I once had a friend who grew up playing. At that time, I thought that the friendship between us would be good friends for life, as we said in playing games. As a result, we broke off completely when we were about fifteen or sixteen years old.

The reason for breaking off diplomatic relations is also very simple. When I was a child, I was a rather cowardly character. As long as I identify a person, I will be 1% kind to that person, without asking for anything in return or caring about gains or losses.

And that girl is very strong. She may never regard me as a friend. Maybe, she just thinks that being her friend should bow down to her. It is my honor and a privilege for her to treat me as a friend.

She thinks I need her and care about her. I have a good temper and will never be angry with her, so she always loses her temper with me without scruple.

She likes to lose her temper for no reason, and then ignore others, forcing me to apologize to her at last, and to be mainly obedient to her again and again.

finally, after a daily temper tantrum, I never reconciled with her. Since then, she and I are strangers. Although we live very close, our parents often come and go, and she has tried to reconcile with me many times, but I have never contacted her again.

Although this is a trivial matter, perhaps in the eyes of many people, it is just a fight between children, but in her body, I really learned a life truth for the first time.

that is, some people can't get used to it. The more you get used to it, the more she thinks she is powerful and that you are really afraid of him.

for you, you care about each other and want to maintain this hard-won friendship, but she is spoiled and taken for granted, which is an endless harm to yourself.

Life is like this, so is marriage; Making friends is like this, so is life partner.

Some self-righteous people, like my childhood playmate, may feel that the other person will never leave her side and will not go against her wishes.

But no one is a fool, no one is your slave. If you are forced to be anxious, the rabbit will bite when you are anxious. At that time, it's your turn to be dumbfounded.

You can only enjoy the unexpected and irreparable consequences and bitter fruit. After all, you should have thought of this day before you did something unreasonable.

There are some things that you will never understand beforehand. Only when you suffer losses afterwards and get what you deserve, will he begin to reflect on himself and regret what he has done, but what's the use at that time?

Furthermore, even if he is given a second chance, he will still make the same mistake, because he is lucky. He has never realized his mistake, but he just wants to regret it because he can't bear the consequences, not really regret it.

such a person never repents, knowingly commits a crime, learns a lesson, and is not wronged.

Zhang Qiao's family is like this. They always feel that they are amazing, making unreasonable demands, ruining their daughter's marriage step by step without knowing it, and pushing the man's family to the wall step by step. They also think that they are bold and very clever.

One wrong move, the whole game is lost, and finally you are accused of "eating ugly" by outsiders, and now you end up as a rat crossing the street, which is also welcome.

Zhang Qiao's family conditions are actually just so-so. Her parents are poor people who sell their labor and seek a living in other places. Zhang Qiao has a younger brother who is old enough to get married and start a family. Zhang Qiao is not bad-looking, thin, with a small face and delicate facial features. Naturally, she has no worries about getting married.

But the younger brother is different. When a woman marries a girl, it always depends on the conditions. Zhang Qiao's younger brother, Rolling, doesn't look like his father like his sister. He looks like his mother very much, looks average and is not tall.

Plus, I didn't like studying since I was a child, and my education was not very high. I found a job in my hometown, which is about 3, yuan a month, and my family conditions are on the bright side, that's all. So I went on blind dates several times, and there was no result.

For the sake of my brother's marriage, the family has never thought about ways. Zhang Qiao's mother is smart, and she thought of a good idea at once.

She has found Wang Xian and is going to work hard from here.

To explain the background, Zhang Qiao has a boyfriend. This boyfriend was talked about when Zhang Qiao was in college. This person is Wang Xian.

Wang Xianren is tall and big. His father is a teacher and his mother is a kindergarten teacher. All of them are compiled, and his family conditions are good.

Wang Xian and Zhang Qiao are classmates. They both graduated from normal universities. However, after graduation, neither of the two young people chose to work in education. Wang Xian mainly thinks that education is hard and bears great responsibilities.

After all, I watched my parents work since I was a child, and I got a deeper understanding of the contents of their work, so I began to find another way out before I graduated.

Later, after graduation, I was hired by a foreign company because of my outstanding achievements in foreign languages. Now, although my work is relatively idle, my salary is quite high, and there is a lot of room for improvement in the future.

Zhang Qiao is a girl. Influenced by Wang Xian, she later went to work in an education and training institution. Although she had a little connection with education, she mainly recorded online videos to teach professional research knowledge for some adults who wanted to recharge their batteries, which was quite different from the traditional teaching and educating people.

Both of them are working in other places, and there is no possibility to return to their hometown. After all, both of them are working in other places. When they return to their hometown, they can't find a job with a professional counterpart, and they can't get such a high salary in other places.

If you don't go back to work, you won't settle down here. Although the housing prices in big cities are high, if you want to settle down in your hometown for cheap, you will go back three or two times a year, which is tantamount to insecurity and adding a mortgage burden to yourself. It is better to save money for the time being and try to take root in big cities.

This is Wang Xian's idea, and of course Zhang Qiao agrees. After all, even if her hometown buys a house, her family can't afford it, and she has to rely on Wang Xian's family to pay for it. Wang Xian wants to buy a house in a big city, so she is naturally more happy and has little to say.

Wang Xian and Zhang Qiao are still struggling, so they are not suitable for marriage. Therefore, although they have already reached marriageable age, they have not left behind the specific implementation schedule for the time being. They planned to wait a little longer and get married after saving some money for more than two years.

Both Zhang Qiao and Wang Xian's parents are aware of this matter. Wang Xian's parents have always been very supportive of their son. Although their family also has some family background, it is still not enough compared with the cost of buying a house in a big city. In addition, although they are dissatisfied with such a useless in-law, they still support their son's idea and do not interfere much in their love.

In a word, Wang Xian's parents are relatively open-minded. Although they don't have much ability, as long as their son talks, they will do their best to help them. Although Zhang Qiao's parents couldn't help, they didn't hold back, that is, they did nothing.

But for the sake of her son, Zhang Qiao's mother changed her mind temporarily and was ready to do something.

Zhang Qiao's marriage was undecided. Naturally, the two families didn't talk much about the bride price and other matters. This is why Zhang Qiao's mother came to Wang Xian this time.

Zhang Qiao's mother first made a detour with Wang Xian, exchanged a few pleasantries, and then got down to business.

"Xiao Wang, you've been talking to my daughter for several years, right? I think it's time to get married. Why don't you think about it and get married first? You know girls are not as good as boys, and time waits for no one. I'm thinking about my girl's future, too. Can you understand?

I know you are going to wait for two years to get married, but you can't wait now. Zhang Qiao shouldn't have told you. There is a custom in our family that the boss must get married first. My son has a partner to get married now. They want to get married, so your marriage can't be delayed. It must be done before them. I can't help it, so I come to beg you. "

At this point, Wang Xian couldn't shirk any more, so he had to promise his future mother-in-law, saying that he would discuss the matter with Zhang Qiao and his family before making a decision.

In fact, Zhang Qiao's mother has already talked with her daughter. My brother is not going to get married, but the conditions are not good. Now she can't find a marriage partner. Zhang Qiao's mother thinks that her daughter is married, and she needs a lot of bride price and other expenses to buy a decent house and a car for her son, so that she can easily find a wife.

She and Zhang Qiao also made another statement: "Daughter, I am also helping you. You said that you are old, and you should do whatever other boys say. Are you stupid? Finding someone for your brother is part of the reason, and the bigger reason is not because you are worried. He dragged you on for another two years and kicked you out again. Do you think you can find a good man again?

listen to mom and get married now. anyway, you and he can't afford a house now. just buy a house for your brother in his hometown first, and it's not too late to buy it after you get married. But your brother is different. You are his sister, and you ignore him. Even most of him will be single in his life, and our family will be lost.

If you listen to me, you will break up with him. Anyway, he will marry you sooner or later. He refuses to go now, but there is something wrong. He is willing to marry you regardless of time, and he is taking the opportunity to try him out. "

I don't know whether Zhang Qiao's mother is too strong or whether this girl is stupid and filial. Anyway, after listening to her mother, Zhang Qiao turned around and urged Wang Xian to get married, or she would break up if she didn't get married.

Wang Xian was helpless. Even though the timing was wrong, he agreed for Zhang Qiao's sake.

Zhang Qiao's family didn't ask much for the specifications of the wedding, but the bride price was 34, yuan, at a price, without any counter-offer.

Wang xianjia certainly had a problem with it, but he finally agreed and kept his word, and gave it soon.

The marriage between the two families was very sudden, and before we could talk about anything else, we arrived at the scheduled wedding day, but even though it was a little hasty, as a newcomer, we should be happy, but on that day of Wang Xian, there was no moment of happiness except at the beginning of the marriage.

On the wedding day, Wang Xian got up in the middle of the night, in order to get to Zhang Qiao's house in time, but after arriving at Zhang Qiao's house, a series of bad things happened.

He had expected to give a red envelope for blocking the door, but it was not enough to give a red envelope. My mother-in-law went off in person and had to pay 2, yuan for opening the door.

although Wang xian was a little unhappy, he gave it to her in order not to waste time and auspicious time.

But after entering the door, when preparing to carry the bride on the bus, Zhang Qiao spoke again, saying that it was the custom there to give her mother-in-law a stomachache fee of 1 thousand.

Wang Xian was even more upset. He had never heard of any stomachache fee, but all the relatives around her insisted that it should be given. Wang Xian was unwilling to give it anyway.

I finally got the bride back to her in-laws' house. When I got off the bus, Wang Qiao spoke again, asking for the fare, another 1, yuan.

At that time, Wang Xian's mood had reached a critical point, but he still gave it because his relatives and friends were watching.

It was not until the couple arrived at the wedding scene that Wang Qiao spoke again and asked her in-laws for 2, yuan to change her mind. At last, Wang Xian couldn't bear it and broke out.

He threw away the tea lamp on the spot, pointing to Wang Qiao and Wang Qiao's mother, and said, "I've had enough. From this morning, I don't know how many difficulties I've been made by your family. For a while, I paid the fare, the opening fee, the stomachache fee and the change fee. Why didn't your family rob me? Is there anyone like you? I can see that your family is not sincere about getting married at all, but is here to make a fortune, shameless! "

At this point, the whole audience was in uproar. Zhang Qiao's younger brother, Wang Xian's future brother-in-law, jumped up. I don't know whether he was angry from embarrassment or for his own face. When he came up, he gave Wang Xian a punch. At the wedding scene, the two of them got entangled on the spot and fought, but neither of them stopped him and refused to listen. In the end, they both went to the hospital.

Of course, the wedding can't be done, but Zhang Qiaojia didn't intend to return the bride price at all, and even said nonsense that Wang Xian beat people first. Wang Xian's parents were not the kind of reckless men with no education, and they didn't argue with Zhang Qiaojia much. They filed a lawsuit with the court and finally forced them to return the bride price, so this matter was considered a result.

However, Zhang Qiaojia's operation, the thief shouted to arrest the thief, and he was so ashamed to ask for all kinds of money. He was already famous in the local area. Later, he even wanted to mediate privately and continue the wedding, but Wang Xianjia ignored him, which made his family suffer a big defeat.

People's patience has always been limited, but some people just think highly of themselves and have to test the bottom line of others, just like Zhang Qiao and her family. Let's just say that I can understand the so-called mother-in-law's stomachache.

Maybe there is this custom in some places. You can also explain to Fang Yan in the comment area what this kind of fee is and what it is necessary to exist. I also want to know.

but in any case, these expenses are unreasonable.

I often say that there is no need to agree to such unreasonable expenses. Not agreeing is not stingy at all. On the contrary, I have to ask, what are the intentions of those people and families who demand unreasonable conditions?

After seeing what happened to Wang Xian, I even think that maybe making an unreasonable request, as long as it is not too much, and as long as the other party's attitude is acceptable, can be considered and accepted as appropriate.

After all, sometimes, harmony is the most important thing, and both sides still hope to have a good result, so this unhappy episode is not inevitable.

but those who are ignorant and fearless and push their luck have nothing to forgive.

people have repeatedly given in and endured, but he is still aggressive, forcing the other side to retreat beyond endurance. Who will take care of the overall situation? Who wants the kindness of that something?

Anyone with a little backbone and dignity will not let anyone ride on the top of his head without resisting. Once they fight back, they will definitely not leave it at that. Even if their heads are broken, they will definitely take off each other's skin and let them know what happiness is, regardless of the consequences.

To be a man, you still have to leave some room and do everything absolutely. In the end, you may be the ugly one.