Friendship among girls

Friendship among girls. In life, friendship is a very important feeling. Everyone has his own friendship. Friendship occupies a very large part in our life, but friendship among girls is very difficult. Let's take a look at friendship among girls with me. Friendship between girls 1

1. It is difficult for women to have friendship because women are very competitive

The mood and state of showing off and comparing is actually a kind of "peacock psychology", which is a very common psychological hidden danger of modern women. People who like to keep up with the joneses always have strong self-esteem, are used to setting high goals, and always like to beat others in everything they do. However, due to the limitation of ability, when you can't achieve your goal, you will be frustrated all day. Therefore, the fuse of contradictions between women sometimes doesn't even need to be ignited. Just because one person is more successful, happy and smooth than another, it can destroy another person's quiet friendship and arouse the tide of jealousy in women's hearts. When jealousy turns into hatred one day, friendship can end safely instead of evolving into blood shed, which is lucky.

Second, it is difficult for women to have friendship, because women are very jealous.

Some women are very jealous, and as long as their best friend is suddenly better than her, she feels uncomfortable and sarcastic. My best friend is not as good as her, but she will be doubly kind to her best friend, because this kind of best friend can't pose a threat to her and will never steal her style. Everyone will have jealousy, but hiding it in your heart will only make jealousy accumulate and cause greater psychological imbalance. I still remember a very good female classmate of my second grade. Our English scores are almost the same. Basically, I am the first and she is the second. She has a lot of opinions on me and often speaks sourly. For example, she will ask me English questions on purpose, and then I will try my best to explain them to her. I don't know if she really doesn't understand or pretends not to understand, and she will say to me angrily, "Are you deliberately not letting me know, so you don't speak with your heart?" I'm really unhappy to hear her say these words. What's more, she tore up my English notebook while I was eating, and then threw it into the broom pile. If she hadn't admitted her mistake and told me later, I couldn't believe it was true. After all, we have a really good relationship.

Third, it is difficult for women to have friendship, because women have a strong vanity.

Many girlfriends have turned against each other for ridiculous reasons. Some of them just touched another sensitive nerve because of a word, a careless belittle or unpleasant words, and a so-called friendship ended in an unknown and unspeakable cause of death. Women with strong vanity often have deep psychological defects such as inferiority and guilty conscience. They always ponder over how others evaluate themselves and try their best to pursue glitz in order to seek a kind of psychological compensation. They lack true feelings, like to highlight themselves when dealing with others, and like to brag about themselves. They always brag about their looks and talents in front of their friends, how good their husbands are, how good they are to themselves, and how their children are geniuses. They even envy others and belittle others in order to raise themselves and satisfy their vanity. As a result, they cause resentment and contempt from others. Over time, no friends are willing to associate with themselves. Friendship between girls 2

Men are the untouchable bottom line

As the saying goes, "Fire prevention, theft prevention and girlfriends prevention. Therefore, we know that it is easy for girls to have a war with men, because among friends who often play together, their standards for men are basically similar, so when one of the girls is lucky enough to meet her own male god and show it off in front of her girlfriend, the girls around her will automatically distribute female hormone factors, or fan-girl posture and eyes, trying to attract her girlfriend's male god to her side. This is an unconscious behavior, because girls especially like to keep up with the joneses together, which is a manifestation of girls' vanity, especially in front of the opposite sex. If they meet a man with weak will, they will easily become cannon fodder for this war between girls. So a man with a girlfriend can't touch it. It's an iron law!

Money is the untouchable bottom line

Money is the sense of security of most girls. With money, girls can be financially independent and can buy in buy buy at will, so girls should try not to have financial entanglements. Girls especially like group activities. These consumption forms, such as AA or reciprocity, are better able to maintain the friendship between girls. Even if one of the girls is rich, it is better to be restrained, because her generous behavior may lead to other girls' inferiority complex, which may lead to resentment or jealousy. There is nothing wrong with you being rich, but it is a problem to splurge in front of girls. You can play freely in private, or you should pay attention to your words and deeds, otherwise the boat of your friendship will turn over.

True good friends, no matter how far away the time and space are, the relationship will not change. Although the friendship between girls is fragile, I hope those permanent friendships are not just casual words. I hope they will still be by your side after Qian Fan is over! Friendship between girls 3

Friendship is more difficult to establish than we thought

I watched Friends since I was a child, dreaming of having a group of good friends beside me when I grow up, and experiencing the ups and downs of life together. When I grew up, I made many friends, whether at school or at work. But as time goes by, friends come and go, but few really have a heart to heart.

This is because friendship is more difficult to establish than we thought.

Dr. John Cacioppo, a psychologist, believes that in the process of evolution, we have been shaped with the prejudice that "human beings are born not to make friends easily".

in ancient times, avoiding enemies was more important than making friends. If a person makes a mistake and regards someone who is actually a friend as an enemy, he can at least save his life, but if a person mistook the enemy for a friend, he might pay the price of his life.

A business friend shared with me that she found that the older she grew up, the more difficult it was to make friends, because you never know what the other person was thinking.

those "friends" follow you when you are in a good situation, but when your money is temporarily in trouble and your life is in a mess, they directly ask you for debts and ask for various benefits, driving you to a desperate place.

Friendship is more fragile than we think, and even the best friends will become enemies, so be careful when making friends.

If in ancient times, we didn't dare to make friends easily to save our lives. Then in modern society, friendship has become more complicated and subtle.

Women's friendship is even more difficult

From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, it seems that women are more likely to make friends of the same sex than men

In primitive society, men are responsible for hunting, while women are responsible for picking and looking after children. Because hunting often requires long-term ambush, they can't move or talk, so men have developed the habit of being silent and enduring loneliness.

In the process of picking and taking care of children, women all cooperate in groups and form the habit of loving to talk and being good at socializing.

Although women are better at communication and easier to make friends, the friendship between sisters is often accompanied by jealousy and competition.

Chizuko Ueno, a Japanese gender researcher, pointed out that girls were taught that "it is better to marry well than to do well" when they were young, and most of the topics they talked about were male-centered marriage and love. This makes it easy for women to lose their dominant position in the relationship and the relationship becomes extremely unstable.

how to deal with jealousy between female friendships?

1. Accept your emotions in the face of jealousy

We need to learn to accept jealousy, not to suppress it. The repressed jealousy is not gone, but has become an unorganized and free memory, which will hinder our relationship with others.

Recently, a friend complained to me about the troubles at work. She has a very good female partner in the company. They are equally competent and have achieved excellent results together. Recently, my partner was transferred to another department, which was especially valued by the leaders, and her development has been rising, but her work has not improved.

She began to be jealous of her partner, but she was afraid to tell her, for fear that her partner would have bad ideas for her. Over time, she began to be more and more impatient with her partner, and even shouted at her one day, and the relationship between them was about to break down.

Later, when they got to know each other's feelings, they got back together and agreed: If something happens in the future, they must tell each other their feelings in time. Don't keep it in your heart, and eventually your emotions will explode and it will be difficult to clean up.

So, in the face of jealousy, acceptance is the first step.

2. Explore the inner needs behind jealousy

When we accept jealousy, the next step is to see the needs expressed behind jealousy.

In the story of Hanghang, she was jealous of her best friend, not only because of lack of money, but because of lack of self-worth.

Although she doesn't have much savings, she has accumulated a lot of extraordinary knowledge and rich work experience in her work in big cities, which are precious wealth in her life.

Some friends around me have started to apply for a PhD, but at some point they will be extremely jealous of the girlfriend with a happy family and children and feel helpless.

She forgets that her talent and accumulated knowledge for many years are the greatest sense of security and value.

We are always jealous of what we don't have, but we can't see what we have.