First of all, I would like to express my serious condolences to the original poster!
——You said, "Although I have figured it out, I still feel uncomfortable." Your mood is understandable. In fact, you don’t have to worry about this issue. Punishing yourself for other people's mistakes is not a wise choice.
——Don’t want to ask about your age, personality, and preferences? I don’t want to ask, are you a middle school student now? College student? Or join the work?
——What I want to know is: Have you ever thought about what kind of marriage you want? Because in the narrow sense, what a girlfriend will face when she develops is marriage. If you are sure that you have clarified the criteria for marriage selection, then act according to the goals you have set. Even if there is no suitable candidate for the moment, you must patiently observe and search carefully. As long as you have a keen eye for discovery, there are many outstanding girls. True love has to stand the test of time, and it requires your patience and care. Don't be impatient, rather be lacking than overdoing it.
——If you don’t choose marriage, but just find a close friend, then the problem will be much simpler. As long as the two parties are not disgusted by each other's eyes, that's enough. I have nothing to say.
——"The girl said she liked me, and then she fell in love with her." To be honest, it's because you don't have a clear goal in marriage and mate selection, and you don't know what you really need? Blind dating has led to the current results; if you knew your needs, didn't you learn more about her true personality traits and background before dating? In fact, no matter what she said, how she said it, or how she did it, at least she taught you how to identify a person clearly and rationally with facts. That's enough, what do you think?
——I don’t want to ask who is right or wrong. The past is past. What you want is to learn from this incident to set goals in everything and understand what you really need? Learn to read people, reduce blindness, and avoid making the same mistakes again.
——Pain is a good medicine for life. Only after you have tasted pain will you cherish the taste of happiness and work hard to pursue and create. Pain is also a required course in your life's growth, and it is painful and happy at the same time.
I wish you happiness every day!