If you can't understand, try to respect others' wishes. Everyone has the right to choose what he wants or doesn't want to do.
3, keep a normal heart, no one is perfect, shortcomings and criticisms are not terrible or shameful, even if someone is really dissatisfied with you, it is normal, and the most important thing is to constantly improve and improve yourself;
4. Some questions can be answered through other channels, such as the rules of the game, and detailed answers can be obtained through networks such as goole or Baidu search;
Some questions in interpersonal communication don't need to be answered immediately. Many times, time will tell you the answer. Some problems in life may take time to think or take action to solve. Isn't this life intriguing?
Hehe, relax and believe in yourself!
Various forms of communication often occur between people. Through communication, people contact, contact and influence each other. And through communication, it constitutes a relatively stable relationship between people, which is psychologically attractive or mutually exclusive, that is, interpersonal relationship. When it comes to interpersonal relationships, some people think that interpersonal relationships only exist among adults, while interpersonal relationships among high school students are often ignored. In fact, this is a mistake.
High school students are in the early stage of youth, getting rid of the naivety of junior high school students and gradually maturing. Their interpersonal concepts and relationships have also changed from naive to mature and complex: as high school teachers, it will be of great help for students to step into society in the future if they can consciously grasp, explore and study the interpersonal relationships of high school students and give targeted guidance; At the same time, if properly used, it is of far-reaching significance to establish a good class spirit of collectivism, cultivate students' healthy and upward personality and correct emotions, and is also an effective way to carry out ideological education flexibly and variously.
Compared with junior high school students, the interpersonal relationship of senior high school students has changed greatly, and they are gradually approaching adulthood. First of all, in making friends, there are so-called "bosom friends", and many friends who have known each other for life often produce and exhibit lasting friendship at this time. Secondly, the criteria for choosing friends have changed from being influenced by utilitarian favors and emotions to consciously emphasizing the consistency of ideological understanding and goal pursuit, emphasizing the same interests, requiring honest treatment with each other, and taking personality, temper and hobbies as the conditions for getting close to each other: at this point, it has shown a quite obvious adult tendency. Thirdly, junior high school students pay more attention to their position in small groups, often ignoring the whole class. Fourth, in the relationship between boys and girls, junior high school students are more sensitive to the relationship between boys and girls, and the distance between the sexes is still strict; High school students, boys and girls become friendly, understand each other and have a harmonious atmosphere. In addition, in junior high school, interpersonal relationships are mostly manifested in small groups, especially girls. Students in small groups often obey the will of the "leaders" in the group and have dependence; Small groups have fewer high school students. On the contrary, personal activity increased, and they began to fully demonstrate their independent ability.
To sum up, high school students are in a "pseudo-mature period" psychologically and psychologically, and their interpersonal relationships are also diverse, which can be divided into two categories according to the main activity places.
First, interpersonal relationships in schools.
On campus, high school students have the most contact with their classmates. Including students in this class and other classes. For the students in this class, the students are often seemingly harmonious. Generally speaking, there are few sharp conflicts between students in this class. The contradiction between them is often manifested in academic competition, position competition in the collective, consumption competition, communication competition and so on. Because high school students can restrain their emotions by "improving their cognitive ability and willpower with emotional stability", these competitions are all the same. The interpersonal relationship of high school students is often influenced by this competitive factor, and the degree of communication is determined according to their hobbies and personality. It is rare to see those "competitors" form good friends. In the class, gifted students and poor students are very divided, and there is no deep relationship between them. But strangely, they can often make friends with classmates whose grades are very different from their own. The reason is that their communication does not affect each other's position in the class. Therefore, high school students often maintain close relations with their classmates, but they also often become good friends with their classmates. Senior high school students usually associate within this year, and rarely associate with classmates older than themselves. Except for student cadres, students of different ages often only know their names and have little contact with them. The reason is that according to the investigation, some students think that seniors are different from their own age and have a sense of superiority; On the contrary, I have less contact with the lower grades because my grade is high and I have a strong sense of superiority. It should be noted that although the formation of interpersonal relationships in schools is related to grade differences, some double-poor students may be combined because of incorrect discrimination by teachers or rejection by classmates. At this time, grade differences will be in a secondary position; Relatively speaking, the top students in different grades often "go their own way", fighting their own battles and rarely forming study groups spontaneously. Teachers should be soberly aware of this: when doing ideological work, they should consider trying to control the bad interpersonal communication of double-poor students and strive to expand the communication surface of top students, so as to achieve the purpose of dividing and disintegrating the poor students' gangs and expanding and enhancing the influence of top students.
Second, off-campus interpersonal relationships.
High school students' peer relationships outside school often show certain regionality in their communication. Outside the school, the interpersonal relationship of high school students often has the following two characteristics:
First of all, students who have just entered the third year of senior high school are generally in close contact with former senior high school students and often go out with holidays in their spare time. However, this situation will change with the new class getting familiar with the new students. The communication focus of freshmen in senior high school will shift to new students, while the communication with former junior high school students will be reduced to a small number of friends, and they will no longer get together as widely as before to exchange information about their respective schools. At the same time, with the further deepening of friendship with new students, there will also be the intersection of old and new social circles, thus expanding mutual interpersonal relationships. At this time, the relationship between high school students and former junior high school students, rather than the current classmate relationship, will gradually fade away, and the exchange meetings will gradually decrease, but a few friends will develop into lasting friendship with their age.
Third, the impact of interpersonal relationships on high school students
Because of the complicated social environment in which students live, every senior high school student is inevitably involved in various interpersonal relationships. The quality of interpersonal relationship directly affects the individual's mental health and the cultivation of students' good psychology and personality. A person is not an isolated individual. People often communicate with each other in communication, understanding, emotion, behavior and personality. High school students are in the mature stage of personality, moral character and psychological personality, so it is very important for them to have good interpersonal relationships. If they live in bad interpersonal relationships for a long time, full of conflict and indifference, they may become cautious, depressed, introverted or other, and have bad personalities such as short temper and easy suspicion. If students have harmonious interpersonal relationships in class groups, they will feel comfortable, emotionally stable and have strong self-confidence. Therefore, when dealing with students' various problems, we should not only start from their own thoughts, but also be good at finding a breakthrough from their interpersonal communication, help him to improve his interpersonal relationship in the class, care for and help him, and create an equal and friendly interpersonal atmosphere in the class. This will be a good start for the transformation of poor students. For top students, we should encourage them to expand their contacts. On the one hand, it can cultivate their ability, and more importantly, it can subtly guide other students through the expansion of their own social circle. At the same time, we should also educate all students to actively participate in various collective activities, develop a normal and harmonious communication with classmates through activities, establish good interpersonal relationships, make people feel safe psychologically, increase their self-confidence and strength, and gain opportunities for learning and development in communication. At the same time, it is necessary to educate students to correctly handle conflicts in interpersonal communication and realize psychological compatibility, so that high school students can scientifically understand the psychological characteristics of themselves and others, be strict with themselves and respect the overall will of society and the needs of others; Be lenient with others, treat others sincerely, fairly and generously, and understand and tolerate the shortcomings of the principle of having nothing to do with others. Under the psychological compatibility, normal communication, * * * with the construction of a unity and mutual assistance, full of vitality and harmonious class collective. Come on!