People will meet many people in their life, but everyone has the same experience: you can have no relatives, but you can't have no friends.

Brother Honghe will come to talk to you about your friend's topic today.

Confucius said: those who benefit have three friends, straightforward, tolerant and knowledgeable.

It means: If we want to make friends, we should make honest friends, tolerant friends and knowledgeable friends. Such friends are good for us.

When it comes to good friends, we have to mention the famous "friendship between friends" in history.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Guan Zhong and Bao of Qi made friends when they were young.

Earlier, two partners were doing business together. At that time, Guan Zhong's family was poor, while Bao's family was relatively rich. Bao was considerate of Guan Zhong's situation and gave himself more money.

But every time he divided money, Guan Zhong always gave himself a little more money, leaving only a little money for Guan Zhong.

People under his command are indignant with Bao: "He pays so little money and gets so much income."

However, Bao did not blame Guan Zhong, but said to his buddy, "Guan Zhong's family is poor and there is an old mother at home. If he takes more, he takes more. "

After that, they both went to war. Once on the battlefield, Guan Zhong was afraid to charge when he met the enemy, and was laughed at by the soldiers for being timid.

Bao said, "Guan Zhong is not afraid. He has an old mother to look after at home. If she died in battle, he was afraid that no one would take care of her.

Later, both of them entered the official career. Bao was serving his son, and Guan Zhong was serving Gong Zijiu.

Later, Xiao Bai, the son, competed with Miyako for the throne for a long time. Childe Xiaobai was shot by Guan Zhong on his way back to Qi, and nearly died.

Finally, his son Xiao Bai won and became Qi Henggong. Miyako was killed for a long time, and Guan Zhong went to prison.

When he became King of Qi, he wanted to appoint Bao as Xiang. Bao did not hesitate to sacrifice his future, and strongly recommended Guan Zhong as the phase.

He said to him, "If you can govern Qi, I will be enough. If you want to dominate, you must be the master. "

Believing Bao's words, Guan Zhong was appointed Prime Minister. With the help of Guan Zhong and Bao, he became the first overlord in the Spring and Autumn Period.

Therefore, Guan Zhong was also called by later generations as a famous soldier of Qi State.

We all envy Guan Zhong having friends like Bao, but such friends are hard to find.

Therefore, I will sigh that "it is enough to get a confidant in my life."

Good friends are hard to find, so don't expect too much from your friends.

But there are some bottom lines to make friends. Some friends are not worth making, and sometimes making friends carelessly will bring disaster to yourself.

Some people are very jealous. When they see that their friends are better off than themselves, they want to break the law. You can't make such friends.

For example, a friend of mine told me a true story:

There is a female colleague in his company, who is beautiful and has a good personality. She talked about one boyfriend and the other is Gao Fushuai.

In their company, there is a girlfriend who looks very ordinary and is not as good as his female colleague in all aspects.

Because she is single and poor, her best friend is jealous that she found a boyfriend in Gao Fushuai.

Several times, her best friend said that the rich and handsome boyfriend she was looking for was a playboy at first sight, and she would definitely not be single-minded, so she quickly broke up with her rich and handsome boyfriend.

Unexpectedly, her best friend added the WeChat of her female colleague's boyfriend privately, and said many bad words about her female colleague to her boyfriend.

Later, the boyfriend of the female colleague told the female colleague about it, and then she suddenly realized that it was the girlfriend who secretly added her boyfriend's WeChat and said bad things to her boyfriend.

Don't worry about such a girlfriend, but later they turned against each other and never contacted each other again.

Making friends now seems to think that the other person will tell you everything. Such a person who dares to tell the truth is a true friend, but it is all wet.

If every time ta tells you directly, it is for your consideration and really helps you solve the problem, it is to point out your problem directly.

But if he doesn't always say that about you, it means that he is jealous of you and prays to pull you to the same level as her.

There are many such friends in life, either suppressing you when you are happy or throwing cold water on you; Or speak ill of you behind your back, such a friend, how bad, don't miss it, hurry.

Some friends often ignore your feelings and are self-centered.

For example, you are losing weight, and she will take you to a big meal. If you don't go, she will be angry or say you; And the other party did something bad and let you take the fall.

Xiao Wang and Xiao Li are two girlfriends, and later they went to work in the same company together.

At work, Xiao Wang once reported to the leader, and some data in the report were miscalculated. Xiao Wang is afraid that the leader will blame himself. He opened his mouth and said it was Xiao Li, saying that the data was wrong, but Xiao Li just wouldn't listen.

A person like Xiao Wang is a typical selfish character. Such a friend completely ignores your thoughts and your situation, and everything is for his own needs, self-centered, or does not hesitate to put the blame on you.

Such friends are not real friends at all. If you have such friends around you, stay away as soon as possible.

Extremely self-centered, regardless of their own situation and feelings.

We also have a friend in our life, that is, whenever you meet him, he always pours you a lot of bitter water.

If you also have negative emotions to complain to him, he will immediately interrupt you and continue to talk about his experience. Complaining about lovers, children, bosses. . . . . .

It seems that in his world, everyone owes him and everything goes wrong.

If you associate with such a person, you will become his trash can. As long as you meet him, he will always pour you bitter water.

Such friends are always in your life, and there will be a lot of negative energy in your life.

Besides, such friends won't help you solve the problem at all. The purpose of his association with you is to tell you what is going on in life.

A true good friend is someone who can really help you solve your problems.

You can't make friends with the three kinds of friends mentioned above, and at the same time, you should avoid becoming these three kinds of people and let others leave you.

A person can live without relatives, but he can't live without friends.

A true confidant can be met but not sought, so you can't ask too much of your friends.

But making friends must have a bottom line. Not all friends can make friends.

There are three kinds of friends you can't make:

(1) too jealous friend

(2) Too selfish friends

(3) Friends with too many negative emotions

You think bad friends are honest and frank friends. Maybe he is too jealous and envious of you.

You think the most active person at the party can effectively mobilize the atmosphere, perhaps an extremely selfish and self-centered person;

You think the person who dares to criticize is real, perhaps a bomb full of negative energy that can be detonated at any time.

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