Human relationships are cold and warm, the world is hot and cold, and ordinary friends live their lives normally. If you are a person who knows how to make friends, you should not be eager for quick success. When investing in friendship, it is advisable to take a long-term approach, pay homage to the cold temple, burn the cold stove, and burn incense more often. Even a few words of greeting are the best ways to make friends.
(1) Burn incense more when you are free, and have someone to help you when you are in a hurry. Modern people are busy with life and do not have time for too much socializing. As time goes by, many originally strong relationships will become loose. Friends Gradually become indifferent. This is a pity. This requires us all to cherish the precious fate between people, and never forget to communicate our feelings no matter how busy we are.
A friend who just went to the United States wrote: "We don't have much social life here. It's rare for us to see our friends. This is of course because we have just arrived in a foreign country and don't know many friends. But Later I heard that other people were the same..." "We work five days a week and go to the countryside on Saturdays and Sundays. This is a family-style life, which means that when you go to the countryside, you go with your family. ""We can't use the holidays to visit friends, because no one is at home during the holidays, unless the friends are sick in bed...""Normally we can't use the time after get off work to visit friends because the traffic is too crowded. ""But we often talk to our friends on the phone. This is the only way we can socialize with our friends. We call when we have nothing to do, even if it's just to say a few words or talk about something insignificant. ""But when something happens, we call. We will get together immediately. For example, last week my son had a stomachache. I hurriedly got up and called my friend Dr. Jiang to find a solution. He immediately drove there from 70 kilometers away. After a preliminary diagnosis, he determined that he had appendicitis and used him. He took his child to the hospital for surgery in his car... "Everyone has friends to look for when something is going on. Have you ever looked for friends when nothing happens? I don't know if you have ever had such an experience: when you encounter difficulties, You think someone can help you solve the problem. You wanted to go to him right away, but then you think about it. There were many times in the past when you should have gone to see him, but you never went. Now if you need help from someone, go to him. Is it okay? Would it be too abrupt? You may even be rejected by him for being too abrupt. In this situation, you can't help but regret not burning incense in your spare time.
There is a book in France called "Essentials for Little Politicians". The book teaches those who are determined to make a difference in their official careers to collect information on at least 20 people who are most likely to be prime ministers in the future. And memorize it thoroughly, and then visit these people regularly and on time, and maintain good relations with them. In this way, when any of these people becomes prime minister, it will naturally be easy for them to remember you. You may be asked to take up a ministerial position.
This method may not seem very clever, but it is very realistic. A politician's memoirs mentioned: A person who was appointed to form a cabinet felt very anxious when he was appointed. Because there are at least seven or eight ministers in a government's cabinet, how do you identify so many people? This is indeed a difficult thing, because in addition to having certain talents and experience, the most important thing for the selected person is to "have some friendship with yourself." It is easier to be appreciated by people who have friendship with others. Otherwise, you can If you have the ability to ascend to heaven, no one else knows about it.
(2) In friendship investment, it is advisable to take a long-term approach to life and work, and not to rush for quick success. The flower of friendship must be cultivated over many years.
Those who are good at casting long lines and catching big fish will always not be in a hurry to reel in the line and raise the pole after seeing the big fish take the bait, and throw the fish to the shore. Because if you do this, you may not only fail to catch fish in the end, but may also break the fishing rod.
He would suppress the joy in his heart, calmly reel in the line a few times, and slowly bring the fish closer to the shore; once the big fish struggled, he would loosen the line again and let the fish swim a few times. Then slowly collect the fish again. In this way, until the big fish is exhausted and unable to struggle, it is pulled close to the shore and dragged ashore with the net bag.
The same goes for asking for help. If you push too hard, others will reject your request. Only by waiting patiently will there be good news of success.
It is said that the chairman of a certain small and medium-sized enterprise has long-term contracted projects for large electrical appliance companies, and often gives small favors to important figures in these companies. The chairman's communication style is different from that of ordinary entrepreneurs. The difference is: not only does he flatter the company's dignitaries, but he also treats young employees with hospitality.
Everyone knows that this chairman is not without purpose.
Beforehand, he always tried his best to conduct a comprehensive investigation and understanding of the academic qualifications, interpersonal relationships, work abilities and performance of each employee in the electrical appliance company, and believed that this person had great potential. When he becomes an important person in the company in the future, no matter how young he is, he will be treated with all his heart. The purpose of this chairman is to prepare for more benefits in the future.
The chairman understands that among the ten people who owe him a debt of gratitude, there will always be a few who can bring him unexpected benefits. The "loss-making" business he is doing now will be recovered at a compound profit in the future.
So, when a young employee he likes is promoted to section chief, he will immediately rush to celebrate, give him gifts, and invite him to dine at a high-end restaurant. The young section chief had rarely been to such places, so he was naturally moved by his hospitality. He thought to himself: I have never given this chairman any benefits before, and I have not yet made any decisions on major transactions. Quan, this chairman is really a good man! Invisibly, the young section chief naturally developed a sense of gratitude.
While he was being flattered, the chairman said: "Our company is today entirely due to your support. Therefore, it is appropriate for me to express my gratitude to you, an excellent employee. “The purpose of saying this is not to put too much psychological burden on this employee.
In this way, when one day these employees are promoted to important positions such as division chiefs and managers, they will still remember the kindness of the chairman. Therefore, in a period of fierce business competition, many contractors went bankrupt and went bankrupt. went bankrupt, but the chairman's company was still prospering. The reason is because he invests too much in ordinary relationships.
Looking at the chairman's "long-term" approach, we can see that he has the "spicy flavor" of an "old ginger". This also shows that when seeking to make friends, you must have a long-term perspective, try to do as little as possible last-minute transactions, and focus on targeted long-term emotional investment. At the same time, if you take a long-term view to catch big fish, you must have a keen eye to recognize heroes, so as not to waste your efforts on mediocre people who are of no use and will not be able to recover the money in the future.