as a friend, you should learn to listen. When your friend encounters setbacks and troubles, he will find someone to vent his feelings. As a friend, you can listen to each other sincerely and patiently, which is to open an emotional vent for your friend. When a friend tells you something, you not only listen patiently, but also put in one or two emotional words of comfort from time to time, or give ideas and think of ways for your friend, so that his feelings will step out of the swamp because of balance, and he will feel that having a friend like you is the real reliance. In this way, the feelings of friends will deepen and the friendship will increase day by day. A lady was extremely depressed because of her marriage, so she called her girlfriend to pour out her troubles. However, those days, just as this girlfriend was busy with her work, she couldn't find time to listen to her friend's dumping: as a result, the girl finally took her life angrily because she couldn't bear the emotional repression for a while. If I could have listened to that friend's story and comforted him a little, my friend would not have gone to the wall.
2. Friends should also be divided into relatives and friends.
Although friends are the most friendly or reliable communication objects in the social circle, human nature is complex, so when communicating with friends, we should also think carefully and distinguish between relatives and friends. According to nature, most people who become friends have similar interests and personalities, similar ambitions, similar cultural levels, lofty personality and empathy. In terms of communication reasons, there are friends who are embarrassed, friends who never turn against each other, friends in need, friends with gentlemen, friends who forget their years, friends who meet once, friends who live in the market, friends who live in the past, and friends who are old friends. No matter what reason you are a friend, after a period of communication, you should have a choice, and you should have relatives and friends. For example, some friends are sincere and pure, and naturally they can be sincere and intimate; But some of them are invested in you for some utilitarian purpose. When a certain amount of benefits can't be achieved or when you are poor and have no use value for him, he will leave you and make friends like Zhang. What's more, it is better to keep a certain distance.
3. Enough is enough when asking for human feelings. People can't make friends without human relations.
however, people must not want more. You ask for help once, and people help you. If you don't know much about it and push your luck again and again, your friends will be bored and resentful of people like you, and the relationship between friends will be unsustainable. Others, regardless of each other's tolerance, engage in friendship coercion in order to meet their own needs, which is also an act that makes friends disgusted. Xiao Liu's income is not much. Apart from normal expenses, there is little left in his monthly salary, so his savings are limited. However, his friend Xiao Zhang wanted to buy a house, so he had to let Xiao Liu lend him 3 thousand yuan. Xiao Liu could do nothing. Not only did he fail to meet Xiao Zhang's requirements, but he was also disgusted by Xiao Zhang's friendship coercion.
4. Be there when friends need it most
In the face of a mixed society and changeable nature, no one can guarantee that everything will be all right in Dont Ask For Help, and no one boasts that he will never be in danger for life. Therefore, people are always eager to get help when they are in trouble. Therefore, as a friend, when others need your help, you must be there in time and sincerely reach out to help your friend to tide him over. As long as you grasp this communicative principle, the friendship between friends and you will deepen day by day.
5. Have a "degree" when communicating
There is a very philosophical saying in China called "extremes meet". In life, anything that goes too far will go to its opposite. The same is true of the communication between friends. The past is very close, which is prone to cracks. Only by grasping a moderate degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone has differences in culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential, and family situation. The size of this difference is sometimes directly proportional to the communication frequency between friends, that is, the more frequent and intimate communication, the greater the pull. Therefore, the communication between friends, no matter the time, distance, etc., should be kept separate from each other, in order to achieve the artistic conception of "wanting more, feeling more", and to be happy with the arrival of friends and miss them because of their departure.
6. Don't idealize your friends
There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although a friend is similar in temperament, similar in interests and congenial in nature, after all, a friend is a living person, and there will always be some differences with you, there will always be some shortcomings, and there will always be secrets that you don't want people to know. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize your friends too much, and don't take "I" as a reference for all your words and deeds. First of all, tolerate your friends' shortcomings, so once you find your friends' shortcomings ... > >
Question 2: How to get along with friends? A friend is a cup of hot tea in his hand while standing at the window enjoying the falling snow in winter. A friend is the glass of wine intoxicated in the autumn whisper in the harvest season; A friend is an umbrella in his hand when walking in the heavy rain in summer; A friend is the spring breeze that blows away the gloomy winter in my heart when spring comes; Friends are the hope and sustenance when we are happy or sad in our life. In this world, people can't live without their parents, nor can they live without friends. Yes, it is the truth that parents give birth to private parts and friends grow up.
because of loneliness and unbearable, life will become uninteresting and elegant. Life without friends is like a cup of coffee without sugar, which is bitter and a little sad.
People's emotions are sometimes elusive. People often make friends with the most unexpected people in the most accidental time, the strangest place, and even they don't know how this emotion comes from. So in a world where fish and eyes are mixed, there is a story that two unrelated people become friends. In fact, this is a necessity given by God, and we call it fate. Fate is the best catalyst for strangers to become friends and the only answer to pursue the other half in life. Perhaps there are too many things that are predestined friends and inseparable in this world. It has already made us forget the existence of predestination, and even neglected that the true feelings are around us. Society is simple, but laity disturbs it. We all care too much about what we want and just forget to give our true feelings. Without input, there will naturally be no output, and if you don't treat others with sincerity, you will naturally not get the true feelings of others. The society is fair, and people's hearts are kind. If you treat everyone you know with your heart, you will find that life is really beautiful.
I'm so happy when some friends come: I pretend to be happy when some friends come. Happiness is only superficial, and only you know who your friends are. There is a steelyard between heaven and earth, and there is also a pole in people's hearts, but the weight is ourselves.
people often say to make friends. I think this idea is not correct. Actually, friends don't have to be made, do they? Some people want to be friends with you, and do everything possible to make friends with you, climb relatives, make friends, treat each other with wine and meat, and bridge the gap with money. This kind of time often makes you feel embarrassed, but it is often because these friends send you to the road of no return.
Honor and money are just passing clouds. Only a trace of true feelings in my heart reminds me that the world is full of too many human feelings, and the world is bleak. Only when we have experienced it with our own eyes can we really understand it.
This society was originally sincere, but it was only artificial reasons that made it hypocritical. People living in it also had a mask. With the change of time, people changed.
We should make friends carefully in this society, but we should not be afraid to make friends just because someone has made unclean people and suspects that there are no good people in this world. It is necessary to believe that not all people are hypocrites, there are always constant people, depending on whether we make friends with pigs and dogs or mentors. It also depends on whether we have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong and true and false.
Friends are a lifetime thing, and people's understanding is increasing day by day. Friendship is like a glass of fine wine. The longer it is left, the stronger it will become, the more fragrant it will become. Sometimes friendship is like a glass of boiled water, which will become clearer, brighter and purer without any impurities. A friend is someone who drinks a cup of wine and a glass of water with us, and also someone who reminds you of his warmth when you are freezing in the cold.
In this world, one can't be friends with everyone he knows. True friends can't be forced, and God doesn't stipulate who must be friends with whom. Everything must follow fate, and everything in life can be forced, except "love", and friendship is the same.
distance makes beauty. Friends are not people who get together every day. It is the most wonderful feeling to have a bosom friend to think about in the corner of the sea.
through the wind, through the rain, through the intangible years. Perhaps we will never forget that kind of long yearning in this life, which only true friends will understand. It is a kind of deep affection from the heart, and it is an unforgettable attachment. True friends are missed by heart, not seen by eyes every day. People thousands of miles away may be the people we want to see most, and perhaps the farthest friends are our recent thoughts. People in rivers and lakes, what we need is the * * * and joy after reunion, not the indifference and dullness of meeting every day.
the days will flow from flower to flower ... > >
question 3: use a famous saying to describe that I don't know how to get along with my friends. I am not poor if I have a wizard.-(Qing) Zheng Banqiao knows myself in the sea, and heaven remains our neighbourhood.-(Tang) Wang Bo we are both unhappy -- to the sky's end, we meet. We understand. What does acquaintance matter?.-(Tang) Bai Juyi Mo Chou knows nothing about the road ahead, and no one in the world knows you.-(Tang) If you are satisfied with the world, you can talk about making friends quickly. It is important to know each other, and people know each other, and it is important to know each other.-(Spring and Autumn Period) Mencius' friendship between gentlemen is indifferent, while that between villains is bitter. Gentlemen are indifferent to their relatives, and villains are unwilling to give up.-(Warring States Period) Zhuangzi is near Zhu Zhechi, and those who are near Mexico are black.-(Western Jin Dynasty) Fu Xuan's life is dear to each other, so why should he use gold and money?-(Tang Dynasty) Li Bai make friends. Villains and villains are friends with the same interests.-(Song) Ouyang Xiu enjoys knowing each other.-(Song) Wang Anshi's enemies should be reconciled, but not married, and each of them should look back.-(Ming) Feng Menglong is a hero in adversity.-(Qing) Wei Xi's two thousand gold is easy to get, but it is hard to find a bosom friend.-(Qing) Cao Xueqin changed my heart, for your heart, before knowing each other. Boya will never play the drums again for life.-Hanshu is not heavy enough, but it is important to know yourself when you meet.-Bao Rong, a gentleman, should be a hero in the world when he is living.-A gentleman in The History of the Three Kingdoms, Shu Shu and Liu Ba Biography should not pay homage to him, and he should not profane his friends when he makes friends with him.-If Zhouyi knows that all countries are brothers, where can he meet an old friend?-Chen Gangzhong is a friend. Always consistent.-(Song) Ouyang Xiu knew friendship when he died. When he was poor and rich, he knew friendship. When he was expensive and cheap, friendship was seen.-Historical Records didn't say that he was drunk with his heart, and he no longer took a glass of wine.-(Jin) Tao Yuanming had no old or young in his life, so why should he be in the same tune first?-(Tang) Du Fu had a heart-to-heart relationship and never met again. Don't forget each other after parting.-(Three Kingdoms) Cao Zhi knows each other all over the world, and how many people can know each other.-(Ming) Feng Menglong is happy to know each other, but he misses his old friends when he is dying.-(Tang) Han Yu is a dear friend and a humble friend.-(Tang) Luo Bin and Wang know each other when they are in trouble, and it is good to be alone.-(Tang) Li Bai voted for papaya and held it as Qiong Yao .. Four seas meet flesh and blood relatives.-Wild Goose Gate Collection is full of love when friends come, and intimate people speculate when they talk.-(Ming) Feng Menglong is United, and his profit breaks the gold.-On the Book of Changes, the baby is ringing, and his friendly voice is sought.-The Book of Songs, Xiaoya, is full of joy and new acquaintance.-(Warring States) Qu Yuan's awkward friendship. Those who pay attention to color love Chongqing.-In Warring States Policy, the husband is cold, frost and snow fall, and then you know the luxuriant pines and cypresses.-In Huainanzi, the power is combined, and the power is sparse.-Historical Records knows the horsepower from a distance, and people will see it for a long time.-In Yuan Qu Xuan, we know each other far and near, and Wan Li is still a neighbor.- Not as good as Wang Lun.-(Tang) Li Bai's friendship is old and closer.-(Tang) Although Du Fu has brothers, he is not as good as a friend.-A gentleman is as light as water, and his feelings are more true when he is old. A small population is like honey, and he is like an enemy in a blink of an eye.-A friend's friendship should not be mixed.-A friend's friendship is difficult to pass through. When the poor make friends, they become close friends.-(Tang Dynasty) When Gao Shi falls to the ground as brothers, there is no need to be close by flesh and blood.-Tao Qian's taste is sweet, but it's easy to go bad. When he is old, he knows that a gentleman's friendship is as light as water.-(Southern Song Dynasty) Xin Qiji made friends with a gentleman, but he didn't make a bad sound.-It's enough to know one thing in life, so we should treat it with the same bosom.-Lu Xun might as well find a friend who praises you. I help others, don't forget it.-Those who praise us behind our backs are our good friends.-(West) Cervantes In fact, everyone's friends have advanced and backward ones ..... > >
Question 4: How to get along with friends, how to get along with family members, and respect them, especially the elderly. It's good to be sweet, but people often don't pay attention to what you usually say. Ask your girlfriend what a family is short of, and if you need help, it depends on whether you are willing to contribute. What are the hobbies of the second wife? Since they are family members, they are closely related. Just spend more time
communicate with them often
Not appreciating others and not liking others' kindness is an important reason for friends to get into bad relations. Less cooperation and more calculation will make everyone unhappy. In most cases, cooperation between the two sides is better than betrayal. The key to doing well is not to conquer each other but to guide cooperation. In a word, cooperation is better than betrayal. Between people, vagueness is good for aesthetics, while clarity is good for cooperation.
cooperation is based on resources, and what you care about will attract you. In order to cooperate well with others, you can also give yourself more.