? When I heard these three answers, I suddenly found that these three people have different views on social interaction. So I'm thinking, what kind of point of view a person uses to socialize, what kind of way he will socialize.
? The definition of "socialization" in Encyclopedia is: "Socialization refers to the mutual communication and spiritual exchange among several students under certain psychological activities." Moreover, for individuals, socialization is a necessary condition for the generation, deepening and development of knowledge. Therefore, for individuals, the most basic function of socialization is to let them see more of the world, enrich their life experiences and further promote their ideological maturity.
? Therefore, based on this condition, the range of "making friends" is uncertain. Some people's "making friends" range is only aristocrats, some people's "making friends" range is only laymen, and some people's "making friends" range is both aristocrats and laymen. Seeing this, needless to say, what is the scope of people's "making friends", then what is the impact this circle has brought him.
? There is a proverb in China called "Birds of a feather flock together", which applies to the first two situations. Because such people have poor social skills, they can only find people with like-minded and similar temperament to accompany them for a period of time. The so-called "near the ink is black" also applies to the first two situations. Because this person who wants to socialize has a pursuit, that is, socializing with a purpose. This person wants to improve himself and see more and better things, then he will "make friends" with the nobles. On the contrary, this person is willing to be mediocre, or he wants to see the world of laity, and he wants to satisfy those realistic backbone, then he will "make friends" with laity. Then, these two different social activities will bring two different views to a certain extent.
? Therefore, socialization can affect a person's three views to a certain extent.
? Similarly, this conclusion can also be used in the third situation I just mentioned, that is, the scope of this person's "making friends" is both noble and layman, and the circle is very wide. In my last article, I quoted the definition under the encyclopedia, that is, "socialization refers to several students' mutual communication and spiritual communication under certain psychological activities". The "spiritual communication" here is first through language communication, which means that social communication must have language communication. Only through language communication can we promote spiritual communication. What noble people tell you is basically noble experience and noble values; On the contrary, what laity tells you is basically laity's experience and values. Therefore, these values are more or less instilled in your mind. Therefore, people with a wide circle have richer social experience than others. What about three views? That varies from person to person.
? Seeing this, I believe some readers will wonder: "Since this person has a wide circle and so rich social experience, then this person's three views should be very rich." Why does it vary from person to person? "In the previous article, I once said that socialization can affect a person's three views to a certain extent. Here, I need you to grasp two key words, one is "to a certain extent" and the other is "influence". Let's not say "to a certain extent" now. Let's start with "influence". There are two situations that "affect a person's three views". One is that this person has no three views, and the other is that his original three views have changed because of the influence of social environment. These two situations come from the same way, which is indoctrination. Instilling a person without three views is as easy as pouring liquids of different colors into an empty basin, because the color will not change after the liquid is poured into the basin. Instilling a person with three views with new ideas is like pouring a new and different liquid into a basin full of liquid. After pouring it in, the color of the liquid will change more or less.
? We can do an experiment: pour different kinds of liquids into two identical pots, one is tap water and the other is ink, and then pour both pots with liquids other than white and black, such as red. You will find that the pot with tap water has a huge color difference, while the pot with ink does not have such a big color difference. Then, you take the same basin, pour the liquid with colors other than white, black and red into it, such as blue, and then pour the red liquid into it as well. At this time, you will find that the basin will have color difference, and this color difference is larger than the basin of tap water and smaller than the basin of ink.
? So, why are there these three different color differences? You will find that the colors of boiled water, blue liquid and ink are different, which will cause the colors of the corresponding three basins to be different.
? In real life, a student in a good school does not wear makeup, dress up or buy famous brands, because that school has strict rules and regulations, and the teachers in that school have also done ideological education in this area many times. Gradually, the student also felt that it was unnecessary to do so. She thinks that only plain face is the most beautiful, and people should be frugal. However, when the student went to a poor school, she gradually became extravagant, began to wear heavy makeup, began to dress exquisitely, and began to buy famous brands. Gradually, she began to worry about her appearance. Why is this? Needless to say, it must be influenced by the environment of that poor school. There are no strict rules and regulations in that school, and teachers have not strengthened ideological education in this area. All the students are dressed exquisitely, and gradually, their three views have changed.
? Then ask readers to think about it, where does "appearance anxiety" come from? "Appearance anxiety" first stems from the comparison between oneself and others in face value, and then the germination of inner desire, because girls have the nature of loving beauty, and it is precisely because girls have the nature of loving beauty that they will show their beauty in front of others and gradually bring inferiority to others. This kind of inferiority is the inferiority of worrying that you will be "backward" and "unsociable". Therefore, her three views will change.
? So we can draw a conclusion from this case: her three views will change because of fear of loneliness. She is afraid of loneliness because her inner world is not rich enough.
? Just like the example given in my last article, there are three different color differences after pouring the liquid, because the original liquid in those three pots has different shades. The lighter the color. The greater the color difference after pouring, the deeper the color, and the smaller the color difference after pouring. The color depth of this stock solution can be compared to the richness of a person's inner world. A person with a rich inner world will not easily change his three views because he is afraid of loneliness in social life. On the contrary, he may put himself in a lonely environment, always keep a certain distance from others and always stick to his correct three views. The correct three views are also obtained by putting yourself in a lonely environment and thinking about one thing rationally.
? The reason why a person can have the correct three views in a lonely environment is because he will not be influenced by the complicated interpersonal relationships in the social environment, thus making his heart rich and quiet.
? Then, if you want to have the correct three views in a lonely environment, you need to read more books besides thinking rationally about one thing. As the saying goes, "a book has its own golden house", and a good book often contains valuable spiritual wealth. The more you learn, the broader your mind will be, which will promote your rational thinking about one thing. Gradually, you will not be afraid of loneliness, but enjoy it more. You will try to make your circle cleaner and cleaner, so that your heart will not become turbid because of social interaction.
? Bernardine de Saint Pierre once said: "Poor food is a kind of health, poor social intercourse is a kind of tranquility, and abstinence in dealing with people will make our hearts calm." Although social interaction can let us see the world and broaden our horizons, we should not easily let unrestrained social interaction pollute our hearts because we are afraid of loneliness, thus destroying our correct three views.