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Since your work and life are stable and you don’t have to worry about food and drink, why do you always feel depressed and depressed? Do you have other pressures? For example, are you married? Have children? Do you have a loan to buy a house? Want to take care of the elderly? Do you get along well with your friends? Do you have a good social circle with people to interact with? Is there any pressure to get promoted?

Or do you have mild depression?

Are you a very introverted, quiet and quiet person?

Do you have no friends around you who you can talk to?

Are you feeling confused about your future?

Under normal circumstances, most people will feel depressed and depressed due to work pressure and life pressure. But this depression and depression will not last long. As work and life gradually improve, people's mood will also improve.

Now that you know you are prone to feeling depressed, you need to learn to regulate yourself. You have to overcome this thing by yourself. It is emotional and cannot be cured by taking medicine. The adjustment method is very simple, but you must insist on it.

1. You can talk to someone and share your thoughts. Don't hold anything in your heart. Many things won't be a problem once they are spoken out. My mood suddenly became brighter.

2. You can also develop some hobbies, such as reading, doing handicrafts, raising flowers and plants, fishing, sports, etc. These can distract your attention, allowing you to calm down and feel that life is fulfilling.

3. If you feel very free, you can spend time with your family. You can chat with them, watch TV, cook for them, go shopping with them, watch movies, you name it.

We all have times when we feel depressed, but don’t let your emotions dominate you. You have to be the master of your emotions.

Leave the bad mood behind and let the good mood accompany you forever.

Maybe it’s because life is very dull, and nothing can inspire your enthusiasm, and nothing can make you feel happy and accomplished. Here are some suggestions for you:

First, list your interests and hobbies, and see which one excites you the most and makes you happy the most, then do that one. In hobbies, if you cultivate your temperament, you will definitely find fun.

Second, when you are free, you can take a walk or travel with your family or friends. Go outdoors to relax more and avoid staying alone. Because communicating, interacting, and playing with people more can also broaden your mind a lot.

Third, when you have to be alone, read a book. Reading is a particularly good way to relieve stress, relax and cheer up. Books are spiritual food. Whenever I feel down, I like reading. I find that every confusion and confusion I have can find answers in books. , every time I finish reading, I feel energetic and come back again. Say goodbye to the haggard head, and say goodbye to depression and depression. CCTV host Bai Yansong once suffered from depression. He said that he got rid of depression through reading. So, if you have nothing to do, just read a book.

Fourth, whenever you fall into such a low mood, you must actively suggest to yourself and remind yourself to get out of this negative emotion quickly. You can do physical exercise. Exercise can make people happy physically and mentally. , sweep away the dullness.

In short, everyone has times when they feel depressed. If you want to avoid falling into it, you must know how to adjust your life. Life should not be too monotonous. Try to make your life more colorful!

Feeling depressed and depressed. It seems that external factors or the environment have affected oneself. The actual essence should be that one’s heart is not strong enough, not confident enough, does not have an accurate understanding of oneself, or has suffered psychological trauma. caused. Different people will have different reactions to the same scene. If you are often depressed and depressed, it is often because you have insufficient understanding of the nature of things and your own metacognitive ability. You have fallen into sad scenes and emotions and become addicted to them. This kind of emotion is used to avoid problems and boundaries that you don't want to face. If you want to get rid of this emotion, you can use passive psychological treatment.

Active positive meditation, improve metacognitive ability, strengthen your heart little by little, and don't be overly influenced by the environment

Nine times out of ten, life will be unsatisfactory, because you think too much, read too little, etc. Bad emotions are created out of thin air by yourself. There must be something in your heart that you can't let go of. To put it bluntly, you just can't think about it. Maybe you are in a state of unfounded worry now, such as what to do if your child doesn't learn well in the future. If your child doesn't follow the instructions, Do your own ideas and think about what your children should do in the future, and forcefully instill your own consciousness into the children, hoping that they will act according to your ideas, otherwise they will be anxious, even angry, and even temporarily I can't think about it and become depressed. Children should liberate their nature and guide them appropriately. Some children love to recite, some love to sing, some love to exercise, and some love to create. It cannot be black and white, and grades do not represent everything. At present, we National education is a bit of a formula-based education. As long as the grades are good, nothing else matters. In the end, many students cannot read and study by rote. They only know that scores are the only way to judge heroes. Regardless of whether 3721 or 3721, high scores are the last word. Isn’t it a bit sad? Woolen cloth. There are too many things in my mind, too complicated, and too many things to achieve. I always feel that something has not achieved the expected goal. I always feel that the world is always unfair to me. Why am I included in this assessment? Why doesn't everyone understand me? Of course, there are many other problems like this. Generally speaking, you still can’t correct your mentality. People often say that “mentality determines everything.” A good mentality can help you get out of troubles. For example, every time the company evaluates you, you clearly do a good job. Well, in the end it was always brushed off for some reason. I can't let go of this, and I feel disappointed every time I think about it. Let’s analyze it now. The first possibility is that someone is rated excellent because he or she has done a very good job. He or she has done big things well and outstandingly. He has done small things meticulously and comprehensively. He has excellent professional qualities. The leader in office must have experienced this. As for people, they also started from the grassroots level. They can comprehensively consider who is better and who is really impeccable. It makes sense that you are not selected. Next time, try your best to do your job well. To the extreme, there will always be a time to succeed. The second possibility is also one that is criticized now, that is, there is a so-called backstage. People are born with a higher starting point than us. This is an indisputable fact. Even if you get an honor because of this, it is not a glorious thing. The eyes of the public are sharp. of. Thinking about it from another perspective, we didn’t lose to him, nor were we inferior in skills. We just lost to some unspoken rules. Even though we lost, it’s an honor. There’s nothing to be frustrated about. Time will prove everything. The time has come. It's not us who are the ones wandering around in disgrace whether it's the mule or the horse. We should be glad that we have excellent skills, why bother? So, if you feel down, find a place to vent, such as going to a KTV and shouting out all your unhappiness hysterically, telling yourself: Let all the low moods go to hell, and you will still be a strong man when you come out

< p> You need to find a close friend to chat more with and talk out your concerns. Even if they can't help you solve your problems, you will feel much more relaxed after you talk them out. Or you can cultivate the habit of writing a diary. You can also relax by writing them down. Own. In life or work, you must have your own ideas when doing things, and you cannot put many things together. It’s time for you to find someone who can accompany you until you grow old. Good company is the nemesis of all unhappiness, come on [呑ya]

I feel the same as you, earning thousands of dollars a month Money, wages, monthly mortgage payments, car loans, basically nothing left. Life is pretty good, but every time I get off work or have nothing to do, I always let my mind wander and think about things that are not there, such as whether I have to go to class for the rest of my life in such an ordinary way, whether my life should be improved, and my children’s future education. , parents’ health, how can I achieve financial freedom, drive my dream car, live in my dream house and other unrealistic things, I feel quite heavy! Not satisfied with the status quo at all!

I park my car on the side of the road every night after get off work, smoke a cigarette quietly, and look at the stars and moon in the sky. It is so pleasant!

When I get home and see my parents, wives and children, I bury that feeling in my heart and give them laughter!

Come on, maybe life is like this, peace and security are blessings!

When a child is born, happy emotions are born, and sad emotions are born a dozen seconds later.

When we can walk, we feel fear and fear; if we can’t eat the food we like, disgusting and angry emotions will follow, and they will always follow us.

Yes, we cannot have only one emotion and cut off other emotions. For example, I only want to be happy and not sad; I only want positive emotions and kill all the negative emotions. it's out of the question.

In addition, we can’t say that I have to control all my emotions and I am not allowed to be angry or disgusted. Because if the emotions are forced to be suppressed, they will easily be held in the body and cause internal injuries.

The seven emotions and six desires in Chinese idioms refer to "happiness, anger, sadness, fear, love, hate, and pity."

To put it simply, it can be divided into what people often call positive emotions and negative emotions.

Positive emotions include pleasure, joy, excitement, happiness, positivity, leisurely content, etc. Negative emotions include tension, anger, frustration, sadness, pain, complaints, self-blame, worry, uneasiness, sadness, sadness, disappointment, irritability, etc.

You will find that there are many more types of negative emotions than positive emotions, and of course there are many more adjectives.

Now we can comfort ourselves. It turns out that it is normal to be in a bad mood more often than in a good mood. Just kidding~

This brings us to what we are going to talk about. You think that you "don't know why, and there is no reason, but you are in a low mood." It seems that there is a point here - "Being depressed is not good." "Happiness is good".

Indeed, most people like good moods, hate bad moods, like positive emotions, and hate negative emotions. So, are emotions good and bad?

At this time we would like to mention a 2015 American cartoon called "Inside Out". Have you seen it?

It is about a girl named Riley. She was born in an ordinary family. She has been cared for by her parents since she was a child, so she retains countless beautiful and sweet memories in her mind.

These memories are actually related to the five little partners in its brain. These five partners are the five main human emotions - happiness, fear, anger, sadness and disgust. They are called Lele, Fear, anger, worry and disgust.

The five little friends in Riley's mind have always built very precious and beautiful memories for her. But one day, Riley left his childhood best friend and moved with his parents to a new city, a new house, and a new school. Everything seemed so bad, so her negative memories gradually accumulated, and the beautiful inner world she had built before gradually collapsed.

In order to protect Riley's beautiful memories and give her courage for the future, these five emotional friends in her mind began to act.

In the video, you will see that Lele, which is the happy emotion, makes people positive and active. It makes our thoughts active and is not easily suppressed and restrained. It makes us not afraid of difficulties, proactive and enterprising, and also makes us see hope. It also makes us contagious, able to quickly establish relationships with strangers, and can bring about the atmosphere of the people around us and the entire field. These are all brought by Lele.

The next step is anger. It turns out that anger makes us more powerful. Angry in the film is always grumbling, as if he is impatient. He cannot tolerate an imperfect life, but he is always active in striving for fairer treatment. So anger actually contains our strength, self-esteem, and self-respect. When we are in trouble, it makes us look for a more suitable path.

Let’s talk about worry, which is the emotion of sadness. Youyou always thinks of the worst when it comes to things, and talks and walks slowly. It seems that no one knows what practical effect Youyou has. But there was an episode in the movie: there was a little popsicle whose rainbow car fell to the bottom of the cliff, and it was very sad. As for Lele, she wanted to make Little Popsicle happy, but it didn't work. At this time, Youyou walked over and sat quietly next to Little Popsicle, and then thoughtfully told Little Popsicle: "I know you are sad" and stayed with it. Steeped in sadness. When Little Popsicle was understood by Youyou, she burst into tears, but she also sorted out her emotions!

It is conceivable that sadness can provide us with sympathetic support and make us more empathetic and compassionate towards others.

Speaking of this, you can definitely recall that in daily life, when you encounter something sad, if a person tells you "be strong", "don't cry" or tells you a lot of truth, maybe Nothing is as useful as another person saying to you, "I know you're sad, I understand. If you want to cry, just cry."

Let’s talk about disgust, which is the emotion of disgust. From an evolutionary perspective, disgust is actually an evolved emotion. For example: it can help us avoid sick animals or polluted water sources. Sometimes, it can keep us away from people and things that trigger strong revulsion. It helps us seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.

The last one is the emotion of fear, which is fear. The function of fear is to keep us away from danger. Fear is a warning signal from the human brain. It is a self-protection mechanism developed by humans over thousands of years. Fear is the body's instinct, and like pain, it helps people stay away from danger. Some fears will be alleviated or even eliminated through understanding and training.

You must understand after reading this. The point mentioned in this movie is that although emotions are divided into positive and negative, they are not good or bad.

It can be said that emotions are the driving force for us to take certain actions; emotions are what allow us to learn from experience and bring us awareness; emotions themselves are never a problem, they sometimes even come to us. To serve us.

The key is that we must first understand it, and then learn some methods to resolve it or use it, so that we have the opportunity to be the master of our emotions.

1. Try to laugh more, which is also a pleasant way to vent;

2. Let yourself listen more to others and find comfort in the process;

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3. Slow down the pace of life and include idle time in the schedule;

4. Dealing with various complex problems calmly can help relieve emotions;

5. If you do something wrong, remember that everyone may make mistakes, and don’t feel bad about it;

6. Don’t be afraid to admit that your abilities are limited, and learn to say “no” at the appropriate time. ;

7. In the dead of night, quietly say something just for yourself, then light up some incense and feel like a dream;

9. When encountering difficulties, firmly believe that "the car is here" There must be a road before the mountain";

10. Set goals and pursuits: Having goals will give you motivation to move forward;

11. Record your own physical and mental changes, which may sometimes be cyclical Depression may sometimes be caused by poor health during this period.

The point is, please accept that you are depressed, not necessarily to "correct"; at the same time, try to challenge yourself bravely and set some new goals; and look for more positive resources around you, such as raising pets. , make friends, communicate with family...

I wish you find the precious gifts that your emotions bring you.

When you are free, you will worry. Are you the one who usually gives more to your family and friends? Even if you don’t give, you will feel uncomfortable. Even you will feel that this is very tiring? But I couldn't help it.

If this is the case for you, you can think back to some of your experiences as a child. Many of our habits and lifestyles as adults can be answered from our childhood.

When I was 8 years old, I helped my parents cook a pot of porridge for the first time. Since then, doing laundry and cooking has become the norm. Until now, as long as I am at home, I do all the work, and I will get tired and feel like complaining while doing it. But if I don’t do it, I feel bad.

The same is true at work. As long as a colleague asks me to do a favor, I will do it even if I have to put in a lot of effort to help others or even delay my own work.

Once a friend asked me to borrow money. I had to raise a child and I didn’t have much money, but I lent it to her. Although I live a tight life, I feel uncomfortable if I don't lend it to her.

This is a typical giving personality. If you don’t give, you will feel uncomfortable, and if you do, you will complain in your heart. You can tell yourself consciously, pay more attention to your inner needs, and let others do some things. The more you focus on yourself, the less depressed you will be.

Logically speaking, if you don’t have to worry about food or clothing, and your job is stable, you shouldn’t be worried or depressed from time to time, but you do happen to do it. Why?

Perhaps you are a sentimental person with greater emotional fluctuations than ordinary people. You are prone to self-pity, focus on scenery, and are obsessed with intangible things in the void. You use fantasy to balance the emotional imbalance.

Personally, I think you have to figure out what you are worried about first, work? Life? emotion? parents? child? ... Once you have figured out the problem, you can take the next step to solve it. Secondly, we must cultivate an optimistic attitude in ourselves, and don’t be too simplistic in doing things. Once we look at everything, everything will become clear. In an instant, we will feel that the sky is blue, the water is clear, and how beautiful the world is. Final suggestion: read more inspirational books, go out to bask in the sun more, go out with friends more, participate in some outdoor activities, and don’t be like Lin Daiyu in real life.

Since your life and work are stable, it stands to reason that you should not be often depressed. Maybe you still have not achieved the work and life you want, so you are depressed, or you have very high requirements for yourself. Or maybe you have an unfulfilled wish deep in your heart, or there is a knot in your heart that has not been untied. No matter what the reason is, only you know it. If you don’t want to feel depressed, you have to open your heart and talk about your struggles with your lover, friends, or strangers. They can help you come up with ideas, as long as you say You will feel much better once you are out of it, and you will be completely fine once you truly resolve it. Don't trust anyone, choose someone you trust to tell your story, otherwise it will make you even more unhappy over time, or you will suffer from depression. Open your heart and you will find that the world is beautiful and tolerant, and you will find that you are very small and everything is nothing. Come on, believe in yourself and believe in others!