Based on my understanding and observation of older male youths, I think there are only two reasons for finding the wrong partner, either because of appearance or poor family conditions. But these people should be able to find their own true love through their own changes. Here I will give a simple answer and give these friends some advice.

1. Appearance

This is probably the most important problem for many older leftover men. Although they have good conduct and a well-off family, if they do not have advantages in height, weight, and appearance, they will not be able to win in any aspect. If you suffer more or less psychological shock for a long time during a blind date or making friends, it will leave a shadow and make people laugh. It is better to close yourself off. You would rather sit at home and play games instead of socializing or actively contacting friends. Slowly I began to reject meeting new friends, and could only find happiness in the virtual world in games. My parents became anxious, and I was giving up on myself, and my life was not improving.

I suggest these friends put down their games, put down their inferiority complex, build up their self-confidence, push open the closed door, go out, discover a different world, show their best in all aspects, and travel through various activities , exercise your communication skills, expand your social circle, and find your soulmate. You have to know that fate will not come to your door by itself. You have to find it by yourself. Maybe that person is waiting for you in the dimly lit place opposite.

2. Poor family conditions

If the family conditions are poor and you don’t work hard, if an older young man in the city still has no house, no car, no family background, and you are lazy, No matter how handsome you are, it's all in vain. I don't think any girl with ideas will marry you. At most, she will be an ordinary friend. Marrying you is either this or that. Life is a problem. Who wants to Come and suffer with you.

I suggest that such friends must work hard and never be lazy. Although it is vulgar to ask for money when dating, but I tell you, the reality is so cruel. If you don’t work hard, you will fundamentally end your relationship with others. This society is out of touch and will eventually be ruthlessly abandoned by society. Therefore, poor conditions are not terrible. What is terrible is the lack of self-motivation. You must give people a positive attitude, work hard to make money, and conscientiously do the work within your abilities. When your performance is praised by neighbors, colleagues, and friends, When it comes to praising, are you still afraid that you are not finding the right person?