Sandy poured out her emotional confusion to her good friend Miss Xu. She has a lover, but something unpleasant has happened with her lover recently, so Sandy is very upset. Miss Xu, who was sitting on the side, listened absently, because in her opinion, Sandy was just dissatisfied with herself.
In addition, she also thinks that Sandy's lover is far less excellent than her husband both in appearance and inside. Miss Xu said that Sandy was drunk by her lover. Otherwise, how could she ignore her handsome and talented husband at home, but she was painfully entangled in this man who dared not compliment and had no connotation?
Sandy's lover is a little short and a little fat. Compared with Sandy's tall husband, his lover looks black and short. Sandy's husband is highly educated. He doesn't know everything about piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, but he always knows something, and this lover who graduated from medical secondary school knows nothing about these. He is knowledgeable and talented.
In any way, Miss Xu doesn't know what Sandy likes about this lover. If Sandy can't get married because she is ugly, she can find any man to commit herself to him, but she doesn't understand that Sandy has a good husband, but she just wants to find a lover, who is still so ugly.
Sandy said that the husband's hand is cold, while the lover's hand is hot, not only the hand, but also the heart. Miss Xu seems to understand what Sandy meant.
Sandy said that it was the coldest day in winter when she came back from a business trip. She forgot to bring her key, and waited alone at the gate of the community for half an hour with her luggage, and her husband didn't come downstairs to pick it up. When she got home, she saw her husband's computer on and the game on the desktop was having fun. Sandy's heart is colder than outside. A man who can leave his wife in the cold wind for the competition, she can't see any hope in him.
You don't look good. You are very talented, but you don't keep me warm. Why should I put my heart on you? Sandy thought so.
I still remember when I first got married, my mother-in-law always said in front of Sandy that if her son was on a blind date program, all the lights would have to be left to him. She always thinks that her son is excellent, regardless of his height, looks and knowledge, he is one in a million. Sometimes Sandy feels that what her mother-in-law said is clearly telling Sandy, and she implies that Sandy is not good enough for her son.
In fact, from the appearance, women care more about this than men, but Sandy just found a handsome husband. She is not ugly. Every time she stands in front of her husband, she feels inferior to herself, but her mother-in-law still points it out, which clearly means that Sandy is not worthy of her son. Besides, Sandy's husband didn't make any response, and Sandy was really sorry.
If you can't find confidence in a man, what is the point of marrying him? Before meeting her lover, Sandy thought that if her husband was ugly, maybe she wouldn't be so unhappy and her mother-in-law wouldn't tease her easily.
But sandy didn't expect that she finally found a lover who was not very good-looking. Maybe she inadvertently turned her idea into reality. In fact, in her heart, she admits that her husband is handsome, and Sandy is happy when others praise him, but she likes being with her lover. Sandy was confident when her lover looked at her with admiring eyes. I feel that I am a beautiful woman and a woman worthy of being loved.
If there is no sense of security, who will continue to look for it? The so-called advantages of her husband didn't actually bring any practical benefits to Sandy, but at the beginning, when they were together, Sandy felt that she had found an excellent person and her vanity was greatly satisfied.
But what she wanted from a man, she never got it. The warmth is getting less and less, and the material is not what she expected. Even sandy is completely insecure now. She knows that others like what she likes. In the past few years after marriage, the affection between her and her husband has been greatly reduced. In the past, they were passionate about each other and could not live without each other for a moment. Her husband has no eyes for anyone else. Now he's different.
The temptation of the outside world and her own conditions, those bad things may happen at any time. Sandy doesn't want to believe this day, but she can't tell herself that it is not impossible.
Driven by various factors, Sandy felt very wronged. She wants a man who can take her as a lover. At this time, his lover appeared. He is very worried about sandy. In his eyes, Sandy is a rare good woman, and even he had the idea of letting Sandy divorce and marry him. However, although Sandy wanted to find a man to warm herself, she never wanted a divorce.
This is sandy's distress. She admires a man but complains about him. She despises this lover but wants to enjoy the satisfaction he brings to herself. Sandy is contradictory. She feels that she can't bear to part with them, but sometimes she feels that she doesn't want them.
With these words, Miss Xu finally knew the crux of Sandy's heart. She said, maybe Sandy shouldn't put her hopes on men, so she will be disappointed in the end. It is better to warm yourself than to expect the warmth of a man. Moreover, the most important thing for women is to invest in themselves. When she is strong enough and confident enough, she will be worthy of what she wants.
Why do some beautiful women prefer to find a lover who is inferior to themselves? Maybe they are just beautiful, but they have no ability to live beautifully.