Confucius said, "The winner has three friends, but the loser has three friends. Friends are frank, friends forgive and friends listen more, which is beneficial. Friends will be open, friendly, soft, friends will be destroyed and damaged. "
Confucius said that three kinds of making friends are beneficial and three kinds of making friends are harmful. It is beneficial to make honest friends, honest friends and knowledgeable friends. It is harmful to make friends with people who follow the trend, those who flatter on the surface and slander behind their backs, and those who are good at rhetoric and bragging.
Lyu3 bu4' s "a promise as good as a promise" survived.
Ji Bu was from the late Qin Dynasty. He worked for Xiang Yu, the overlord of Chu, and defeated Liu Bang's army many times. Later, after the defeat of Xiang Yu Group, Lu Bu became one of Liu Bang's people who wanted to put a reward on him. Later, as a result, his old Xia Houying was not only confused by the heavy money, but also persuaded Liu Bang to spare his life and worship him as a corps commander. Why would his friend rather risk being beheaded to intercede for him? Because Ji Bu is honest, many people trust him. The reason is to make friends with him and promise others what to do, and others will try their best to help you when he is in trouble. If you go back on your word and break your promise to others, just like a "wolf" child, you can only eat your own fruit.
Zhao Gao "refers to a deer as a horse" pits Daqin
After the death of Qin Shihuang, Qin Ershi and Hu Hai, who ascended the throne, were incompetent, while Zhao Gao and Reese, the prime ministers, were dictatorial. In order to get rid of the dissidents, one day he brought a deer to the imperial court and deliberately said to Hu Hai, "Your Majesty, I will give you a swift horse.". Hu Hai was surprised: Is this a deer? Then Zhao Gao asked several ministers: Please tell your majesty, is this a deer or a horse? Ministers looked at each other, some said horses, some said deer. Zhao Gao kept all the words in the court in mind. Finally, some honest people were persecuted by Zhao Gao. Since then, the imperial court has been obedient to the traitor Zhao Gao, and the Daqin Empire has also ruined a good inheritance of Hu Hai's generation, leaving a permanent stigma.
Through these two short stories, we can see that if we make more friends, we can help each other and make progress together. If we are surrounded by a group of bad friends, not only can we not help ourselves, but we may also harm you! Friends of "three benefits and three losses", are there such people around you?