When people reach middle age, many women are trapped in the besieged city of marriage, but they have to bite their teeth and stick to it.

Middle-aged women are afraid of divorce, because women of this age have no courage to do it again and have no confidence to live a good life, so they choose to do it.

Many men are more aware of the concept that middle-aged women can't live without, and they are even more unscrupulous in challenging the bottom line of marriage.

Of course, with the awakening of women's self-worth, more and more women begin to re-examine their marriage, care about their feelings and really learn to love themselves.

Ma Yili divorced Wen in his forties. Wen is the mother of two girls. However, age and children did not become the reasons why she would get married. On the contrary, she faced her origin and destiny frankly.

When she divorced, she said, "You and I love each other deeply, work hard and achieve each other. It's a pity, but there is no right or wrong. In the future, everyone is happy. " Maybe her turn is not natural and unrestrained, but for a middle-aged woman, it is not easy to do this.

Why can Ma Yili let go of the past and be happy?

Because she knows that even if she leaves a man, life will not be too bad, and her daughter will not lose anyone's love because of her parents' divorce.

For a woman who controls her own destiny, it is not difficult to end a tasteless marriage with the support of her family.

In reality, there are more and more women in Malik Yili. As long as there is a glimmer of hope for marriage, we will not let go easily. But if a marriage has no reason to persist, you won't be afraid to end it.

Jie Chen (pseudonym) is such a woman.

Sister Chen is 48 years old and is the general ledger accountant of our company.

After the college entrance examination last year, she suddenly told us that she was divorced, which really surprised us. After all, I have been here for half my life. What's so unbearable that you have to divorce?

Moreover, at her age, a middle-aged divorced woman has no face value and no figure. It's hard to find a better one after divorce.

Just as we were worried about Chen Jie's life after divorce, Chen Jie comforted us: "Don't worry, middle-aged divorce is not so terrible. As long as you have two things, you will not worry about the rest of your life. "

The first thing is "health". Sister Chen has always had the habit of exercising. Although she has no lines, she is very strong. She seldom gets sick at ordinary times, so she bought herself serious illness insurance very early.

For 48-year-old Chen Jie, she is still young. Divorce is not the end of her life, but the starting point.

Health is the capital of revolution. As long as the capital is still there, life will not be too bad.

The second thing is money. Speaking of it, Sister Chen is the "God of Wealth" of our company. She not only manages the company's accounts clearly, but also is good at investing. Moreover, the profession of accounting is becoming more and more popular with the growth of age, and you can also engage in private work when you have time.

After one year, the income and salary are particularly considerable.

Women's economic independence is the basis for women to control their own destiny. Money can't solve all the problems, but it can solve 99% of the problems in our daily life.

Sister Chen knows the importance of money in life, so she has been managing the financial power at home. Although she didn't let the other party go out clean when she divorced (the man was at fault), at least she didn't let herself suffer.

She believes that as long as she has these two things, even if she dies alone, life will not be too sad.

In marriage, everyone has their own untouchable bottom line. If a man challenges a woman's bottom line again and again, no matter what age a woman is and how much she gives up, one day those grievances accumulated over the years will break out together.

Do you remember that 56-year-old aunt go on road trip? After decades of marriage, menstruation thought about divorce many times, but for the sake of the children, he finally put up with it. I endured it until my daughter graduated and my grandson grew up, and the man was still like that.

Aunt finally broke out. She bought a car and decided to travel. She said: "I have lived for others all my life, and I will live for myself once in the rest of my life."

I hope you will have the courage to "live for yourself once in the rest of your life" when you are disappointed in marriage and think that marriage is like drowning in your throat.

Author: Mi Chan, emotional question and answer expert. "Fall in love, talk about love, and listen to what you don't know." Pay attention to Michan and focus on answering emotional questions. If you have anything to say, please leave a message for consultation.