"Everyone will inevitably have regrets and disappointments in his life. Maybe we can't change this fact, but what we can change is the attitude towards these things. " One of the essences of Yu Dan's The Analects of Confucius is to tell us how to treat the deficiency and suffering in life with a peaceful attitude. First of all, people should be able to face the regrets of life correctly, don't dwell on them, and ask questions over and over again, which will only aggravate your pain. The second attitude is to make up for this regret as much as possible with what you can do. A regret can be greatly magnified. What are the consequences of magnifying regret? This is like the Indian poet Tagore said, "If you cry because you missed the sun, you will also miss the stars." Admit the deficiency of reality and make up for it through your own efforts. This is what The Analects of Confucius tells us about the attitude towards life's shortcomings.
It is often said that you depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out. Friends are the most important in social environment, and you can see your own shadow from friends. In fact, what kind of friends a person has in his life directly reflects what kind of person he is. A good friend is a book, and he can open the whole world to you. We often say that birds of a feather flock together. What kind of person you only need to observe his social circle, from such external environment, you can see his own internal value orientation. So what kind of friends are good friends for us, what is the standard of good friends, and what kind of help will it bring to our life and career; What kind of friends are bad friends, what impact will they have on our lives, and how to distinguish good friends from bad friends?
When Professor Yu Dan talks about The Analects of Confucius, there is a very clear standard for making friends, that is, those who get three points get three points. In other words, there are three kinds of good friends and three kinds of bad friends: friends are straightforward, friends forgive, and friends learn more, which is beneficial; Friends are biased, friends are soft, and friends are stupid and harmful. To be a friend is to be honest, open and upright. One should not flatter. He should have a distinct personality and stand firm in this world. His character can reflect your character and give you courage when you are timid. He can give you a kind of decisiveness when you hesitate, and is a good friend; Forgiveness is a friend of tolerance. In fact, tolerance is sometimes a virtue. This is one of the most profound virtues in the world. We will find that when we accidentally make mistakes or cause harm to others, sometimes excessive criticism and accusation are not as lasting as the power of tolerance. In fact, sometimes what we can't stand most is that when a person repents, what he gets is not the injustice of others but a touch of tolerance, so having a good friend will add a kind of introspection to our hearts; Tolerant friends will not let us degenerate or indulge ourselves more, but will let us find our own shortcomings and deficiencies from our inner tolerance for others. Therefore, a tolerant good friend is a feeling of being a human being, the care we need when we are lost, and the light we need in the dark. A friend who knows more is a well-informed friend. When you feel hesitant in this society, go to a friend and use his extensive knowledge as a reference to help you make a choice. I know three kinds of good friends and three kinds of bad friends, called eccentric friends, friendly and soft friends and stupid friends. What are these three kinds of people? The Analects of Confucius tells us that the first kind of bad friends, friends are eccentric, refer to grumpy friends. We may encounter some situations in our life. When you still need rational judgment, your friend has come to a blind conclusion first. This kind of grumpy friend often affects your judgment because of blind passion, and makes you make consequences that may never be recovered. The second one is friendly and soft. Contrary to the first one, it refers to a friend with a particularly indecisive temper. You know, life is fast and the competition is fierce. Many times, opportunities pass by in front of you, so you must seize them decisively. Soft friends often interfere with your thinking and make you hesitate. Such friends always let you miss the opportunity. The third and worst kind of friends, friends are fake, that is, the kind of villains who seek personal interests by hook or by crook. They often dress up as a kind face to gain your trust until you find yourself being used by them, and at this time you have often paid a painful price.
In fact, what kind of friends we make and how to get along with them all test our vision and wisdom. When we read the Analects of Confucius and listen to Yu Dan's Analects, what we learn from it is a kind of ability to examine and distinguish, as well as a tolerant and selfless attitude. Choosing friends means choosing a way of life, and what kind of friends you can choose depends on what kind of friends you deserve and what kind of life coordinates you stand on. Only a clear understanding of one's self-cultivation is the prerequisite for making good friends. The Analects of Confucius is the condensation of morality and wisdom. He is a persuasive teacher and an honest, frank and tolerant friend. It is a mirror, reflecting our moral sentiment and character cultivation, allowing us to find our own direction in life, to be more artistic and intelligent, sober and leisurely, and to enjoy the gift of life.