Whenever I make friends with others, I can’t help but be very nice to them. What should I do? If you give blindly, you will actually make very few true friends, and others will always take your efforts for granted. No matter how much you do, no matter whether it is right or wrong, it is always bad to do it blindly. You must learn to say no. Of course, making friends requires sacrifice, but gentleness is more important. I hope you will always be a gentle person. Since being kind to others should not expect anything in return, because being kind to others is just about being kind to others on your own level, so does the other person really need you to be kind to him? Does he also consider you a friend? Just like many parents feel that their starting point is for the good of their children, but their children will have rebellious psychology. And often being nice to others will create the wrong habit of treating others well as a matter of course. If you don't treat them this way one day in the future, they will blame you.

We are very lucky to have two or three close friends in our lives. The older we grow, the more we will find that the normal state of life is loneliness. Those people who you sincerely care about but refuse to treat you sincerely are destined to be people who are not on the same path, and will eventually be separated. If you really want others to repay you equally, love yourself first. When you are good enough and strong enough, all good things will come close to you! Being kind to others and treating others well are the basic principles for our conduct in the world. But if you blindly please others without any standards of your own, others will look down on you over time. People who think you are useless and incompetent will become less and less friendly to you. In real life we ??have to reciprocate politely. You don’t have to blindly please others, respect others, and don’t look down on others. When interacting with others, the other person is a mirror of us, and what they reflect is our state. How we want the other person to treat us, we first need to treat the other person the way we expect.