What needs to be surpassed is not introverted personality, but inferiority

No matter the impression of the world or the theory of psychologists, extroverts are sociable, eager for excitement and adventure, and their emotions are impulsive; Introverts like quiet, sensitive, introspective, don't like excitement, and like a stable life. Of course, these qualities are innate, and there is nothing wrong with either extroverts or introverts.

However, in most current living and working environments, there are a lot of extroverted expectations: no matter what their personality, all people are equally advised to speak their thoughts more firmly and loudly; If you want to succeed, you must first brush out your sense of existence; Spare no effort to show yourself in self-promotion.

It is this strongly biased expectation that makes introverts believe that there is something wrong with their personality-since most people can't be wrong, it can only be their own fault. They began to wonder why they don't like to express their opinions, don't want to start a conversation on their own initiative, and don't want to go to a lively party that everyone else wants to go to. Why do things that are easy and comfortable for extroverts become so difficult for them? Are they really inferior to others?

Many introverts internalize these thoughts of "self-imperfection" and become a heavy burden. They feel that their introverted personality is a weakness, a secret that makes people feel inferior, or an insurmountable obstacle.

Many introverted people often hope to change themselves. Unfortunately, they often think about how to change their introverted personality, but they never dare to face up to their inner inferiority. In fact, once introverts stop fighting with their own nature, they will really feel free, and the charm of their personality can be truly released.

Here are some suggestions for introverts to surpass their inferiority complex:

Recognize yourself, introversion is not a minority

Although the expectations of the whole society tend to be extroverted, introverted personality tends to be marginalized. However, according to the existing research, 1/3 to 1/2 of the existing population belong to introverts. Although this data looks amazing, it is still possible to think about it carefully, because there are definitely many introverts who disguise themselves as extroverts.

Of course, due to their own personality, many introverts are reluctant to integrate into the surrounding groups, and they don't know that they have so many introverted partners. They will feel different from ordinary people and may feel that they are all alone.

But the reality is that introverts are not alone. Don't forget that when you are worried about your personality, there may be many people around you who are struggling with their inferiority and fear.

Accept yourself, and be introverted and passive

Although introverts prefer quietness to activity, they are unwilling to take the initiative to speak, and they are somewhat out of place in the crowd. But introverts don't really close themselves off, or hide in the basement for ulterior activities. They just don't like to associate with unfamiliar people, but prefer to work alone or play their role in small teams. They are thoughtful, don't reveal their attitudes and emotions easily, and prefer to have a heart-to-heart talk to Kan Kan.

Introverts usually cherish time, like to socialize in small circles, and only interact with people they trust. They can express profound and original opinions on topics of interest. Introverts don't resist socializing, but set boundaries for themselves-only those who meet their inner standards can get their attention.

Believe in yourself. Introverts are equally gifted.

Introversion is often accompanied by such labels as sensitivity, caution and shyness. When introverts live in a world dominated by extroverts, there is no doubt that this has become a heavy standard for introverts, and when this standard of personality is linked to success, introverts will feel that they are useless and will no longer be so difficult to understand.

However, introverts also have amazing talent, and they may be keen observers; A writer with profound thoughts; Or a critical critic. They can give comments that hit the nail on the head, throw thought-provoking questions, and pay more attention to details that others will easily ignore-as long as they can face up to and accept their own personality, introverts can easily show the sparkle in their personality.

Let introverted personality be the help for you to make friends

It is true that extroverts have incomparable advantages over introverts in social communication. Nevertheless, introverted personality can also give play to the advantages that extroverts can't.

listen to each other's words

extroverts are always eager to express their views and show others their unparalleled experiences. But it is difficult for them to listen to each other's words, and they always interrupt when others haven't finished. Listening is a unique advantage for introverts when making friends. Sometimes, interrupting other people's words or giving an impatient response does not mean that they can really understand each other's meaning, which is also the root cause of many conflicts and differences. Introverts can listen to their friends carefully and give the most appropriate response after careful thinking. And understanding and trust are the foundation of deep friendship.

Leave room for others to shine

Similarly, introverts know how to leave room for others to express themselves. For extroverts, it seems natural for them to seize every opportunity to show themselves, so they rarely take into account whether they oppress others' performance space. For introverts, they are more inclined to let others stand in front of the stage to show, and they will become a loyal audience, meet the performance needs of performers, and make them feel oppressed.

Show quiet leadership

The difficulty that many introverts need to face is that they simply don't know how to talk to others on their own initiative, or how they can give an appropriate reply when someone accosts them. In fact, if you want to make friends with other introverts, all you need to do is to lead them.

You can choose your own time and place, and then boldly invite those introverts who are interested in you. In fact, introverts don't resist communication. Usually, they just don't realize that they have to do it. You just need to give them a suitable reason and they will go happily. Of course, activities don't need to be too lively. After all, introverts tend to be quiet in character.

Grasp the degree of social fatigue

Introverts are different from extroverts. Their social needs are not as great as those of extroverts, and if they are exposed to social environment too frequently, they will have certain social fatigue. When extroverts can get together with relatives and friends for dozens of days, introverts need a certain amount of buffer time. When dealing with introverts, you can better understand the fatigue brought by this kind of social interaction. Grasp the degree of fatigue, so that you can enjoy the happiness when you get together with your friends, and at the same time, you can taste the peace and tranquility when you are alone.