Loving children is the instinct of parents. It does not require teaching or thinking. It is a natural power.
But it is such a deep love that makes parents grasp and control their children's "growth, learning, and life" closely, for fear that if they let go of any aspect, their children will fall behind. The road to education is long. There are some truths that teachers will not tell their children, but as a parent, you must teach them to your children!
1. Don’t help three things
1. Don’t help if you want to protect
The relationship between children is very simple, and they have the tendency to “obsess” Friendship, special emphasis on sharing blessings and sufferings, even lying about getting into trouble will be blamed.
A friend took his son back to his hometown to visit relatives happily, but he returned home depressed. It turns out that Lele made several friends and lived happily every day with those children. But one night, several children set off fireworks together and ignited a small pile of hay stored far away from the village. It was firewood used by others for cooking. The friend was so angry that he beat Lele violently.
After beating the child, he asked who set off the fireworks. Lele said nothing and kept shouting, "If you tell me, you will no longer be friends," which made your friend very angry. A friend who protects his friends without being punished or harmed is indeed considered a true friend, but when dealing with others, someone must take responsibility for making mistakes. If you know your mistakes and can correct them, there is no greater good. If you really want to do good to a person, you cannot allow him to make mistakes.
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2. Is it helpful to copy the homework?
“Hey, hurry up and finish the homework Copy it for me, the teacher is here to collect it.", "How do you do this question, give me a quick look.", "I have to go to a cram school today, can you help me finish this paper?" These are similar to writing As for homework, are you familiar with it?
Today's students are under great pressure to study. In addition to homework at school, they also have homework assigned by teachers of various subjects when they return home. Sometimes because there is too much homework, the children do not finish it in time. In order to avoid punishment from the teacher, the children will choose to copy the homework.
Homework is the best way to consolidate the knowledge you learn every day, and it is also the best choice for checking for gaps in your studies. If you choose to copy homework, you may miss important knowledge points, which is not helpful for learning.
Teachers teach, teach, and resolve doubts. Children can ask the teacher for help if their homework is not done well. After all, this is their job. If you cannot complete the task, you can also explain the details to the teacher, and I believe the teacher will handle it as appropriate. Moreover, copying homework will also make people develop a habit of dependence and make them lazier in their studies. This will not improve their performance, but will only hinder them.
3. Does fighting help?
Every three to five days there will be news about "school violence" and "school bullying" in the news. Every time I read it, It hurts every time.
Parents send their children to school to learn how to behave and learn culture, not to become executioners who hurt others. We do not prevent our children from making friends, but we hope to expand their circle of friends and enrich their spare time life. But looking at the cliques and isolated classmates on campus today, we have to examine, what kind of friends do children make?
As students, children can help their classmates with tutoring after class or clean up, but they cannot help in group fights or bully weaker classmates. School is a youthful paradise of knowledge, where children should absorb the fragrance of books and ink, and reject hostility and violence.
2. Don’t offend the three tempers
1. Don’t offend.
My friend’s son Lele is a typical stubborn child. Every time he goes out, Lele always cannot move his legs when he sees toys, especially Transformers. Even though we already have one at home, we still have to ask our parents to buy it again. My friend is very helpless about this!
"I have scolded and beaten, but the child is determined to buy it. If you don't obey him, he keeps crying, which is annoying to death. I don't know where this stubbornness comes from. "Presumably this is also a problem that many parents often face, but many times, parents just summarize this phenomenon as "the child is young and ignorant" and do not face the seriousness of the problem.
Children have a stubborn temper and always contradict their parents, which means they have developed self-awareness and the ability to think. At this time, if parents blindly indulge and cannot patiently correct their unreasonable behavior, it will breed the rough growth of their character and thoughts. For example, they must do what they believe in and get what they believe in. Stubbornness, only accepting dead facts, and being unable to learn to adapt and adapt will not be of any benefit to future study or even future work.
2. Don’t be spoiled
I was on the bus a few days ago, and something happened on the bus that I still remember freshly.
It was the rush hour that night, and the bus was very crowded. During this period, the mother and daughter came up. After a while, the little girl, who was about 7 to 8 years old, shouted: "I don't like people who are too busy." "More, it's so crowded here." After saying that, I burst into tears. The girl's mother hurriedly coaxed: "It's after get off work time. There are too many people. I can't help it. Just wait until I get off the bus!" The girl refused and continued to cry: "I want to get off the bus." The mother, who was helpless to her daughter, still took her to the next stop. He got out of the car with his daughter.
People say that children’s words are unbridled, just listen to them, but I don’t think so. Nowadays, the economic level is relatively high, and the family only has one or two children, and the children are very pampered. But in exchange for such love and care, the children are more pampered than the other. They will complain that they are tired after taking only two steps outside, help their mother sweep the floor before running out, and complain that they smell dirty when they encounter dirty places... This kind of thing cannot be tolerated. My child, what do you expect from him when he grows up?
You know, it is okay for a child to be spoiled before the age of three, but after this age, spoiledness will turn into overbearing, unreasonable, and selfish. Moreover, when facing setbacks and difficulties in life, he only thinks about escaping and asking his parents to help him solve the difficulties. He is a lazy person who only knows how to enjoy but not pay.
3. Don’t be stingy
We often say that sharing is a virtue. Children who know how to share are a sign of kindness. But in the eyes of some parents, children are smart only if they are stingy and will not suffer a disadvantage. Sometimes, it is understandable for children to be a little clever, but if they are too shrewd and do not miss a penny, it will become a calculation.
For children, sharing is a kind of joy, a kind of wisdom, and a kind of friendship glue. With it, life will be warmer, thoughts will be broader, and friendships will be stronger. A child who only knows how to make small calculations will not experience the joy of being kind to others, and will not understand the enrichment of sharing. He will only have a narrow personality and a vision that is difficult to broaden.
There is an old saying that goes like this: "If you give up a little, you will get a small gain; if you give up a lot, you will get a big gain. If you give up, you will get something, but if you don't give it up, you will get something!" There is no freeloading of good things in this world. If you want to gain something, you must You must first learn to let go.
3. Don’t make three friends
1. People who make trouble out of nothing
Make trouble out of nothing. This type of people likes to spread rumors and sow discord. When they are in a good mood, they will chat with them; when things go wrong, they will reveal a few things that embarrass you, and then add fuel and jealousy, causing things to develop in a very bad direction. .
These people are usually heartless and have no problem spreading rumors in front of anyone. Gossip is the most hurtful thing, hurting individuals, children and families. Remember, the other side of much trouble is meanness, selfishness, and doing whatever you want, and these things are engraved in your bones and flow into your blood. If there are such people around your children, try to stay away from them. I believe not many people will want to stay with them.
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2. Duplicitous people
There is a kind of person who usually likes to point fingers at others and is dissatisfied with all kinds of things. He wants to make you wear small shoes every day, but once you give him some small favors, he will Start to change my attitude towards you and treat you twice as well. This kind of person has no principles of his own. It is very likely that when others give him some petty profits, he will choose to betray his friends and family.
Don't be nice to this kind of person, he will stab you in the back if you are not careful. Most of these people who are easily bribed have short-sightedness and only know how to pay attention to some small interests in front of them. They do not think about problems in the long term. Their villainous appearance will only make people feel off-putting.
3. People who bully the weak
I don’t know since when, the friendship between gentlemen has become a joke. I don’t want my children to become those who dislike the poor and love the rich. Man, I don’t want my children to lose their most basic morals because of money. Tell your children that if there is such a person around you, you must stay away from him. The sooner the better!
Good parents are learned, and good children are taught. There are no children who cannot teach well, only parents who cannot teach. The road to education is long. Don’t think about it overnight. Stay patient and have confidence. Your children will eventually achieve success.