When people reach middle age, the pressure will increase and the desire to talk will increase. In fact, everyone should have more needs for more friends.
Even if you can't make friends in the interest-oriented workplace, those friends in your student days are still objects with no interest relationship and can communicate.
Why do many people think that they have many friends when they are young, but they are hard to find when they grow up?
Because when you were a student, your time was worthless, and maintaining the relationship between friends was a time-consuming thing.
Have you calculated the time spent with your friends every day in middle school?
Hand in notes in class every day, have fun after class, watch cartoons together at noon, play ball together after school, go shopping together at weekends, not to mention going to each other's home to report every day during the summer vacation.
If you haven't seen your friends for a week, it's almost impossible unless one of them is ill.
The so-called friends, just like friends who haven't seen each other for decades in the novel, are established and maintained through daily play, communication and cooperation, because they were classmates and comrades-in-arms for a lot of time before.
But in the meantime, people don't have much time to chat with you in the workplace. After work, they are busy going home to cook and take care of their families. On weekends, I either accompany my parents or do housework rest, so I don't have much time to chat together every day.
The so-called "talking about interests" is the result, not the cause.
Because everyone's time is precious, no one will get together just to pass the time, as they did when they were students. If I ask you out or eat alone, it's usually for something of value.
Try it if you don't believe me. A colleague specially asked you out on weekends, asking you to give up sleeping until noon and ask for leave with your wife to appease the children's distress of going to the park. After riding a bike for half an hour, he ran to his colleague's house. As a result, the other party said that they were just looking for you to play games and chat.
Once, yes. Will you go again? Every week. Would you like to?
But when I was a student, I had plenty of time to waste. It's normal to go to a friend's house for half an hour by bike.
If it is necessary to say that all colleagues at work are stakeholders and have no sincere friendship, there is no need to find friends at work.
Join various societies, network groups, parties, clubs and sports fields, and there are many places to meet friends, just like at school.
After all, no one wants to waste time on these meaningless friends. Middle-aged people have limited time and too many things to manage. If it is important and relevant, they can also communicate patiently, otherwise they won't have the leisure time.
Many people don't talk about making friends. Watching movies at normal speed is a waste of time. It is a luxury to spend half an hour preparing a dinner. It depends on when you get home on the treadmill 15 minutes.
Spend time making friends? It's too extravagant for middle-aged people.