Written by: Wang Yanwei

Finalized by: Su Zihou

Nowadays, many parents pay special attention to their children’s academic performance, but they They ignore their ability to make friends. In fact, social ability is a reflection of a person's emotional intelligence. Cultivating good social skills not only improves emotional intelligence, but is also a need for healthy growth.

When children have their own mobile phones, they will also establish their own online circle of friends just like adults. Junjun witnessed the "love, hate, and hatred" among her daughter's friend group.

In my daughter’s group, one of the little girls, L, talked a lot and kept telling her happy things in the group, but no one in the group responded. Only the other girl, M, responded. Unexpectedly, during the exchange, perhaps because of too much talk, the two actually got into a dispute. The girl, M, was the leader of the group, so she moved L out of the group chat in a fit of anger.

Finally, I heard from my daughter that due to this wave of manipulation, the two girls turned against each other. The two friends who used to be close friends now ignore each other when they see each other at school.

Although these are just the contradictions of little girls, if you zoom in, you can also see that the children lack experience in the social process.

Making friends is a very common but important thing. However, many children have difficulty integrating into a collective environment after entering school, especially children with certain personalities who have difficulty making friends.

1. Introverted children

Some children are relatively introverted and are not good at interacting with others. They are always taciturn and do not like overly lively scenes or being watched. The feeling of always hiding aside and looking out of place.

But in fact, this kind of children are not unwilling to make friends. They also need the warmth of friends, but they usually dare not take the initiative to go out.

However, a good friendship is mutual. If you come to play with me, then I will come to play with you next time. Over time, friendship will be established, but if you always passively wait for others to invite you, , how can we make friends?

As a parent, please be patient, bring your children into contact with the outside world in your daily life, and teach them how to express themselves.

2. Domineering children

When some children are at home, the whole family always revolves around them, so when they go to school, they still want to enjoy the feeling of being supported. Children who are self-centered and only care about themselves and not care about the feelings of others will often hit a wall when making friends with others.

You must know that every child is the darling of the family, and no one will compromise with anyone. If they are in a group environment, they always want others to accommodate themselves and do not put their friends on an equal footing. , I would like to ask which child is willing to be friends with such an unreasonable and domineering child?

Therefore, in life, parents should communicate more with their children and let them understand that always acting like a "domineering president" will not be welcomed in school.

3. Selfish, stingy children

Knowing how to share is very important when getting along with friends. If a child is unwilling to share his players and snacks with others, he only wants to get benefits from others. Those who seek benefits without suffering any losses, and care about everything. This kind of selfish and stingy character will probably make classmates avoid them, so it will be difficult to make friends.

If parents cultivate their children's social skills and improve their emotional intelligence from an early age, they will naturally learn how to get along with others and how to resolve conflicts. As the saying goes, "If the flowers bloom, the breeze will come."

Does your child not know how to share or care? Do you only consider yourself and not consider the feelings of others? Are you unsociable and avoid others? Do you like to tease and bully other children?

Parents must be troubled by these problems, but in fact, parents don’t have to worry. Children’s social skills are cultivated little by little from an early age. Parents should help their children learn to deal with social problems and learn how to deal with them. Communicate to make their growth path smoother.

This children's social skills development course is a skill development manual specially designed for children's social skills. The book not only contains cute and cute pictures and humorous stories, but also various aspects of children's social interactions. performance, helping children learn to be polite, communicate with others, and integrate into collective life.

Secondly, the book also makes parents understand that when their children have interpersonal problems, they should not make unreasonable conclusions or intervene in conflicts between children at will. Instead, they should learn to let go appropriately and provide help when necessary. Provide guidance and suggestions to help them learn to resolve conflicts and contradictions.

In addition, the book also has Q&A and test interaction sections. Parents may wish to read and do it with their children, so as to improve their children's social skills, establish good interpersonal relationships, and become popular children through parent-child reading. Welcome kids.