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Is it really a problem not to make friends with your boyfriend's friends?
I believe that in our daily social activities, we all feel the same way about the phrase "Birds of a feather flock together, birds of a feather flock together". As girlfriends, not to mention, as an amiable person who has no initiative or malice towards the world, when meeting a boyfriend's good friend, we must have kept a heart eager to make friends successfully, in order to make a good impression for the great integration of the world. So when you find that you do your best, but you just can't get along with his friends, or those points that you can't get along with have been reflected on your boyfriend, you have gradually begun to suspect that you don't like his friends, and he and his friends are "in droves". Does this mean that you don't like your boyfriend? If you can't successfully break into your boyfriend's circle of friends, have you been sentenced to death because of your relationship?

However, my first point is that making friends depends on fate. First of all, I am not a smooth person. I should say that I have a bottom line for any situation I am in. As an employee of the boss, as a child of parents, as a friend, as a girlfriend, I have my own bottom line. So what's the bottom line? This is my interest. No relationship can make me lose my interests. Any relationship that makes me lose interest is a threat to me and needs mediation. People can't be friends with anyone, let alone be good friends. It is really fate to be good friends. Maybe I confirmed at a glance that you want to be my friend. Maybe I didn't like you at first, but after a period of observation, I found that we actually hit it off. And we can't hit it off with some people and become friends. There are also reasons to be found. Maybe the other person did something that offended you, or maybe the other person could never talk to you, so you secretly ruled out the possibility of being friends. All this happened naturally. Then, if a friend is a boyfriend's friend, it is inevitable that some girls will be eager to get along with her boyfriend's friend successfully, which will not make the intimate relationship smooth, and there will always be one less worry. But when you try to get along and fail?

Seriously, it's not because you did anything bad that you failed to get along. Don't blame yourself, and don't take all the responsibility on yourself. Making friends is really a two-sided thing. Not only do you have to be a likable person, but the friends you make also have to be a likable person. When you try to be a likable person, and the other person doesn't, there is nothing you can do. After all, making friends does not depend on your unilateral hard work, and your grades will look good. But not being friends with your boyfriend's friends may indeed bring some changes to your feelings, but these changes are not harmful. At this time, the first thing we have to do is to think about where your bottom line is in this situation. Your bottom line is that you can try again, or it doesn't matter if you don't try again, but you can accept meeting them, or you don't want to try again at all. The only thing you want to do is not to see them in your life. When you have a bottom line in your heart, you should also have a plan. Of course, after all, your boyfriend will be the third person caught in the middle. Whatever decision you make, you need to tell him.

Then my second point is that people can live with diseases. Of course, you are right to live healthy. What does it mean that people can live in a relationship with illness? It means that in a relationship, when we encounter problems, not every problem can be solved perfectly. When this problem is controllable and has little impact, we can ignore the imperfection of the solution. So not being able to make friends with your boyfriend's friends will not be a big problem in your relationship. The question is how are you going to solve it and how to change it. When you define your bottom line, you can work out the solution you want to achieve through your bottom line. The more specific the solution, the better. For example, if you want him to spend less time with these friends, you have to give examples to explain why, what is good for him and what is good for your feelings. Of course, when we discuss the plan with our boyfriend, we have to accept the man's bargaining and rejection, so when negotiating, you can make concessions where you think you can, and you will never compromise where you are completely unacceptable. Basically, among the couples I know, from the beginning, both sides indicated that they had their own circles, did not participate in each other, or were dissatisfied with one of their friends. Finally, they all have their own coping methods, and they still love each other as before. If the man can tolerate you, then you can be healthy and happy, but when the man can't fully tolerate you, you can continue to live a happy life with illness through a relatively perfect plan.

You also want your boyfriend to be close to your friends, just as he wants you to be close to his friends. Imagine that if your boyfriend and your friend can't get along, you won't give up a relationship because of this. Everyone always hopes to be admitted to Peking University Tsinghua, but failure is not fatal. You can also go to other key universities with this regret. After all, this is not a fatal event, it just means that the way two people deal with other relationships together, and their social behavior may change.