Beijing, 14, there used to be a mainland movie "Mobile Phone", which profoundly described that the mobile phone is actually a kind of "Grenade" that can be detonated at any time, because for people who are used to having an affair, a random message about their secret love may set off the "end of the world" of their families, but now the mobile phone is actually a tool for making friends actively, which is more of a so-called "Armageddon".
A cultural person surnamed Xu in Beijing said that as for the fourth emotion, it was quite difficult for a man in Taiwan Province Province who was over three years old to send text messages by mobile phone at first, but with the love life in this city, when a large part of it was expressed by mobile phone text messages, he had to adapt. Now he can send simplified Chinese characters in English Pinyin, and he is also an expert at playing mobile QQ (a domestic mobile dating system, which mainly uses information exchange).
Aren't you afraid of being discovered by your girlfriend stealing QQ and developing a fourth feeling in private? The middle-aged man surnamed Xu said, after all, he is not married, and the crime is relatively light. The popularity of mobile QQ just represents that everyone needs another window of the soul. Some things you just don't tell your loved ones, but some things you can freely vent in front of strangers.
However, sometimes, the fourth kind of emotion gets angry carelessly and becomes the fourth kind of "tired" emotion. The man surnamed Xu said that after his friends developed into the fourth kind of feelings, QQ netizens suddenly wanted to upgrade to the first kind of "marriage feelings", which led to family disputes and finally made him feel really tired as a man.
All men and women in the world are emotional animals. There are always people who are infatuated, fascinated, happy and trapped by love. Affection comes from nature, love comes from fate, and friendship comes from mutual care. But the feelings in the world are all summed up by these three. When there is a feeling between him and her, between her and him, between family ties, between love and friendship, it is less than love, more than friendship, but a little hazy than family ties, modern people call it the "fourth" feeling.
As the old saying goes, a bosom friend is rare in life. When the confidant is the opposite sex, call her "beauty" and call him "blue face". Between him and her, between her and him, there is a fourth emotion, which is not bound by affection, love and friendship. Some people say: "there is less artificial fetters and utilitarianism than love, and more inner liberation and attachment than friendship."
It should be said that the fourth emotion recognized by most of us should be this: between lovers and friends, there are intimate feelings, casual and undisguised physical movements, but there is no sexual relationship, without affecting each other's normal life and development.
In fact, the fourth kind of emotion can't be sublimated to high altitude to cling to the purity of friendship, but it will never be willing to fall into the mud and become an extramarital affair of the same kind. On the ground of reality, it can't compare with the love that Ming media is marrying; Unable to resist the effects of blood concentration and water; Not as good as caring for each other. Therefore, whether it is its own characteristics or the oppression of the living environment, it is doomed to be suspended from emotional significance. Although there is no need to be bound or fixed, it is also a kind of nature, because it conforms to the character of the opposite sex that is easier to understand and communicate.
If the "bosom friends" between unmarried men and women are romantic and hazy, it may not be so simple to add such a fourth emotion between married men and married women. .
For the fourth kind of feelings between married men and women, many people worry that this is the prelude to "extramarital love", which is not unreasonable. This so-called "fourth" feeling between the opposite sex is greater than friendship and less than love, which is making a considerable number of married men and women fall into a confused and difficult situation. Take a step back, lose your confidant and take a step forward. Who can guarantee that it is not an "extramarital affair"?
The possessiveness and exclusiveness of love often lead to this mutual attraction, which will continue to develop in an instant. Because there is no need for more commitment and effort, both sides lack a sense of responsibility, and once the right soil appears, it may be out of control. Undeniably, this kind of emotion is usually not mixed with utilitarian purpose, but purely spiritual attraction, so it is more sacred and inviolable in the hearts of the parties, and thus more lethal to family relations and marriage feelings.
The fourth kind of feeling in the true sense is a road full of understanding, warmth, friendship and many other beautiful plants. However, if the fourth emotion will turn into love, just as friendship will turn into love at any time, can you say that this is friendship or not?
The fourth emotion has been around us silently for a long time, and no one can face it directly. Is existence right or wrong? In fact, it is difficult to distinguish right from wrong, so is the fourth kind of emotion normal, even inevitable and irresistible? How long can it last? This topic is controversial.
Many people think that the "fourth emotion" will not last long. When the other person finds the other half, it's time to take a step back, or it's time to go further when both sides can accept and bear it.
Some people say that it is much heavier to exchange a deep friendship for love. Love is much more important than friendship. Once love is over, will the original friendship still exist? Is this exchange worth it? So they choose to wander on the edge of friendship and love.
Some people think that living in an open and prosperous society, if our feelings are still normal, we will naturally be very different from all kinds of people. We are all independent and the society is tolerant. If we choose a friend of the opposite sex, no one will criticize us for having to love and combine. We regard each other as friends only because we like them. If it is the opposite sex, it is just a coincidence.
Some people think that men and women in the fourth kind of feelings can maintain constant appreciation in obscurity because they do not have too vivid and powerful relationship, too profound responsibilities and obligations, and too comprehensive experience and understanding. Compared with friendship, it has more attraction and charm from the opposite sex. Its rich and meaningful meaning is not only friendship.
In fact, people are not vegetation, how can they be ruthless? Living in this world, each of us is surrounded by all kinds of emotions all the time, but no matter how mature we are, there are always some emotions that make us inexplicably happy or inexplicable.
How to classify feelings is still inconclusive, and the so-called trinity of friendship, love and affection is only a general statement. Therefore, it is not surprising to enjoy the fourth emotion, but it is a rare realm to grasp a "degree" so that it will not hurt the existing or upcoming marriage and fall into the trap of "extramarital affairs".