Whether you are studying in Japan or working in a Japanese company, you will encounter a problem, that is, many people do not understand the characteristics of the Japanese. They always feel that the Japanese are too cold and rigid, and it is very difficult to make friends with the Japanese. . The nation of Japan is indeed different from the nations of other countries. It is basically a single-ethnic country. There is only one ethnic minority in Japan, the Ainu in Hokkaido. There are fifty-six ethnic groups in China, and there are also many ethnic groups in neighboring Vietnam, Myanmar, Cambodia, Laos, Indonesia, etc. Because Japan, an island country, has not communicated with the outside world for a long time, and there has been no large-scale foreign invasion in history, the Japanese are very bad at dealing with foreigners. First, they are not very willing to open up their hearts and reveal what they think. Second, Japanese people generally do not invite foreigners to their homes, so it is difficult for Japanese people to establish non-work relationships with people from other countries. Third, Japanese people don't like to ask about other people's private lives, such as salary income, personal love, family, and even hobbies, so it is difficult to make communication more in-depth. I have lived in Japan for eight years. I have made nearly a hundred Japanese friends, and among them I have more than twenty best friends who I talk to about everything. I think there are a few things you need to pay attention to when making friends with Japanese people: First, you need to open your heart and be open-minded. When I make friends with Japanese people, I always tell them my true thoughts. I even told them that my grandparents died in the Anti-Japanese War. Some people began to hear that my grandparents died in the Anti-Japanese War. They were very embarrassed. Many people apologized to me, but I told the Japanese calmly that although My grandparents died in the Anti-Japanese War, but I do not attribute the past hatred of family and country to the Japanese who were born in peacetime, and I do not regard this matter as an obstacle to interactions with the Japanese. When I see the shortcomings of the Japanese, I point them out tactfully. I personally feel that blindly praising the Japanese is more likely to cause resentment among the Japanese. When I first arrived in Japan, some Chinese students became illegal because they did not obtain new visas. The Japanese are very dissatisfied with this matter. They always say that we Chinese often cheat in Japan and cause many social problems to them in Japan. After hearing this, I told them frankly that although these things are not good, we must admit that this is the only way for many developing countries to become developed countries. After the war, there were hundreds of thousands of Japanese residents in the United States. Before the war, there were even millions of Japanese residents in Brazil, and so on. You Japanese should also look back at your past to understand the current situation in China. When they often say that China is dirty and messy, I tell them that Japan also experienced such a period after the war. I think you need to be frank when making friends with Japanese people. If you refuse to tell the truth or make up a set of lies, you may often lose the opportunity to make friends. Secondly, I think to make friends with Japanese people, you need to have a broader and deeper knowledge than they do, so that they will feel that it is beneficial to make friends with you. I went to Japan in 1988. At that time, Japan’s impression of China only limited to the Great Wall, giant pandas, Peking duck, etc., and the Japanese only knew these. Later, I told the Japanese that China has a vast territory, rich resources, outstanding people, rich resources, and a long civilization. There are many cultural monuments older than the Great Wall, and even every province and city has them. For example, Shandong is famous for Confucius and Mencius, has the history of Qi and Lu, has beautiful coastal cities such as Qingdao and Weihai, and has geographical environments such as Penglai Pavilion that embody the mythology of human civilization. Shandong people also have Very generous, enthusiastic and helpful character. When I first studied civil service law at Hitotsubashi University, I told the Japanese that we had the imperial examination system and the nine-rank Zhongsheng system in ancient China. In a sense, these are the ancient prototypes of the current civil service law. I think what China deserves to boast about is not only our five thousand years of civilization, but also a lot of cultural and spiritual wealth that the Japanese cannot match. Many young Japanese people don't know that their Kyoto city is modeled after my country's ancient Xi'an city. I don't know the origin of the word "Hour Joy". I told him that it was said by Fan Zhongyan, a poet from the Northern Song Dynasty in my country. It comes from the allusion of "worry before the world is worried, and be happy after the world is happy". The "Koraakuen" was designed by Zhu Shunshui, a late Ming Dynasty minister, and adopted by Tokugawa Ieyasu. Japanese kimonos, Chinese characters, ancient political systems, and social systems are all imitated from China. As long as our knowledge is broader and deeper than that of the Japanese, they will be sincerely convinced and admire you endlessly.

Thirdly, when interacting with Japanese people, you must pay attention to the diversity of forms. In fact, interacting with Japanese people means trying to integrate into their lives, such as drinking wine, soaking in hot springs, and hiking with them on weekends. On weekends, I often go to pubs to drink with my Japanese bosses and colleagues, and go to hot springs in Kinugawa, Nikko and Kusatsu on the Izu Peninsula around Tokyo. We traveled to Hokkaido and Okinawa together. In this relaxed environment, it was easier for everyone to relax and get involved. There is an old saying in Japan: "To make friends, you need to go to hot springs naked and be honest with each other." Only such friendships can be more reliable and lasting. ——Wei Haibo Overlooking Mount Fuji Cherry Blossom Season Scenery of Korakuen Garden Photo with Mr. Li Wuwei, Vice Chairman of the National Committee of the Chinese People’s Political Consultative Conference Staying with Japanese friends Holiday gatherings Unforgettable kindness (the first person from the right is Mr. Otsuki Taka, Vice President of Mitsubishi Bank of Japan)