For those who are too lazy to pay attention to him and have no interest in you, no matter how far you want him to die, don’t give it; don’t give it; who are you? For weak relationships with acquaintances who are slightly related and don't want to be embarrassed, don't look at it, they are shy; there is no red envelope; they will not be forgotten.

For some sentimental things that may come in handy in the future, the gifts are ready and waiting for you to pick them up (prepare a few small things with you, such as chocolates, etc.) If you really come, you will really give it); send a one-yuan red envelope and say that I reward you; I have already prepared yours (same as before).

For close friends, if they are really good friends, it doesn’t matter how they should be treated. Regardless of whether you say you won't give it or you actually buy something nice to give as a gift, neither of you should feel uncomfortable.

Or before returning to China, I will post a message in the circle of friends: I am finally going home. I don’t have to eat dirt anymore. I am so hungry. If you want to treat guests to dinner and give gifts, please hurry up and make arrangements. I am waiting for you.

After I sent this half-joking message, some people still came over and asked: I am going back to China, have you brought me a gift? Then I usually reply: Hahaha, are you talking about the dirt I eat? I'll bring it to you. Is two taels enough? This usually ends.

There are also some really shameless people who directly send photos to ask them to buy on behalf of them. They just say: Alipay or bank transfer? Or will it be transferred directly to my Euro account? What? Do you want me to pay in advance? I have no money. How about you give me money when I return to China? I will buy it for you next time I return to China. That's almost the end of it.

However, when I really go back to my country, I will still buy some small things, such as: supermarket’s own brand chocolates, one euro per box, I bought 10 boxes, etc. They don’t know the brand anyway. There are also Kiko lipsticks, which cost two or three euros each. If a girl you don’t know well asks for a gift, throw one away. Of course, good friends spend a lot of money to buy things.

Finally, if you really have a lot of relatives and friends like this around you, maybe you should think about whether your circle of friends is healthy. It’s hard for me to imagine that a person needs to maintain a lot of useless connections. So either you may think you can use them, but you ignore this; or you really can't use them, but you feel it's a pity to throw away your connections.

If it’s the latter, it may mean that your ability to expand new connections is limited, resulting in your inability to effectively develop connections that don’t care what you want.