1. Everyone has their own way to go, and it is normal life to stop walking together. Hayao Miyazaki said that life is a train to the grave. There will be many stations on the road. Some people will come and some people will leave. Even if you don’t give up, you must learn to wave goodbye. It is true that many friends in our lives can only be with us for a short period of time and then leave when the time is up. It was difficult to have one person with us from start to finish, so we were lucky with everything we had. 2.

Being separated is normal life. Different life experiences will produce three different perspectives and pursuits. As time goes by, the distance will become out of reach. In "The First Half of My Life", Tang Jing and Zijun have two completely different life trajectories. Tang Jing worked hard in the working environment in the first half of his life and met his lover in the second half of his life, so he returned to his family and became a full-time wife. Zijun's love was his top priority in the first half of his life. When he met a man who was willing to raise her, he innocently got married. It wasn't until he was betrayed by the other party in his thirties that he finally woke up. Therefore, he returned to the workplace and completed the transition from a stay-at-home wife to a female workplace. 3.

Different life experiences will produce different life trajectories. When the gap widens and a common language becomes less common, the relationship essentially ends. So in the end Tang Jing and his lover immigrated to Australia, and Zijun felt that Tang Jing had completely disappeared. The better the relationship, the greater the hope. This is much more fragile than it usually feels. The better the relationship, the easier it is to get separated because the initial hope is too great, but the bigger the hope, the easier it is to be disappointed, so the damage is doubled compared with ordinary friends. If you are just ordinary friends and encounter a little disagreement or contradiction, they may choose to be tolerant out of common interests and the overall situation.

4. If they are friends with a good relationship, they may care too much about each other and cannot tolerate each other, leading to an irreversible situation. It’s not that I feel vulnerable, but because I care too much, I have too much hope, which leads to a greater psychological gap. Once you see the other person's true face and person, you can no longer cover your ears and continue to get along. The better the relationship between the two, the less sand will be rubbed in the eye, but if there is a little bit of sourness, it will eventually end. When we are young, we feel that friends are so important that it seems impossible to continue living without them.

But when you live to a certain age, you will find that what you gain is luck and what you lose is normal. 5. In the final analysis, life depends on yourself, no one will be with you, just like Zijun’s friend Zhang Yunxin said in the original work of My First Half of Life: Population mobility is very high, and no one can accompany you throughout your life. If you are interested in training yourself as soon as possible, you can also arrange flowers and raise fish when you are old. I hope that in the future, we can all learn to be friends with ourselves, to smile at the sudden changes in life, to separate from joy and sadness, and to be as clear and transparent as possible.