On the contrary, without these qualities, people will lose the goodwill of others and even dare not associate with them. Some people subjectively want to make life more colorful through friendly communication with others, but the result is always counterproductive, as if others are always estranged from him.
The quality of friendship depends on subjective, objective and situational factors. The general reasons for losing friends are as follows.
(1) hurts others' self-esteem.
Women's looks, talents, family and work advantages can promote others to get close to you, and everyone seems to have these advantages with you. This may give your circle of friends a faint sense of superiority.
But be careful, once this sense of superiority is out of control and becomes a capital to show off in front of friends, it may lose the equality and reciprocity of friendship, and it will also make you lose friends. No one wants to sell self-esteem in exchange for friendship.
(2) I don't know if there should be a proper distance between friends.
Friendship is gained by exchanging hearts for hearts. Too stingy, of course, others don't want to get close. On the other hand, if you think you gamble with an open mind and behave rudely, you will lose friends.
(3) Lack of credibility.
Some people may think that breaking a promise is a trivial matter in life, but for others, breaking a promise means destroying the work arrangement and making people's feelings teased. Therefore, dishonesty is the most destructive factor in a good relationship between people.
But friendship depends on both sides. To make your friends like you, you must have the following good qualities.
(1) Honesty and reliability.
When you meet a stranger, you will "leave half a sentence in your mouth, but it is not all in my heart". Because you instinctively want to protect yourself and worry about being "hurt", only when you feel that the other person is reliable, will you be sympathetic. People treat you the same way. Only when you know that you won't betray him for your own benefit, and you won't break your word, will you be regarded as a good friend.
(b) reasonable.
An unreasonable woman has two qualities. First, I am too self-centered, unwilling to understand and sympathize with others, and only put my personal feelings first. The second is self-indulgence in behavior. People who are reasonable and considerate often have many friends.
(c) Integrity without hypocrisy.
Whether a woman's personality is strong or weak does not affect making friends. But everyone hates hypocrisy. Hypocrisy always opens half a window for others. Whoever tells him the truth will feel cheated afterwards.
(d) Optimism without inferiority.
Women with low self-esteem should learn to look at things and their own methods with a "wide-angle lens" from confident friends, because too low self-esteem will make the other person lose the happy atmosphere of making friends, and no one wants to be with you endlessly.
Optimistic people always bring spring to their circle of friends, and optimism itself is psychological support for people. In real life, people who have more friends than ordinary people are optimistic. And depressed women often make it difficult for others to get close.
Women who like to make friends should pay attention to overcoming some bad personalities. I would rather say "I can't do it" to my friends than lie. I would rather be indifferent than hypocritical. I'd rather be clumsy than pretend. Be casual, not harsh. Some shortcomings of people do not affect friendship, while others are difficult to be accepted in interpersonal relationships, so we should always reflect on ourselves.