Being calm means not only the superficial actions, but also the heart and thoughts. Secondly, human beings are the most complex animals. Observation must not be simplistic, but must be patient, meticulous, and thorough. After considerable time, Time, occasion for all sorts of different things. ...The problem is not to find a partner with no faults, but to find a partner who can recognize and admit their shortcomings, is willing to gradually change them, and can tolerate each other at the same time.
In short, nothing should be rushed. The more important the matter, the more calm and serene the attitude, long-term consideration, careful observation, and strive to be objective! It is easy to feel helpless when feelings reach the peak. The peak of anything ( (or climax) can only last for a short period of time. It is difficult to maintain a long-term friendship that will be renewed over time. In addition to their advantages and disadvantages, it is also an important factor that the two people have similar personalities and temperaments. The difference between hardness and softness must be able to adapt to each other. The so-called ability to withstand the test refers to many tangible criticisms and self-criticisms (the reactions to other people’s every move are invisible criticisms)
According to my experience: elegance and magnanimity often come with Congenital and acquired transformation can rarely raise a low level to a high level. Therefore, during a relationship, you should pay attention to whether the other person has something better than yourself, which can help me progress in the future, instead of causing me to retreat.
During the period of making friends, try to give as few gifts as possible and spend as little money as possible. On the one hand, it shows that your concept of love has little to do with material relationships; on the other hand, it also tests the other person.
The requirements for a lifelong partner, just like the requirements for everything in life, should not be too harsh. I think the most important thing is intrinsic kindness, gentle nature, and broad mind.
Although it is dangerous for the other party to regard you as her whole world, it is also very valuable! Once you realize it, you will surely wake her up slowly. It is best to make subtle innuendo instead of bringing it up directly, and make her feel that It is to maintain her personality independence and expand her world view.
Regardless of men or women, only by focusing their interests on career, learning, and art, and trying to put aside their small self, can they be happy and feel the meaning of life.
It can be seen that only calm, reserved and gentle feelings can last. Another meaning is that the couple will become a relationship of close friends in the end, which is what we call lifelong partners. Before getting married, If both parties can deeply understand this, they will lay the most reliable foundation for the future and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and pain.
People are insignificant in the universe and cannot help themselves. However, to others, they are mysterious and unique. Therefore, it is quite difficult to understand a person thoroughly. In addition, race, religion , cultural and political background differences, it is even more difficult. Only when couples have complete understanding, wholehearted tolerance, constant tolerance, sincere and unswerving feelings, consistent views on life, and the same lofty ideals and beliefs can they safely survive the journey of life. Storms, big and small, may be the harmonious life partner of Qin and Se.
Only when artists of different races can instill some new blood into it without damaging the integrity of a special art, can the world's culture become richer, more complete, and more It becomes more and more brilliant.
People need to think outside themselves from time to time in order to have new feelings, new perspectives, and more correct self-criticism.
At the same time, I also think that it may be harmful for performers to be too immersed in music and overwork. The pursuit of perfection is too strong and too clear, which can cause tension and fatigue. On the contrary, it undermines the original results. Maybe less work and more meditation. You might as well go for a walk in the suburban forest, or go to the museum to appreciate famous paintings, and seek tranquility and leisure from the plastic arts.
Friends’ help, care and love for us does not necessarily need to be repaid with material things, but often requires writing a letter to make them happy and feel that life is full of warmth. First as a person, then as an artist, then as a musician, and finally as a pianist.
But if the artist is the most beautiful flower, life is just flowers and trees. The material side of life is not necessarily secondary and less interesting than the spiritual side, especially for an artist.
Paying attention to social problems and hardships in the world, and grieving for the ugly things in human society is an upright behavior. Therefore, as a sensitive young person, he feels indignant at the injustice and misery of human destiny. It is natural, but it is not advisable to be depressed because of it, it is unnecessary.
I think Dunhuang murals represent the authentic spirit of Chinese painting. Except for the obvious influence of Indian art, those paintings depicting fragments of daily life are indeed extraordinary, with originality in creation and meticulous observation. The techniques are bold and refined, and these paintings were created by generations of unknown painters
I often chat with my mother, and express various thoughts on various issues in life and art, which often makes me unknowingly In order to sort out the self-interested thoughts, from this point of view alone, your mother was indeed of great help, although it was not her initiative. It can be seen that much of the mutual help of lifelong partners is completely unconscious
I believe that if Christian ideas had not dominated the two nations for thirteen or four hundred years, the mental state of modern Europeans would never be so complicated. This situation, even if it is complicated, will be of another nature. The concept of life and death in our minds has never been the extremely irritable expectation and pursuit of admiring heaven, nor has there been the terrifying worry about falling into hell forever, so our accidental injury It is just out of biological instinct, rather than a heated mind creating many blissful and terrifying things to seduce oneself and intimidate oneself on the other.
Most of the Chinese nation has a peaceful, indifferent and simple temperament, and is easier to be satisfied than Westerners. Our nation originally advocates wisdom, and the Chinese people's ideal is to pursue wisdom rather than pursue faith.
He also has a strong sense of principle in helping others. Even if he is a close friend, he will not accommodate any improper purpose. If someone is really in trouble and the purpose is legitimate, even a complete stranger will still be willing to help him. .
I don’t compete with others for profit, but I also don’t want to be exploited by others. When encountering this situation, I have to fight. This is where I differ from you, but you also know that I still fight for the same reason. , not for money, they are fighting for a breath, not for profit.
I know that the gap between the East and the West can only be realized by heroic people, a very small number of people with novel insights, keen and profound feelings. The wisdom/philosophy/detachment of the East must be comparable to that of the West. Energy/enthusiasm/fearlessness merge and humanity may see another new culture emerge.
It is really a strange animal. When it is civilized, it can be so civilized and talk about mysteries and reasoning so noble. When it is barbaric, it is no different from wild beasts, and even more cruel.
Maintain a structured routine at home and keep everything organized. You are still young and it is difficult to put these things into practice and stick to them. It can be seen that developing good habits and strengthening willpower is always a good thing. Over time, it will The benefits are endless.