My wife Xiaoxiao and I have known each other for three years and been married for more than a year. She is outgoing and good-looking. When we first met, Xiaoxiao was the one who took the initiative and was very enthusiastic towards me. She often came over to help me when I was opening a shop by myself, and she went through a lot of hardships with me. I also cared about her very much. But after dating for a while, I found that Xiaoxiao still kept in touch with her ex-boyfriend, and sometimes she even sent WeChat messages in front of me to chat. When I first saw her, I told her that since we broke up, I would be unhappy if she stopped contacting her frequently. But she never took it seriously, saying it was just a simple conversation between friends.

Later I found out that they were still chatting on the phone and I couldn’t bear it. We quarreled over this matter. I said I hate you contacting him. You already have a boyfriend. Why don’t you respect me, Xiao? Xiao always said there was nothing wrong with them, it was me who was being petty. One time we had a serious argument and I even told her to break up before she panicked, deleted the person and promised not to contact me again.

My store’s business was ready to expand, so Xiaoxiao resigned and came to help me. Although the money I earned was not particularly large, it provided enough food and drink for the two of us, and our lives began to get better. My relationship with her has warmed up a lot because we are together every day, and we are already ready to talk about marriage.

But there is a problem between us, that is, Xiaoxiao always hangs out with many friends of the opposite sex. Maybe it’s because she is simple and has a good personality, but I can’t stand it. The store was quite busy a few days ago. I went to the manufacturer to order and pick up goods every day, leaving Xiaoxiao to look after the store alone. One day I went back to the store and saw a man helping to sort out the goods. When I entered, neither of them spoke. I felt strange and didn't say anything. After he left, I asked Xiaoxiao what that man did, and she said she was a friend who taught him photography before. The store was too busy these two days and she came over to help. The boy was quite young, and it was okay for both of them to be in the store in front of me. But I just feel embarrassed and always uncomfortable inside. I told Xiaoxiao not to let him come again, and she said yes, but he still came. I asked her why she didn't tell others. She said that others were kind enough to help but she didn't know how to tell others. I felt very unhappy and quarreled with her again.

We always have conflicts over these things. She felt that I didn't love her and always liked to be mean to her and belittle her. I also regretted that sometimes I said too much during arguments and apologized to her afterwards. Later we got married, and Xiaoxiao said that she wanted to open her own shop. There was no good location at that time, so she found a store that was far away from me, and it took more than an hour to drive there. At first, Xiaoxiao would often ask me to come over to help, but I was reluctant to go because it was too far away. Over time, Xiaoxiao had a problem with me, so every time I helped her, everyone was unhappy and looked at each other unhappy.

This lasted for about half a year. We became increasingly speechless and our relationship faded. We had many fights. They were noisy when meeting and on the phone, so much so that they wanted to divorce. I think such separation is a big problem for our relationship. As soon as we get married, it is very hard for Xiaoxiao to go to a far away place to open a store by herself. I was indeed too harsh and bad-tempered towards her before. I wanted to change my attitude and treat Xiaoxiao well, but I didn't expect that she was determined to get a divorce. I was desperate and had no idea about this relationship anymore.

About a month later, Xiaoxiao called me and said that she had been defrauded of more than 300,000 yuan by others and asked me to help her. I went to find her and accompanied her to the police station to confirm that she had indeed been deceived by others. Because of the small benefits promised by others, all the money she had saved for two years and store loans were defrauded in the name of investment. I was speechless, how could she be so stupid.

Xiaoxiao didn’t dare to tell her parents, and I didn’t mention it to my family either. I gave her hundreds of thousands one after another and stayed with her during this time. Xiaoxiao often cried and said some unthinkable things, so I tried my best to comfort her. Later, I helped her sell the store and shared part of her debt, so I could pay back the money every month and live on.

I thought that was the end. In the remaining days, we would start from scratch and work hard. After all, we are still young. Unexpectedly, one day when I was sleeping and Xiaoxiao was watching TV outside, I found her on the phone with her male friends and explaining other people's family problems.

I went out and asked her who she was calling. When I pressed her, she told me that she was a customer who had spent money in her store. The two of them chatted often and even went out to eat together.

I couldn't bear it and started to get angry again. I said that other people's affairs were none of your business. You talked to him so affectionately, and when you were defrauded to death, did he lend you a penny? Xiaoxiao kept saying that nothing happened, speaking in a confident tone.

I told her frustratedly, why there are always some inexplicable men appearing between the two of us. I feel that although I have a bad temper, I have never thought about finding another woman. Why can you always chat with other men and still be good friends with men? But Xiaoxiao still felt that I was being petty and should not interfere with her making friends.

I really can’t stand Xiaoxiao being like this. I really want a divorce this time. I feel that I can treat Xiaoxiao with all my heart at this time. Since she is still carrying me and has a family. men chatting.

But when I calmed down, I felt that I was not considerate enough towards Xiaoxiao in the past and was too in charge. Now that I am a little older, I have changed my bad temper. I know that if there are problems, I should try to solve them instead of blaming them. I feel that Xiaoxiao has not betrayed me. She still has feelings for me. Am I really too petty?