This article is about my own emotional story. I came to Xiamen for love. Now I am married and have children. Our story continues, let’s live a good life.

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I have been asked by many readers, is there still love in this world? Many of them have been hurt by love and cannot believe in love.

The answer I give is, there always is, and I also believe there is. Because I am a person who pursues love. When Scorpio encounters love, once they fall in love, they will never look back, and the path will lead to darkness.

This article is about the story of my husband and I. The story of me and him also started in Xiamen. We started from Xiamen and continue to love and live in Xiamen.

We were a pair of ordinary lovers, and later we became a very ordinary couple. Today, we still support each other on the road of love and never forget our original intention.

The fate between people is indescribable and indescribable. You don’t know where the love comes from, and you fall in love with each other deeply. People who are destined to be together may be attracted by love, and once they meet, they will never be separated. .

I write this article to tell more people that there is love in this world and it is worthy of your belief, but you have to see this person clearly and love well. Work hard and don't be distracted by external things.

02. Xiamen, I don’t know where my love started, so I fell in love with you deeply

Xiamen, I have known you for a long time. I don’t know why, but when I was still in high school, I told my parents, “In the future, I want to take the exam at Xiamen University.” I was still very young at that time, and I had never been to Xiamen. I just saw a few fragments about Xiamen in an article, and I actually had an inexplicable affection for "Xiamen" in my heart.

I can’t explain clearly, but I have been thinking about it, thinking that it would be great if I could live in Xiamen in the future.

Unfortunately, I was not admitted to any university in Xiamen. Instead, I went to Urumqi, the city farthest away from Xiamen. I originally wanted to live in the city closest to the sea, but instead I ended up in the northwest border.

Xiamen, maybe there will never be any fate again in this life. When I was in college, I thought that maybe I would never have anything to do with Xiamen again in this life.

When I was in college, my family's conditions were very difficult, and I was one of those poor students who couldn't even pay the tuition. I worked part-time to earn money while going to school. Sometimes when I see my best friend and her boyfriend kissing me, I feel envious. I don’t know where my love will be, and I feel like a poor girl like me deserves to be loved?

I have extremely low self-esteem on the inside, but on the outside I pretend to be strong and feel very conflicted. I feel that "I can't see where the future is, so I have to work hard." My good friend Xia once said to me: "I think you should just find a boyfriend, just find someone casually, even if he can give you money to spend, then it won't be so difficult for you." When I was in my junior year, She also arranged a "blind date" for me.

It’s quite funny. It was the first blind date in my life. I met the person, and one second I agreed to chat, but the next second I refused. Regarding love, I still have inner persistence, and I don’t want to give in. I don’t want to have a boyfriend just for money, and I don’t want to deceive other people’s feelings. Isn’t it just that you have to suffer a little bit? Isn’t it just about saving money in life? What's the big deal.

As a Scorpio, I have a "ruthless" spirit to fight with myself. No one loves me, so I just rely on myself to study hard and then force myself to make more money.

When I was in college, I never had the luxury of falling in love. I always felt that "girls from poor families" had no right to fall in love.

I once wrote countless words "Xiamen" in my diary. I don't know why, but I thought about it in my heart. Even when I found posts related to Xiamen on the Internet, I also collected them very carefully.

My mother once said that I was too ambitious and had to show off even though I didn’t have the material. But I just want to give myself a try, maybe I can actually make it happen.

When I was a junior in college, I was still thinking about Xiamen. My sister asked me what my plans were for the future. I replied to her with two words "postgraduate entrance examination" in confusion. "Let me try again, even for the last time." I don't know why, but I was thinking about whether I could go to Xiamen when I took the postgraduate entrance examination.

The future is uncertain and I don’t know where the road is. I am ignorant and can only move forward in a down-to-earth manner, but I did not expect that "he is getting closer and closer to me."

03. I met him because of "Xiamen"

A Scorpio girl has a fierceness and hard work. Once she falls in love, she will never look back, even if it is slim, she will let herself Give it a try. Scorpio girls are very accepting of death. Once they fall in love, they become bold. They are people who dare to love and hate.

I met Mr. on Weibo, or he took the initiative to send me a private message "Who are you?" I felt confused at the time, who was it? It was obviously you who sent me a private message, and you asked me who it was. He said, "Because I don't know who you are. The only two words that overlap with you are Xiamen."

An inexplicable chat should have disappeared and had nothing to do with it, but because he and I have the same interests and hobbies, we have become closer to each other.

I like reading very much. I have liked to write articles when I have nothing to do since I was a child. In the eyes of others, I am quite literary. He also likes to read books. Also because he graduated from the university I like, I have a bit of admiration for him.

After I added a friend on Weibo, we would "quarrel" in the comments when he posted on Weibo. Sometimes we would also talk about things related to Xiamen and my major, and he would also They would secretly read the diary I wrote on Renren.com and chat frequently, and the distance between our hearts was invisibly shortened by many steps.

During the summer vacation of 2012, I interned at a company and wrote a corporate copy in classical Chinese style. He helped me read it and then made some comments for me to revise. I felt at the time that this person was quite Talented.

I had selfish motives at first, thinking that he graduated from that school and worked in that city. If I met him, I would not be alone.

Once I could chat with him, I became a "net friend" who often chatted with him.

It is said that a woman’s sixth sense is extremely accurate. In fact, I fell in love with him while chatting with him. I once said to my good friend Xia in a daze: "It feels like he is the one, no." I know why, but my heart told me that I fell in love with him, and it was him."

At that time, Xia also laughed at me for being a silly girl. After seeing his photo, she actually started laughing and said: You two, okay. There is the appearance of husband and wife.

No one who knows him knows what will happen in the future? I didn't think about it, so I just moved forward. When I'm confused, I won't let myself be anxious, but keep walking, because you don't know where the road is, so just keep going, and maybe the road will become clear.

04. I fell in love with him online in Xiamen

We said our first words on Weibo on May 18, 2012, and we chatted for more than three months. At the end of August, he sent me a message to confess his love.

I once asked him very stupidly, what should I do if I fall in love? He said that if he fell in love with you, he would marry you. It was ridiculous, I just thought he was joking. We don’t have time to think about the future, we just think that we like it in our hearts. We don’t dare to think about the future, we only care about the present and the present.

There are many unforgettable things. In fact, he left his phone number the first time he chatted with me on Weibo, but I never took the initiative to contact him. Instead, we talked on the phone for the first time after he confessed his love. We had never met each other before. The first phone call that day lasted for more than three hours. We kept switching from the left ear to the right ear. I don’t know why we talked so much. Now that I think about it, I don’t know what I said at that time, I have completely forgotten it.

Maybe people who fall in love are fools. Now that I think about it, he and I were both quite silly, but the two of us were not happy about it.

I also wrote a couplet for our love: I met Monet by chance and knew the way. He replied: Knowing each other is not a loss of lovesickness. At that time, we also agreed to make up for a horizontal batch when we met in Xiamen.

I like to write, and sometimes I would send some text messages to him, and he would always be able to respond easily.

For example, he sent me "The wind suddenly picked up and ruffled a pool of spring water", and I replied "The autumn wind ruffled some sentiments."

It was still the age of texting, and he and I sent more than a thousand text messages during our four-month online relationship. I once copied out each text message by hand with a small Nokia phone in the winter, my hands turned red from the cold. But unfortunately, that diary was lost when I traveled to Hong Kong.

He must have been with me during the four months of the postgraduate entrance examination. Whenever I couldn't continue my review, I wanted to call him and tell him my troubles. One thing about him touched me very much. Whenever he received my call, he would "click" and get back to me as soon as possible. Maybe they think I'm a poor student and don't have much money, so they don't want to embarrass me. He also secretly recharged my phone bill, which was 100 per recharge, which I was grateful for at the time.

I confessed to dating online at the end of August 2012. The reason why I am called YIBAO is also because of the nickname. His name has the word "Qizhen" in it, which is a rare treasure, so he named me YIBAO. This is also the origin of my pen name.

When I celebrated my 22nd birthday in November 2012, he gave me a surprise for the first time in his life. I was reviewing in the library, and a stranger called me and said he had something for me. When I went to the school gate, it was a person I didn't know. He called someone to deliver the flowers, and there was a note inside that said "Qi Zhen Ai YIBAO".

I was very touched and returned to the library with a lot of flowers in my arms. For the first time in more than 20 years, I felt that I was loved by a man.

I cried many times before I met him. I cried when I couldn’t stop reviewing, cried when I was wronged, and cried when I felt life was difficult. But he never took it personally and always advised me softly.

After falling in love with him online, I kept thinking about "Xiamen" and went there many times in my dreams. I dreamed of meeting him. When I woke up, I realized it was a dream, but I was afraid that it was just a dream with him.

Online dating is too illusory. When hormones are over, we will consider reality and talk about whether to break up. But before the exam, he was afraid that I would think too much and never mentioned "breaking up".

What I want in my heart is to fight once. Anyway, I am young, so even if I fight once, it’s okay. Even if I have a 0.000001% chance with him, I will let myself give it a try. If I don’t try, I will regret it for the rest of my life. On the road of love, I am not afraid of losing. What should I be afraid of when I am young? I wanted to give it a try myself.

I believe what he said: "If you don't leave, I won't abandon you; if you leave, I will wait; after waiting, I will leave again."

After the postgraduate examination, I thought that I must go to Xiamen to see him. I must go. If I don’t go, I will lose him and regret it for the rest of my life. I am not afraid that he will lie to me, because he who has been with me so seriously for four months cannot possibly lie to me.

05. I took the train to Xiamen for the first time and met him

In fact, after taking the postgraduate entrance examination, he mentioned the word "breakup" to me. Said it felt impossible. I feel the changes in him. He doesn’t call frequently anymore and doesn’t send messages often. But I wanted to meet him, so I booked a train ticket and lied to my mother that I was going to Shenzhen for an internship. In fact, I was going to Xiamen to find him.

When I got on the train to Xiamen, I was scared and happy at the same time. I was happy that I was going to see him, but I was afraid that he would be a liar. He comforted me, don’t be afraid, trust me, don’t worry. When I arrived in Xiamen, he came to pick me up. When he walked towards me, he looked so familiar, like an old friend.

We are lovers. He didn’t even dare to hug me when he saw me for the first time. He helped me carry my luggage and booked a room for me in advance next door to where he lived. He took me to dinner and took me to visit his school, Xiamen University. The scene I had dreamed about in my dream, him holding my hand and walking around the campus of Xiamen University, became a reality.

He is a few years older than me, and I also saw the paintings he drew for me at his house. These things are not worth a penny, but they are priceless in my heart. I have kept them for so many years.

It’s a very pure love. I never thought it would come to an end, but our hearts are together.

I finally met him in Xiamen and walked with him on the streets of Xiamen. Xiamen is so beautiful, and my mood that day was also super beautiful. He is all I see, and with him, everything I do becomes romantic.

I lied to my mother to go to Xiamen. They soon found out and my sisters called me to go home.

He also helped me book a train ticket to Hangzhou and asked me to go to Hangzhou to find my second sister. He also told me: "Be good, don't let your family worry, be obedient."

I listened to him, I arrived in Xiamen at five o'clock in the afternoon on January 17, 2013, and took more than 20 hours of train ride. I took the train to Hangzhou on the afternoon of January 18th.

With the advent of online dating, our relationship has been revived. We met again in my hometown during the Chinese New Year. I forgot to tell you that we met online, but our homes are in the same city. So he went home during the Chinese New Year and we met again. On Valentine's Day, February 14, 2013, I went to the train station to send him off to work in Xiamen. He kissed me for the first time at the station. I hugged him and was very reluctant to send him away.

I feel like there isn’t much possibility of being together, because I haven’t graduated yet in my senior year, and I don’t know where to work. And I can’t go to his city as soon as I graduate. My parents have passed the test. No. It's very unreal, I feel like my future is hopeless, and the chances of me and him being together are slim.

In April, when I finished my internship, I was going back to school in Urumqi. He had already told me that we were breaking up, but he was afraid that we would never see him again, so he came to Hangzhou to see me "one last time." We wanted to talk about breaking up, but we couldn't break up as soon as we met, and we got together again. My sister didn't object, and after meeting him, she stopped caring about my relationship.

My mother has always let me make my own decisions regarding our relationship. As long as the person is a good person, she doesn’t have any objections. My mother lets us make decisions according to our own wishes. She is very open-minded and has never interfered in my relationship with him.

I graduated in June, and I was thinking about going to Xiamen again no matter what. I miss him, and I also want to know what kind of person he is and whether he is suitable for me. I made myself do the second bold thing. I used my graduation period to live with him in Xiamen for a while to get to know him well. I had no money at that time, so of course he paid for the travel expenses to see him. He booked a flight for me, and I went to Xiamen for the second time to find him again.

Fall in love with a city, fall in love with a person, and then you can never be apart. Xiamen has become the most special city in my heart, because he is here, I miss him and miss him.

06. We finally live together in Xiamen and don’t want to be separated again

The second time I went to Xiamen to get along with him for a month, he took me to meet my friends, teachers and even colleagues. He also takes me with him when he eats. I feel inexplicably relieved that he has never lied to me, he is honest, popular, and a down-to-earth and reliable person. He has no money and his family is not very good. Like my family, we are both innocent and have to rely on ourselves. We have never disliked each other. He will not dislike me, and I will not dislike him.

I learned everything about him, and I loved him even more and was inseparable from him. After I quit my job in Hangzhou, I moved to Xiamen to be with him in September 2013.

When I came here, my mother said to me: "You are responsible for the path you choose, and don't regret it if you go." My mother believed in the person I chose, and my sisters couldn't persuade me. I came to Xiamen alone. Before I arrived in Xiamen, my brother-in-law told him, "Don't pack it up and return it." Of course, this was a joke. Privately, what my brother-in-law said to me was, "If you feel wronged, you can still come back. Your sister and I are here." ".

I finally lived with him in Xiamen. I found a job on my own, with a monthly salary of 2,800 yuan. His salary is higher than mine, almost 10,000 yuan a month. He never disliked me. Besides, he was several years older than me and graduated earlier than me. It was normal for him to earn more than me.

He is the kind of person who will give way to me in everything. He has a good temper. He never dares to talk to me loudly and never gets angry with me. Since he is a few years older than me, he always lets me lose my temper. I am the youngest in the family and am very willful. Sometimes I will pinch him, but he tolerates it one by one. Once he was injured and I pinched him a lot, but he endured it. I even kicked him, and maybe he regretted it in his heart because I was such a surly girl. But he never gave up on me. Every time after a quarrel, he would hug me and say, "Don't lose your temper again, okay?". Under his careful care, my temper was gone.

When we were in love, we lived a lively life. We went out to play together on weekends, cooked after work, and then slept together, giving each other a warm home.

The only feeling I have in Xiamen is that having him is enough. I have never thought about whether I will get married in the future. Anyway, I just love her seriously and well.

During the Chinese New Year in February 2014, he followed me home for the first time. Our relationship got closer and we were in a good relationship.

In November 2014, the two of us even went to the campus of Xiamen University to take wedding photos. We felt very happy and thought it was him in this life.

We got engaged in February 2015, but then our relationship was in jeopardy. Because of the difference in life concepts, his mother felt that I was unreasonable, and my mother did not want me to be bullied. Our relationship encountered opposition from both parents for the first time after our engagement.

Where is the way? It feels like we can't be together again. I came to Xiamen because of him. I have nothing except him. How can I stay in Xiamen without him?

Several times when we talked about family matters, we started to break up. For a while, he cried whenever I said we were breaking up. He would take me to work and ask me to wait for him downstairs, fearing that I would suddenly run away.

When we were in different places, I chased him, but after we got together, he refused to let me go. Now that I think about it, in fact, we have never really separated. After every fight, we still hug each other and sleep together, we still live under the same roof, and he is still very good to me.

I went back to Hangzhou for two weeks in June 2015, and he went back to pick me up after that. My brother-in-law laughed at us for being children and making trouble.

In August 2015, I found another job in Xiamen, with a salary of 5,000, and I wanted to be with him safely. In 2014, I really wanted to marry him, but after something happened in 2015, I became afraid and did not dare to marry him.

We had been arguing for a long time. In June 2016, I left him and fled Xiamen alone. I walked around unscrupulously, but he still waited for me where he was. He bought a house and waited for me to go back and get married. .

When my mother asked me what to do, I said: "Mom, I still want to be with him." In August 2016, I decided not to run away anymore, but to face him properly. Facing all the difficulties together, we decided to get the certificate.

When it was difficult for me to make up my mind to be with him, my brother-in-law said: "You have to decide the path you choose. Love well and your family will support you."

I decided to marry him, and we received the marriage certificate on November 8, 2016. There was no wedding, no betrothal gifts, and nothing worldly. I also convinced my mother not to hold a wedding for the time being, and their family agreed, because the relationship between the two families at that time was not suitable for a wedding, and he and I had no money.

Because I believe it is you, even if I have nothing, I will still love you and accompany you without hesitation.

I have loved you not because of money from the beginning, but because of love. How could I abandon you because of money? Emotional matters are the most important to me at all times.

In Xiamen, we finally got married and simply obtained a certificate. Not long after receiving the certificate, I found out that I was pregnant. I was very scared and even thought about aborting the child. He came back immediately after answering my call and stayed with me to avoid making mistakes. I didn't understand anything about my first pregnancy. The progesterone was very low and we were afraid that the baby would be in danger. He drove me to several hospitals. Thinking about it now, we were just big fools.

After I got pregnant, I wrote and did freelance work peacefully, while he went to work safely, and then I started renovating the house.

We spent the least amount of money to decorate the house. After decorating the house, I only had 10,000 yuan left in my hand. Thinking about it, I have paid a lot, which is what others call "going to Tieba". I have used all my savings in the past few years. He used to take care of me, and later I earned my own money to take care of him.

What I’m thinking about is our home. What’s the disadvantage and no disadvantage? When other people get married, they think, "Everything should be paid for by their family." What I think is, "Why don't I contribute money for our family?"

After getting married, I identified with him and worked hard. I never thought of putting the burden of the family on him alone. I don’t want a man to support me, I just want a man to take care of me.

I am grateful to him for being kind to me when I was very poor in college, and I will treat him well on the road of love later on, which is also a kind of "repaying gratitude".

Our baby was born in Xiamen on July 19, 2017. I became a full-time mother, writing while raising the baby, and he still supported me very much. On the day I gave birth to my baby, one of my articles went viral. At that time, many major news outlets reprinted my article, and my small business gradually improved.

Living in Xiamen, a very comfortable city, with him here, it doesn’t matter if the house is smaller, it doesn’t matter, the form doesn’t matter, as long as we love each other.

During our marriage, we would also quarrel, but it was "fighting at the head of the bed and fights at the end of the bed", and he still doted on me. After the child was born, I took care of him peacefully, and then stayed up late or got up early to write articles. It was a difficult but fulfilling 18 years. My salary was higher than his. He said with a smile: "It's all my discerning eyes. I support you, and you have achieved today’s results.”

We are still in love in Xiamen in 19 years, our baby is almost one and a half years old, and our story is still going on... ...

Xiamen is a very beautiful and unforgettable city with wonderful love. If it weren’t for Xiamen, how could he and I have met?

People who love each other will have an inexplicable fate, and the people who should meet will always meet.

Falling in love with a city, falling in love with a person, since I met him, what I can say back to him is: If you don’t leave, I will never leave you, stay with you well, love you, and live a serious life with you. Every day now.

It will be good to be with you for the rest of my life. Thank you, my Mr. Shi.

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