Morning reading, last class, he just got up when I left, and the child had been waiting for dinner for a long time when I got home. You can only buy soy milk powder and sesame paste, cook it a little and drink it as porridge. Make it quick.
This soybean milk powder and sesame paste, put in a boiling pot, are all group fights. Clusters, clusters, chattering and noisy. Whether it is pressed with a spoon, pressed with a spoon or squeezed with a spoon, it is like a pair of dead mice feeling cold, and no one will give in anyway. Putting this porridge in a bowl is simply "eating porridge". If you don't chew, you can't swallow. I often smile at children: to say the least, you should cut porridge like Fan Zhongyan.
On this day, after the soy milk powder was put into the pot, the mobile phone rang. Picking up the phone, I wandered unconsciously from the kitchen to the living room and forgot all about the dishes in this pot. When I locked my mobile phone, I suddenly remembered that there were still pieces of soybean milk in the pot to be processed, so I rushed into the kitchen and picked up a spoon to prepare my homework. I looked into the pot, but I saw the thick soup rolling. Where is the shadow of the soybean milk block? About ten minutes, I didn't bother or need to start work, and pieces of soybean milk melted in slow stew. .....
A moment of surprise, surprise, epiphany: er, er, I was in a hurry.
Isn't this the way to educate children?
Many parents begin to educate their children when they are still in the womb, and then start more dazzling arts and sciences education when their children are born: teach them graphics and numbers for a few months, look at pictures when they are older, learn mental arithmetic and drawing at the age of two, recite Tang poetry at the age of three, practice piano at the age of four, and learn mathematics at the age of five. Some parents often have such distress and worry: "other people's children ... turn over in three months and talk in eight months." Other people's children ... can read a thousand at the age of three. Our family is always more than half a beat behind. Isn't there something wrong? "
So, we started to stop and couldn't wait. We make our children "little adults" busier than adults ..... We have enthusiasm, ideals and fighting spirit, but we lack patience. Just like I treat "soy milk powder and sesame paste": I want to promote their self-awakening and melting through external force and enough pressure. Facts have proved that the fire is not over, the internal force is not awake, the internal force is not awake, and everything done by the external force is like scratching boots.
Every child is unique. If he is a flower, he will have his own unique flowering period. If he is a tree, we can't expect him to blossom on the branches. All education comes down to self-education The question is coming: how can a student with learning difficulties and a child with insufficient internal strength educate himself? What should educators (parents, teachers) do?
Tell another story. The hero of the story is a girl 15 years old named Xiaoxue. Xiaoxue is currently studying in the city's key high school, and his grades are far ahead in the class. People who have seen her say that the child speaks well, quietly, elegantly and meaningfully. Would you be surprised if I told you that this child was a veritable "problem of juvenile" in the school before the third grade?
Xiaoxue is smart and flexible, and the biggest feature is that she is full of curiosity and loves to get to the bottom of everything. Of course, there is another feature: 30% of the students listen to lectures in class, but less than 10% of the students do their homework after class ... When you ask her why she doesn't do her homework, she will stare at you with innocent eyes and ask you: Why do you do your homework? After preaching, you ask her: Now, do you know the reason for doing your homework? She continues to stare at you with innocent big eyes: I'm sorry, teacher, I was distracted just now and didn't hear what you said. ......
This little snow, her biggest confusion is: why do teachers and parents force me to study hard? Am I not well now? Why continue to work hard? As far as her problem is concerned, the teacher and her parents have clashed and collided with her again and again. Finally, Xiaoxue roared: I understand all the reasons, but are your reasons reasonable? Why should I listen to you? As a result, the sound of the waves remains unchanged.
Later, one day in the last semester of the third grade, a miracle appeared (Xiaoxue was in a 63-system school and faced the senior high school entrance examination in the third grade). This little snow comes early and leaves late every day, even handing in homework on time, and even taking the initiative to ask questions to teachers and classmates! Both parents and teachers think that the pressure of entering a higher school is definitely present, and the children are awakened. Therefore, she secretly rejoiced. On the surface, she has to cooperate with her children's progress seriously, give her advice and help her make further progress. No one dared to ask her why, but they were all worried that an unintentional word would disturb her mood and make her lose her fighting spirit and repeat the same mistakes.
Just now we also said: Xiaoxue is talented. Everyone in the industry knows that this research can't be done well without talent. Xiaoxue struggled so hard to rush forward and made a blockbuster in the senior high school entrance examination. She won the third place in her class and was admitted to a key high school in one fell swoop. When Xiaoxue went back to school to handle the transfer of league members' relationship, the class teacher jokingly asked: Xiaoxue, have you changed a lot? Injured or stimulated?
Xiaoxue smiled: Teacher, I am really stimulated. Do you remember Zhao Xia? The one I hang out with every day? When I chatted with her, I found that she was particularly eager to learn, but on the surface she pretended to be casual and fun. I get angry at the sight of this. She can be so studious. Why should I let myself fall behind? ......
Yes, that's the truth: the painstaking teaching of our teachers and her parents has not had as great an impact on her as her best friend. Does this remind us: pay attention to guiding children to make friends, and the influence of peers is greater than the educational role of parents and teachers. This is also economics, which is what we often call "peer effect". Isn't the story of Meng Mu's Three Movements the best footnote to pay attention to the influence of his peers?
Then, the question comes again: what if Xueba doesn't want to associate with scum? To take a step back: if gifted students agree to associate with students with learning difficulties, will they be knocked down or trained?
Through the observation of the students in my class, I found the fact that birds of a feather flock together. The circle of excellent students is full of excellent students in the class, and students with learning difficulties only associate with them. Even if you arrange an excellent student and a poor student to sit at the same table, the ending is still excellent, and the poor student will not be mistaken. That is, the "light snow" we mentioned earlier, when she is not awake, external forces have no effect. When she was influenced by her peers, she found her true self.
How on earth was she affected? She said: She had a heart-to-heart talk with her best friend and found that they got to know each other better. Yes, that's the point. If gifted students and poor students are in a state of old age and death, if they are parallel lines that never intersect, then they will not affect each other. If we create opportunities and provide them with opportunities for communication and understanding, the chances of students with learning difficulties being affected will undoubtedly increase. How to create opportunities for in-depth communication? I think that the usual exchange of learning experience will give both gifted students and students with learning difficulties a chance to speak, which will increase the possibility of their communication.
Of course, many students with learning difficulties do not study because they have too many loopholes and loopholes to make up. At this time, teachers, especially parents, need strong support and help. Children have no ability to learn. You have to find an experienced teacher to show them around and enter the door. Start low, take small steps, build up your self-confidence and sense of accomplishment little by little, and get on the road slowly.
The essence of education is self-education, whether teachers or parents. What we have to do is: after providing a good environment for children to grow up (example: if children want to read widely, they must first have books at home and parents should study. ), use the eye to discover, and use wisdom to wake up. When we can't wake up our children, don't forget the powerful influence of our peers.