The abscissa transposes people's rank conditions (combining external and internal conditions), and the distribution of people in reality is roughly the same, which accords with normal distribution.
Draw a similar picture roughly:
Make a general analysis of people at all levels:
Bad: There is basically no need to make long-term friends online. About finding a lover: offline situation: it is extremely difficult to have a lover. There are two reasons for frustration: one is that it is difficult to meet people at the same level, and the other is that even if they meet each other, they will be rejected. Even if you are passive for a long time, it is difficult to have feelings. It's usually a blind date after I get older. Online situation: as depressed as offline. First, it is difficult to reach the same level. Second, it is difficult to interact for a long time even online. Generally, I go to dating websites after I get older. Demand for online social interaction: even if you are frustrated offline and online, the demand for online lovers is still extremely high and it is not easy to lose.
Not so good: the characteristics are between poor and average.
Generally: there is basically no need to make long-term friends online. About finding a lover: offline situation: it is difficult to have a lover. Reasons for frustration: Although there are many people at the same level online, it is difficult to attract even if there are many offline interactions. The way to produce emotions is long-term interaction. Online situation: frustrated than offline, frustrated reason: Although there are many people at the same level online, online will not let them interact for a long time without attraction at first. Online social needs: because offline is more frustrated, I turn to online social activities, and gradually find myself more frustrated than offline, so I will slowly lose it, leading to the cycle of unloading, reloading and unloading.
Slightly better: Few people pay for the needs of long-term friends by wire transfer. About finding a lover: offline situation: finding a lover is easy. The reasons are as follows: first, the number of people at the same level is ok, which is easy to attract at first, and then it is easy to have feelings after passive active contact. Online situation: it is difficult to find a lover. Reason: Although the number of online peers is ok, men sometimes really tend to have one-night stands because of their resistance to online dating women, and because they are not very attractive at first, they are easy to get lost and meet the next one, so it is not as easy as offline. Network social needs: just so-so, under the banner of leisure play. Some women will lose it, and some will occasionally come up to play. Once they are removed, they will hardly be installed again. Men are looking for one-night stands for a long time.
Good: Some people have the need to make long-term friends online. About finding friends: Some of them have entered this level because of their good brains, so it is not bad to find someone to talk with online occasionally. About finding a lover: offline situation: it is easy to find a lover, easy reason: although there are few people at the same level offline, they will be easily chased because of their great attraction, and they will become lovers more easily after taking the initiative to contact. Online situation: it is easier to find lovers. Although there are fewer people at the same level online, offline women are easier to find, and they are safe and stable. For men, it will be more inclined to one-night stands. Even if all the factors are satisfied well, it is relatively easy to find a lover because of its great attraction. Demand for netizens: divided into parts with good face value and parts with better mind. They have a dispensable attitude towards online dating and will complain about the poor online atmosphere. With a casual attitude, you can find a lover. When a man looks for a one-night stand or cheats on his feelings for a long time, a woman will be relieved when she is stimulated badly.
Excellent: This kind of people have extremely high internal conditions. Corresponding to League of Legends master and above. These people have a particularly high demand for social networking, and they have a strong demand for finding friends and lovers. Offline situation: it is difficult to find friends and lovers. Although they are very attractive, they don't need passive contact or even conscious to avoid long-term love, but because there are almost no people at the same level around, it is difficult to find them. Online situation: it is not easy to find, and it will be more inclined to the application of community class than the direct dating class, because the former has a certain screening function, and the latter is almost as casual as offline. But the former is very centralized, resulting in fewer people. So I will also seek the latter, but the latter can rarely screen out these people now. Many failed or failed strangers' social app problems should be caused by these people. They mistakenly think that there are many people, or those functions are designed for these people but have not been screened out in advance.
Summary: Only a few high-level people have the need to make friends. For most people with ordinary conditions, it is extremely difficult to create a good impression that can support them to keep in touch in a short time, and it is easier to be supported by strong love needs.
1. Hierarchical problem
Socialization is a two-way street. Only when two people are of similar level is the starting point of long-term socialization. Therefore, it is necessary to stratify first, but stratification is very difficult. The hierarchy itself is a very comprehensive thing, with some subjective factors, including face value, education, IQ, personality, conduct, wealth and so on. It's hard to bring people of the same kind together.
2. The problem of socialization itself
There are very few attractive people with comprehensive conditions. Most people are ordinary and even poor, which makes it difficult for most people to feel the intimacy online and offline, and it is not a problem that can be solved online.
3. The biggest shortcoming on the line
You can meet a lot of people online, and the crowd is very mobile, so it is easy to get the next person. This seems to be an advantage, yes, people who don't feel can pass it on directly and find the next one, unlike offline, where there are only a few people around. As long as you try more online, you will always meet someone you bump into. This kind of thinking seems to be correct, but it is actually wrong. For most people, this is the fatal shortcoming of social networking. Because most people are ordinary, the way to have feelings with lovers should be long-term feelings, because there is no capital for quick love. Offline will make people passively interact for a long time.
4. Interest, personality and label matching
It is true that people are similar to themselves. People with the same hobbies have the same topic and can talk more. On the matching of interests: I think only a few people have a special liking for a certain field, and those who have been involved for a long time can talk longer and deeper. Many people can only say that they are interested in a certain field, or they are only suitable for receiving information and have no ability to output information. It often ends in a few sentences.
On personality and personality matching: each of these characteristics has its own advantages, which will not produce direct attraction, or can be used as an auxiliary promotion, but as the main connection reason, I think it is not feasible at all.
5. Other online problems
Male sexual harassment, deceiving their own conditions, simple verbal communication is easy to misunderstand, and they don't like long-distance relationships. Most people don't have the ability to simply chat. Everyone has different degrees of loneliness, and it is difficult to make an accurate judgment on each other's level in very little time. Women are indifferent to men's cheap goodwill and so on.
6. Core issues
How to solve the stratification problem? Make it easier for users to meet people at the same level.
Is online stranger socialization suitable for most ordinary people? How can people who don't have a strong impression at first keep interacting for a long time?