First of all, the population of small counties is relatively limited and people's social circles are relatively small. Especially for people with single jobs (such as code farmers like me), it is easier to fall into the "fish tank effect" and it is difficult to get in touch with more people and opportunities. This is especially obvious for young people, who often lack opportunities to expand their social circle and make new friends. Moreover, the communication and contact between peers are often closed and limited, so it is difficult to really understand each other and establish trust and interaction.
Secondly, people in small counties often have some inherent concepts and stereotypes, such as "men should have a house and a car" and "women should be gentle and virtuous". These ideas will form some seemingly reasonable but unrealistic requirements and standards, which will make young people feel stressed and uneasy in the process of communication. Moreover, these concepts are difficult to break or change, and conservative concepts and traditional values still occupy a certain right to speak. Such an environment also limits people's communication choices and possibilities, making the process of finding objects more difficult.
In addition, the development of small counties is not conducive to young people to develop their own lives and work. Many people may choose to go to big cities or developed areas to seek development opportunities, leading to brain drain and social circle rupture. Especially for young people like me who are new to the workplace, it is often difficult to find a partner because of work pressure and other reasons. In this case, dating websites and online dating platforms have become an important channel for many young people to find objects.
Personally, I have met some people many times through blind date and online dating, but many of them failed for various reasons. I have tried to expand my social circle in both work and entertainment, but I have never found the right person. However, I think the key is to keep a positive attitude and believe that I can find the right person. At the same time, we should also participate in more social activities and parties, and expand our social circle by constantly meeting new people. The most important thing is to keep a true and frank attitude, so that your heart and thoughts can be fully expressed and recognized.
Generally speaking, it is not easy to find someone in a small county, but it is not hopeless. Only by keeping an open and positive attitude and expanding your social circle can you find the right person more easily. At the same time, we should also express our inner feelings and thoughts frankly and seek similarity and complementarity with others. In this way, I'm sure we can overcome the difficulty of finding someone and find the one we really want.