Getting along with friends is also an art. There is such an interesting fable in Zhuangzi, which can give us some enlightenment: a large group of wild boars spend the winter in the forest. When the cold wind blows, the pigs will naturally get close to each other and keep warm with each other's heat. But when they get too close, the sharp pig hair will stab each other's bodies, making them feel stinging, and they will immediately separate, but the weather is still the same. They naturally stay together to keep warm. In this way, they separated, approached, approached, and separated. After some time, they finally found a suitable position that was not too far or too close. Keeping a proper distance, pigs can live in harmony, keep warm with each other and not hurt each other.

People get along with each other, in fact, it is the same. Sometimes because you walk too close, you may unconsciously hurt each other, and there will be running-in. From the running-in, we learned how to get along, self-review and introspection, and let us know ourselves and each other better. Li Bai, a "I am a madman in Chu and sang a crazy song to argue Confucius", faced with the indifference of his official career, resolutely chose Mingchuan Xiushui as his companion. Oh, how can I solemnly forget the troubles of a high-ranking official? Communicating with nature is the joy of his life. Holding the moon and then lying in the water makes people feel that Li Bai depends on everything. There is also Tao Yuanming, who "picks chrysanthemums under the east fence and sees Nanshan leisurely". He found tranquility in his communication with nature; Lu Xun's "I recommend Xuanyuan with blood" found firmness in the communication with "Weeds"; Fan Zhongyan, who "worries about the world first and enjoys the world later", found the goal of life in his communication with Dongting Lake. Wang Anshi, "there is moonlight in the pine forest and crystal stone in the stream", experienced another realm of life in the communication with mountains; "The setting sun is lonely in Qi Fei, and the autumn water is * * * the sky is one color." Wang Bo experienced a detached sigh in Preface to Wang Tengting. As the ancients said, a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and a friendship between villains is as sweet as ever. Water, indifferent and tasteless, has become the first factor to nourish life. And sweet wine, even if it is sweet, will spoil the tongue buds of bad people, disturb people's hearts and arouse people's greed. Communication, like water, has been flowing since ancient times; Communication is like tea, faint and fragrant, getting stronger and stronger.

A friendship between gentlemen is as simple as water, and only when you have no desire and no desire can you be magnanimous and broad-minded. Gentlemen are independent of each other, in harmony with each other, without losing the continuous synchronization of personality, which is different from a villain chasing a dog. A friend of a gentleman doesn't care about the length of money or the strength of power. The friendship between heart and heart is on thin ice. Since there is no bad feeling in my heart, there is little sadness and bitterness. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and mountains and rivers will know each other, expressing the pure friendship feelings of the ancients and will be told through the ages. A friendship between gentlemen is enough to cultivate temperament, delight and cherish feelings. Laughing and drinking, clapping and singing, I feel a little proud in my heart, when my chest is thousands of miles away! A friend is another self. If you know how to put yourself in the other's shoes and feel it with your heart, you will understand your friend. Are the mountains and rivers in Boya different from those in the second period?

People who are good at turning mountains and rivers into musical rhymes are rare, and it is even more rare to have friends who are good at listening and understanding. The friendship between gentlemen is indifferent, which is the ideal friendship realm that China people have long admired. Even as a standard for making friends, you can't take it. The friendship between gentlemen is the communication between heart and heart, the tacit understanding with heaven and earth, intertwined like silk thread. A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and mountains and rivers will know each other. Without utilitarian heart, natural and pure communication can make our friendship last longer. A friend of a gentleman with the same goal is to encourage each other, learn morality and direction, and persuade each other to make mistakes. Friendship is based on mutual trust and understanding and has the same morality, so it can last for a long time; The friendship between villains is based on self-interest, and no benefit is good. Such a friend is a fake friend or a temporary friend.