Let's talk about personal etiquette first
First, decoration and clothing.
Beautification means that women should not be too gorgeous and dazzling. I don't think there are many opportunities for you to go to the interview like this. Because you are here to work, be solemn and don't give people a sense of floating. I don't think it's a good idea not to wear makeup. At the very least, I should wear some light makeup, which is also a way to respect others. Think about whether dressing up neatly makes others look comfortable! Do you think if an old farmer and a man in a suit and tie came to negotiate with you, would you choose that man in a suit and tie?
During the interview, someone said, "When interviewing, don't you just put on new clothes from the inside out, dress neatly that day, and then go to the hair salon for a haircut?" In fact, it is wrong to do so. First, people will know that you are ready in advance at a glance. Sometimes Lian Gang's hair gel is still on your head, and you can tell at a glance that you just came out of the hair salon. Second, because you just put on new clothes, everything is new and you will feel very uncomfortable, so you'd better put them on one or two days in advance and get used to them. That means preparing for the interview one or two days in advance.
Bring more resumes when you interview, because the resumes you gave to the interviewer have been booked into a thick dozen. He needs to look at your resume and rummage through it to find it. At this time, you should take out your prepared resume and give it to him. He will feel very comfortable. After the interview, you should write a letter of thanks to the interviewer. Although many people generally don't write now, it's etiquette. I still hope that everyone will write it. If you don't think others can write, will it attract your attention if you write? When interviewing or meeting, bring a notebook with delicate leather and a good pen. Don't just find a notebook or pen.
Go half an hour before the interview. Familiar with their front desk. The front desk is the key person. Ask for more information about interviewing your supervisor. Such as address, etc. Once, a Ms. Wang received a phone call and said, Hello, this is Wang Hao from xx Company. Please come to our company for an interview at nine tomorrow. The next day, he arrived at 8: 30 and chatted with the receptionist for a while. The waiter made a phone call and said, "Mr. Wang, Miss Wang has arrived." Then she realized that it was Mr. Wang who called her Before that, she regarded this man as a nobody. Because what people usually say is what little people or employees do. So when she went in for an interview, she said hello! Manager Wang. Imagine if she said, hello, Wang Hao! What does Mr. Wang think? "Miss Wang" has been calling for several years and is used to it. Can he get used to suddenly calling him Wang Hao?
Second, introduce yourself.
You should be prepared: on less important occasions. For example, on the train and other occasions, just say your name and don't report your position.
Work style: Hello, I am the manager of xx Company.
Communication: Hello, I'm xx. Please take care of me or give me a business card. More casual.
Etiquette: such as opening ceremony, flag-raising ceremony, etc. More solemn.
Third, the eyes
Time: When talking to someone for 30 minutes, if the other person only looks at you for 10 minutes, it means that he is belittling you. If 10 minutes to 20 minutes, it means that he is very friendly to you. 20 minutes to 30 minutes explain two situations: First, pay attention. Second, hostility. That is, when talking with others, keep your eyes on 2/3 of the conversation time.
Location: On the forehead, it belongs to the official gaze. Things that are not too important will not take long.
On the eyes, it belongs to attention gaze.
Eye-to-lip is a social gaze.
From the eyes to the chest, it is an intimate gaze.
Angle: Head-up, representing equality. Squinting is rude.
Looking down: looking down from above, looking down on others.
Fourth, face.
Sometimes frown, indicating no resistance. Pursed lips indicate anger. "oh" Express surprise!
Verb (abbreviation for verb) smile
Learn to smile. Smiling is very important. Who likes to face a person who laughs coldly every day Just like the staff of savings offices and banks, when you go to withdraw money, are they cold and have no smile at all? It's like someone owes them something. It doesn't feel good. In fact, this is their occupational disease, and they are used to it. Let me tell you a story:
In the past, a company asked its employees to get an important material, but they were all scolded back. The boss gave this task to Xiao Li, and Xiao Li was very anxious! But it's not enough not to take this material, so I went anyway. At that time, I saw that the section chief was still swearing. At this time, Xiao Li said nothing, just smiled, or smiled and said, "Oh? So what? Really? " Just nod and smile. Later, Wu Kechang scolded for a while, and Xiao Li said, "Wu Kechang, you are good at expressing your inner anger!" . Later, Wu Kechang looked at Xiao Li and said, "Well! This young man is good! I won't embarrass you, just take it back! " In this way, he got what others didn't get.
6. Body language to be avoided.
When talking with people, don't cross your hands, shake your body, lean to the left for a while, lean to the right for a while, or touch your hair, ears and nose, which gives people the feeling of impatience. I was playing with a pen while I was talking. Some people especially like to spin pens, as if to show off. Look how cool I am! Don't press the pen back and forth. Although it is ok to talk with peers, it is impolite to do so when talking with elders.
Let's talk about the basic etiquette of visiting first.
Most people in China are very hospitable. It is such a delight to have friends coming so far. For visitors, whether they are booked or not, the first thing is the basic etiquette of visiting guests.
Being a guest has different situations: visiting for the first time, visiting old friends, being invited to an appointment, asking for help, etc. So the manners are slightly different. However, no matter what the situation, as a guest, we should think of the host. When the guest is at home, it will bring less inconvenience to the host, and there are some roughly the same etiquette to follow. (1) Pay attention to the choice of time. Generally speaking, when you visit someone, you should choose a good time in advance. It is not appropriate to choose busy farming or three meals, and it is not too late at night. Holidays and weekends are good times to visit, but if you don't have an appointment, don't rush. The host usually has other plans at these times. It is most polite to make an appointment in advance. Try not to be an uninvited guest and come uninvited. For scheduled visits, both hosts and guests should be punctual, keep their appointments and keep their promises. Guests should arrive on time or a little earlier. If you can't keep the appointment due to special circumstances, you should try to inform the other party. It is very impolite to cancel the appointment silently. (2) Pay attention to the choice of clothes. A general visit is neat, simple and generous, and does not need to be too gorgeous. It is disrespectful to the host not to trim the margins. Celebrating a happy event must be taken seriously. (3) Knock at the door or ring the doorbell. Knocking on the door should have a sense of rhythm, not light or heavy, not urgent or slow, and it is advisable to knock two or three times. Don't break into an unlocked or open door. It is impolite to surprise the host. It's best to wait for the person to visit to enter the room before taking a seat. If you need to wait a long time, you can sit down and talk to the receptionist or read some books such as newspapers and magazines. When the visitor comes, he should stand up and say hello. No matter how urgent the matter is and how tight the visit time is, you can only greet each other at the door, don't talk about the topic, and talk about it after entering the room, otherwise it will leave an immature impression on the other party. Those who want to wear slippers should change at the door and say hello to their families. It is impolite not to say hello. (4) Thank the host for his warm hospitality. When the host provides tea, candy and other snacks, he should get up or lean over to take it and say "thank you". If he offers cigarettes, he should politely refuse. (5) In the process of conversation, we should pay attention to the etiquette and skills of conversation, keep the conversation short and say less negative and boring words. Be good at listening, respond positively and don't interrupt others' conversation at will. Guests should not look around the host's house. Don't walk into the master's bedroom unless invited by the master. (6) Grasp the best time to leave. General visit, the time should not be too long, nor should it be rushed. Generally, half an hour to an hour is appropriate. If it is a business or official visit, the length of time can be decided according to needs. It is better for guests to leave after the conversation with the host has reached a climax, or when a new guest comes, if the host feels tired during the conversation or his family reminds him that he has something urgent to do, it is more appropriate to leave at an appropriate time. When you leave, you should thank your host and family for their hospitality. If the host family has elders, you should leave them. To sum up, as a guest, the basic etiquette should be summarized as follows: make an appointment in advance, don't be an uninvited guest; Come as scheduled, don't be a guest who stood me up; Be polite and don't be a rude guest; Dress neatly and don't be a slovenly guest; Dignified and polite, don't be a vulgar guest; Leave at the right time and don't be a difficult guest.
There are still many places in social etiquette that we need to learn. We should constantly improve ourselves and enrich ourselves. On the Etiquette Cultivation of College Students
Abstract: China has been known as "the country of etiquette" since ancient times. Today, Dali advocates that the society should pay attention to spiritual civilization and stress civilization.
Paying attention to etiquette and politeness is a specific social morality that every citizen must have. This paper focuses on the etiquette cultivation of contemporary college students.
The importance and etiquette status of contemporary college students.
Keywords: etiquette, college students' accomplishment, politeness
China is an ancient civilization with a long history, and is known as "the state of etiquette". It is a fine tradition handed down from generation to generation by the Chinese nation to talk about and understand "ceremony". The long etiquette culture is a rich legacy left by predecessors. With the progress of the times and the increasingly frequent and close interpersonal communication, etiquette is becoming more and more important as a lubricant of communication. In today's well-off society, advocating etiquette is the basic requirement of society for its members, and it is also the spiritual requirement of social members. Paying attention to etiquette plays an important role in promoting social progress and improving the level of civilization.
Paying attention to etiquette and observing etiquette norms can effectively show a person's education, demeanor and charm, better reflect a person's cognitive level and respect for others and society, and make personal knowledge, cultivation and value recognized and respected by society. Appropriate etiquette can not only give the public the trust and desire of affability, respect and cooperation, but also make the process of cooperation with the public full of harmony and success.
If a student knows both books and manners, and his knowledge level and moral level are seriously out of harmony, it is impossible for him to become an excellent talent. An excellent talent should not only have high-level professional knowledge, but also have good moral quality and etiquette. Etiquette is the expression of good moral cultivation and one of the important ways to cultivate good moral quality, which needs to be reflected in a polite way. Although the research and education of etiquette have developed in China, especially the combination of occupation and etiquette has become the general trend. However, etiquette education has not attracted enough attention in colleges and universities, and most colleges and universities have not set up etiquette courses.
College students are a group with high level of knowledge. In today's China society, they have been regarded as intellectuals, and they are also the leaders and pillars of China's future development. On the moral level, they should put forward higher requirements on etiquette cultivation. The pursuit of individuality is the characteristic of contemporary young people. Some college students regard ugliness as personality in the process of pursuing outstanding personality. Many uncivilized, impolite and even ugly, stale and vulgar things are regarded as "trendy" and "chic". In today's university campus, you can often see disheveled people, misbehaving people, swearing people and spitting people. Other phenomena are not uncommon, such as closing the door and thunder, never introducing myself on the phone, no longer being polite to the teacher, and walking with a lunch box. These undesirable phenomena are not isolated, but are becoming more and more common.
The reasons for the low etiquette quality of some college students are as follows:
The first point: the side effects of exam-oriented education in middle schools. At this level, parents, teachers and even the whole education system have unshirkable responsibilities. The magic of college entrance examination command makes primary and secondary education focus on "scores" and "exams", while moral education and aesthetic education have long been ignored. Students regard scores as the "lifeblood", teachers regard scores as the "magic weapon", and parents only look at students' grades and don't care about the all-round development of students' psychology and personality. This practice of measuring students' merits only by their academic performance rankings determines that they only work hard on teaching and rarely spend time and energy on shaping children's souls. It seems that the education system needs to invest heavily, constantly learn from the reasonable components of the education system at home and abroad, and constantly improve an education system that can adapt to the development of the times.
The second point: social transformation. When society is in a state of chaos at the beginning of value transformation, ethics and morality are in a state of chaos. As a member of society, it is also difficult for college students to "emerge from the mud without being stained, bright without being demon". The university town is no longer a pure land like Eden. As a typical sub-cultural circle, university town is bound to be influenced and eroded by social culture. In the society of commercialization and coal transportation, the ivory tower that does not eat human fireworks has long since ceased to exist. Contemporary China faces a similar social and cultural background. College students in China are going through a painful "weaning" process. How to judge the truth, goodness and beauty is theirs, and they are eager to make up for it.
The third point: the influence of bad social atmosphere. As far as college students are concerned, there are many unhealthy tendencies, such as the proliferation of "desk literature" and "toilet literature", the books in the library are scribbled, some university professors are exposed to copying other people's academic papers, some teachers are perfunctory in class to earn income, and there are also murders, pornography, bribery, corruption and deception in society.
Therefore, college students should absorb the essence of traditional culture, improve their cultural and moral cultivation and learn some necessary etiquette common sense, so as to stand in the forefront of society and get more affirmation from people.
In fact, I don't know if the university has ever thought about it: when you talk to people in polite language in social life; Communicate with people in a civilized way; When you associate with people with proper documents, people will certainly feel your polite bearing, natural and graceful temperament, civilized and moral cultivation, and you will also pay some respect in your life. Elegant and reasonable speech and cordial overall appearance will make people feel a warm spring breeze blowing warmth and enthusiasm.
Etiquette runs through interpersonal communication and serves the connotation of communication; Ignoring etiquette will inevitably affect the depth and durability of communication. Whether the lack of etiquette affects communication is because of small loss. Not only foreign communication, but also we college students should pay attention to etiquette and form habits in our daily life, which will naturally become a kind of cultivation and help improve our taste.
China is known as "an ancient civilization and a state of etiquette". Paying attention to "ceremony" is an excellent tradition handed down from generation to generation by the Chinese nation, and its long-standing etiquette culture is a rich legacy left by our ancestors. Today, when China is more open, etiquette not only embodies rich and excellent historical traditions, but also has distinct connotation of the times. With the increasingly frequent communication between people and countries, it is particularly important to pay attention to etiquette and reciprocity and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship.
So what is civilized etiquette? That is, when people communicate with each other in society, they express their inner respect for others through beautiful musical instruments and ceremonies. In social communication, civilized etiquette is not only the foundation of standing in the world, but also the knowledge of treating people and making friends. As long as everyone is in society, whether in politics or business, in and out of daily work or important occasions, at home or out, it is inseparable from civilized manners. Civilized manners are everywhere. It can not only show a person's demeanor and charm, but also reflect a person's inner knowledge and cultural accomplishment.
It can be said that etiquette is a business card for interpersonal communication. Civilized manners can help us "standardize our manners and learn to treat people;" Create a good image and win social respect; Building a bridge of friendship leads to success. "Etiquette is a passport to help us succeed and create a happy life. Therefore, it is one of the basic prerequisites for everyone to stand on the society, and it is also an important condition for people to achieve their careers and get a better life.
If you want to be a civilized and polite person, you should not only stop spitting, swearing and littering, but also respect the old and love the young. These are the most fundamental.
I thought the same thing.