Maintaining a "sense of proportion" is a manifestation of self-cultivation; maintaining a "sense of boundaries" is the preservative of long-term interactions between people. When people reach old age, after seeing through the warmth and warmth of human relationships, they should learn to maintain a certain sense of distance and boundaries with some friends around them.

Because the relationship between people is like hedgehogs hugging each other for warmth in the winter. If they hug each other too tightly, they can easily hurt each other. On the contrary, if you keep a certain distance, you can get along comfortably for a long time.

A good interpersonal relationship involves a sense of distance within friendship, and a sense of propriety within intimacy.

Therefore, when people reach old age, they must learn not to get too close to the friends around them. Because everyone is an isolated island, no matter how good the relationship is, we cannot fully understand each other.

It is a blessing to have a few close friends in one's life. Therefore, there are many types of friends, so for an ordinary person who is in the elderly stage, it is best to keep a certain distance from the friends around him. Don't choose to trust blindly because of your loneliness and boredom. You also need to keep a certain distance from your friends and don't be overly enthusiastic. The so-called "when the moon is full, it loses, and when the water is full, it overflows." Sometimes time, sometimes too close, will not only not enhance feelings, but may also bring about some disasters, misunderstandings, or indifference...

The people mentioned here should not get closer to their friends when they are over 60 years old. This is not to break off the friendship, but to have their own principles in the process of communication. Among them, maintaining these four kinds of vitality is very important.

When people get too close to each other, it is not conducive to the long-term management of relationships. Therefore, you cannot get too close to your friends. Once you rely too much on and trust the intimacy between friends, you will easily tell your friends all the secrets in your heart. The secrets included here may be trivial matters about your family, your own melancholy, or your own worries. Therefore, maintain a sense of proportion between each other and look at friendship more rationally and objectively.

The 72-year-old Uncle Liu is an optimistic, cheerful and generous person. His biggest worry for most of his life was his only son. He always hopes that his son will have a happy family and a rich material life, but he doesn't know why? My son always misses many job opportunities by accident. With timely help from others, my son successfully entered the workplace. However, whenever he worked for a period of time, he would encounter some unexpected situations, which ultimately led to his son's life being not always smooth.

Uncle Liu himself is also very hospitable and always gathers his friends at home. During a drinking session, Uncle Liu talked about his troubles. Especially about the recent bad things that happened to my son.

A few days later, a few strangers came to the house, saying they could calculate a person's luck. Originally, Uncle Liu didn't take it seriously at all, nor did he believe it. Who would have thought that these strangers would make a calculation: Uncle Liu would only believe it if he told them in detail that Uncle Liu only had one son and the unpleasant things that had happened to his son recently. Then they will change their son's luck. From then on, Uncle Liu's son will definitely become rich and have constant good luck.

At this time, Uncle Liu had great trust in these strangers. He felt that these strangers were simply gods and incredible. How could he explain his situation so clearly and express his inner demands from the bottom of his heart?

In the end, Uncle Liu warmly entertained these strangers, and these strangers made Uncle Liu believe in them through their sweet words. In the end, the stranger realized that only money can resolve all "bad luck". Of course, the stranger promised not to take away the money, but Uncle Liu needed to use his own savings to let the stranger see his loyalty, so that he could be protected.

Uncle Liu confidently took out his money drawer key in front of a stranger to show his loyalty to the stranger, and the stranger asked Uncle Liu to blindfold himself. Uncle Liu didn't have any doubts. During a series of finger-pinching and transfer processes, Uncle Liu was finally asked to blindfold himself and kneel down sincerely for half an hour. However, they sped away on their motorcycles.

At this time, Uncle Liu did not realize the seriousness of the problem until he heard the sound of motorcycles fading away, and his heart suddenly thumped. I feel cheated.

Immediately took off the blindfold and opened the deposit drawer. But he found that his savings had disappeared, and Uncle Liu was filled with regret. There is nothing you can do if you call the police because your location is in a remote rural area and there is no surveillance to check. A dumb person can only eat Coptis chinensis, which is said to be difficult.

From the incident of Uncle Liu defrauding money, we can see that these people took advantage of Uncle Liu's inner troubles and expectations, and had known all of Uncle Liu's family situation in advance. That's why he used his fingers to transfer money to defraud Uncle Liu's trust, thereby taking away Uncle Liu's savings. It can be seen that you must be cautious when making friends. As an elderly person, you should not get too close to your friends and tell them all the secrets of your home. Eventually, the exposure of the information will lead to a loss of wealth.

If in the process of friendship development, if you constantly compromise and please for the sake of others, it is actually a kind of harm and neglect to yourself. It is not advisable to overly consume the friendship between people in this way. Especially for some friends' requests, you must learn to refuse decisively.

Sometimes it is inevitable that there is a kind of friend around you who always hopes that you can help him. But often because you get too close and help too much, you end up with resentment or even hatred. The other party feels that you should have greater ability to help him get more, and may even dislike you for not helping enough, and may also suspect that your help is not sincere enough. But you yourself are full of grievances and resentments. You feel that you have tried your best to provide help. This is not only unflattering, but also a source of blame.

For such a friend, because the relationship is too close, his demands and expectations for you will be higher, so he may be very disappointed in you if he does not get his own satisfactory expectations. , but not grateful at all.

The friendship between the two people becomes the relationship between the farmer and the snake.

As far as my father is concerned, because in that era they always insisted on marriage between men and women, they needed a matchmaker to tell each other about their good and bad experiences. So over time, every time my father introduced a couple, they were able to successfully enter the palace of marriage. A father who stays in the countryside will inevitably be appreciated by many people. As long as some people have suitable goals, they will find their father as a middleman to make a good marriage.

Until one time, his father had always regarded Uncle Zhang as his best friend, and he asked his father to mediate with his son. His son is also a pain point for him. No girl is willing to marry him. Seeing that he was about to turn thirty, Uncle Zhang was very anxious. He found his father, hoping to resolve his son's marriage issues. The father agreed without hesitation, but despite his repeated attempts, the woman was still unwilling. In the end, my father had no choice.

Unexpectedly, after the matter did not succeed, Uncle Zhang felt that his father did not take the matter seriously, let alone plan the matter carefully. As a friend, Uncle Zhang felt that his father failed to fulfill his obligations as a friend. This made my father very aggrieved. He felt that he was running around from dawn to dusk, and he had to look at the faces of the woman's family all the time. Now things have not ended well. Because of this incident, my father and Uncle Zhang are no longer friends. More than ten years have passed and they are still very estranged.

This is because the relationship between friends is too close, which brings unexpected disappointment to the other party, and this kind of friendship also becomes yellow.

Friends should not be too purposeful in getting along with each other. "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water." Treat each other with sincerity, no hypocrisy, and be the truest version of yourself.

However, friends should also avoid exposing their wealth and revealing too much of their personal details. Otherwise, trouble will come from the mouth and it will easily lead to trouble.

Although money is not everything, it is absolutely impossible to have no money. Time and human nature are the least able to withstand the test, so don’t use money to test people’s hearts, and don’t use money to test the emotions between anyone. When doing things as a person, you must always learn not to expose your wealth. The greed of human nature is always endless.

If you disclose your financial status to your friends, you may let others borrow money from you. There are many real examples in real life of friendships breaking up because of borrowing money. But I think no one likes to lend money to others. It's always embarrassing when you want to borrow money from yourself. But if you don't borrow, the friendship will gradually drift away.

At the same time, having your property exposed will easily attract thieves, robbery, and jealousy.

Therefore, as an elderly person, you must be careful when making friends, and do not get too close to your friends. Be careful of exposing your property to cause unnecessary trouble and disaster.

In later life, because I no longer have to rush for work or career. Therefore, it is inevitable that one's life values ??will be different due to the loss of social role. Therefore, it is easy for old people to stick together to keep warm due to boredom and loneliness, so many changes have taken place in married life in their later years.

As an elderly person, you should keep a certain distance from friends of the opposite sex.

In life, we cannot avoid contact with the opposite sex. This is understandable, but we must keep an appropriate distance from friends of the opposite sex.

Because once a person reaches the age of 60, it is easy for the elderly to have an affair due to the boredom of life and the dullness of marriage. But marriage is the most true when it is plain, and the emotions between husband and wife are no longer strong, replaced by the trivialities of life. But once there is a suitable person of the opposite sex around, the two people can easily cause unnecessary troubles due to unclear boundaries and uncontrolled scales.

Therefore, it is normal for couples to have friends of the opposite sex, and it will not affect their marriage. But once the boundary is crossed, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife.

Therefore, as an elderly person, you should stick to your own principles of life and the bottom line of marriage. Keeping a certain distance from the opposite sex will prevent your happy marriage from changing in your later years.

Elderly people should not get too close to their friends. Sometimes they get too close and understand each other too well, so the shortcomings and advantages of both parties will become bargaining chips; If you are too close, you will have too many worldly feelings. Because of the deep friendship, it is not good or you cannot refuse, so you give up your principles of life or work isolation, which will make you feel very depressed. In the end, it will not only hurt yourself, but also hurt the feelings of your friends

So keep a certain distance and grasp a certain degree to achieve the most comfortable state. Therefore, your physical health and optimistic attitude will also help you prolong your life.

Therefore, even if you are friends, you must have certain principles for getting along, keep a certain distance, treat them rationally, and do not rely too much on them, and do not expose too many family conflicts and personal secrets.