At that time, my feeling was that I wanted to go with my ex-wife, but my ex-wife's last words made me give up this idea. My ex-wife wants me to have a good life. I survived, and then I was happy. For the sake of the dead, courage and living well is another explanation of love.
With the courage to live, we can remarry later and have happiness later.
The love story of "I" in the book is similar to that of Lin Sheng, the protagonist of Hangzhou nanny arson case three years ago.
One day on 20 17, a well-known nanny arson case in Hangzhou left only one person alive in Lin Sheng's family of five.
It has been more than three years since the appalling arson. Three years ago, he was immersed in memories. Now, his life is full of gratitude and peace, just like a knight after the king returns. Go ahead and live a good life. More for those who have passed away.
Although he hasn't remarried, he will be happy in the future. He has the courage to live and the ability to get happiness. As the book says: love is an ability like physical strength.
Similarly, one occurred in the sixties and seventies and the other occurred in modern times. Different protagonists have the same experience and made the same choice: to live bravely for the dead.
Just as the book says: Life is a sea, it is not courage to dare to die, but it takes courage to live. Happiness in these two eras is defined as a kind of heroism: that is, to love life after recognizing the truth of life. I have to say that it is a sublimation of the concept of happiness.
Free and transparent love is another realm of happiness.
The bravest person in the book is Aunt Lin. Although the legendary colonel is a madman, she resolutely married him, and they have been taking care of each other for decades. After the colonel left, Aunt Lin cleaned up the colonel and put on new clothes. After everything was arranged, she lay beside him and accompanied him with dignity.
When she was a military doctor, she did not die in such a difficult situation, but accompanied the colonel quietly when he left. It takes a lot of courage to live when you are alive and die when you are dead.
I think at the beginning, Aunt Lin was a good girl who married a madman, but she also needed to take care of the colonel's elderly mother and provide for her old age. After that, she had to accompany the colonel's old children every day. This courage to accept life, this final decision to live and die, is the best interpretation of carefree and transparent.
Although Aunt Lin went to the underworld through medical means, she must have been satisfied and happy when she went. Yes, no worries.
Among the five abilities of love, the last one is the ability to influence: be yourself and the other person will become better. Obviously, Aunt Lin has this ability. After marrying Aunt Lin, the colonel's situation became better and better, from doing nothing to becoming an expert in sericulture.
In the love between the colonel and Aunt Lin, happiness is actually very simple. Is to miss his old smile. It was such a simple sentence and an idea that she resolutely married that crazy colonel. Aunt Lin loves detachment, carefree and transparent.
In his cognition, happiness is a loving heart. As long as she loves him, that's enough. It has nothing to do with him.
Yang Zhenning said that Weng Fan was the best gift from God. From this, we can easily see that their marriage relationship is harmonious and happy.
Sun Yat-sen and Soong Ching Ling, people always think that this is a political marriage. Actually, it's not. The age gap of 27 years old can be seen. Soong Ching Ling admired Sun Yat-sen in those days. For such a combination, Soong Ching Ling resolutely married Sun Yat-sen regardless of family opposition. They haven't been together for a long time, but they are enough to leave a story in the world.
Taiwan Province writer Li Ao is very popular with women. Married and divorced with Hu Yinmeng, familiar with Brigitte Lin and Faye Wong. His wife, Wang Xiaotun, is many years younger than him, but they are happily married and have two children. A man and a woman. Happiness is self-evident and enviable.
All the examples point to: no matter how old you are, no matter what your state is, I love you. You love yourself, regardless of your age or appearance.
Loving you is a sincere heart. True love for you is happiness. If you have the ability to love, you can be happy forever. No matter what the outside world says.
Because marriage wears shoes and touches feet; Happiness is to raise your own heart, not others' eyes.