In one's life, everyone will meet many different people. These people are light or heavy in our lives, some are sincere and some are hypocritical.
Middle-aged people have experienced the baptism of society, have rich experience and know more and more people around them. However, at this time, many people will sigh that there are so many people they know, but there are always so few real friends.
In fact, it is necessary for middle-aged people to be good at dealing with their circle of friends. Some people should let go and don't let some unworthy people affect their quality of life.
Mr. Lu Xun once said: "It is enough to have a bosom friend in life."
Therefore, middle-aged people should understand that meeting real friends is the quality rule of making friends. And those that are not worth paying, there is no need to waste energy and have no meaning.
There is a famous saying in Xunzi Zhai Ji: "A gentleman is as light as water, and the longer it is, the more true it is. The population is as small as honey, and it is like hatred in a blink of an eye. "
A friend of a gentleman cares about heart-to-heart, and sincerity is true. On the contrary, such people, if they don't really meet, will never be friends, always calculating and using interests to achieve their goals.
Some people are affectionate and friendly to you, and their words are better than singing, but when they turn around, they try their best to calculate you. This kind of person has no morality at all, just like a villain.
Therefore, middle-aged people should understand that no matter what their connections are, they should not become friends with such people, so as not to affect their lives and work.
I remember a man in the company who seemed to get along with everyone, spoke well and felt particularly approachable. But it took a long time to know that this person likes to scold others behind their backs and often trips them up.
In the company, people who have been fooled by him are particularly angry, but there is nothing they can do about him. In the end, I had to break up with him. I can't afford to be provoked. I can't afford to hide.
So, for such people, don't waste time and energy. After all, the life of middle-aged people is not easy. It's important to live your life well, and at the same time, it's important not to let unworthy people affect your quality of life.
Confucius said: To make friends, keep your word.
In this world, sincerity is one of the most important virtues. People who treat others sincerely must be kind at heart.
It is very important for friends to be sincere, frank and trustworthy. Otherwise, there is no sincerity and lying is a matter of course. Is it necessary to make friends with such people? Don't!
A dishonest person is not worth paying. You can never understand whether what he said is true or not.
I met a colleague a few years ago. He likes to brag in front of others about how good he is and how much money he earns.
At first, I thought he was really a great man, and everyone regarded him as the boss. But gradually found that he praised himself so much, why is he still doing the hardest work with a salary of four or five thousand like ordinary people?
The answer is self-evident. He is not what he says at all. He only lies and likes to show off.
When people reach middle age, it is better to stay away from people who like to lie and brag.
Making friends requires sincerity, even the minimum integrity. What else is worth our efforts?
Friends should treat each other sincerely, live in harmony, influence each other and work together in the best direction.
There is a famous saying in Bao Puzi Newsletter: "Friends should not be mixed up."
True friends have nothing to worry about, and it is often those who love to haggle over every ounce who make the relationship stiff.
In life, many people are like this. They are flushed for a little thing and do their best for a little profit. Anyone who meets such a person will be upset and affect his life and mood.
It should be said that most people who love to haggle over every ounce are not grateful.
You have done too much for him, and he will take it for granted and have no gratitude at all. What's more, if you don't help him, he will blame you and always impose some of their ideas on you, as if everything you do to them is right.
Such people can't be friends at all, which is meaningless and unworthy.
Being grateful has always been the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. There is an old saying: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by the spring.
Unfortunately, people who care about this will never understand.
Between people, if you take blindly, but never give, love haggle over every ounce, don't know how to be grateful, and in the end you don't even have a friend.
I remember a pair of girlfriends, one of whom insisted on delivering breakfast to the other for more than a year. Later, because I made a boyfriend, I didn't bring breakfast to my best friend. The other party said that she was still asking why she didn't bring it.
There are many such examples in life. Many people get help from others with wishful thinking, but they still feel at ease. If you don't help her, it will be your fault. This is really speechless.
Therefore, middle-aged people should know that there is no future in making friends with someone who doesn't know how to be grateful, because the other person only cares about what he gets and doesn't care about what you pay.
In short, when people reach middle age, some things need to be relaxed. They should give up and leave, so there is nothing to remember. Why waste energy and time on unworthy people and affect their quality of life?
Gu Xia once wrote: "For my heart, for your heart, we will know each other and remember each other deeply."
A true friend, who really meets and treats each other honestly, is the harmony between heart and heart, without any impurities.
Therefore, if you know how to choose and improve the quality of your circle of friends, you will find that your circle is getting better and better and more beautiful.
The circle around us is getting better and better, and life is getting better and better. In fact, this is also a realm in life.