1. Don’t neglect good deeds because they are small

Getting along with others can be said to be mostly trivial things. In real life, it is always trivial matters that destroy interpersonal harmony. Therefore, as a human being, you must also know how to start from the small to the big.

The ancients said: Don’t do good deeds because they are small, and don’t do evil because they are small. "To accumulate small kindnesses into big kindnesses, you should do good deeds no matter how small they are; and you should definitely not do illegal and unrighteous things no matter how small they are. Small things that are considered insignificant may change your opinion. Don't be disdainful of those trivial things. , let alone ignore its influence - success in life often lies in these small things

2 Don't be stubborn in life

Don't be stubborn in life and always follow your own will. To act, otherwise you will make mistakes one after another, which will not only damage your own interests, but also swallow the bitter consequences of failure, and even make you unable to recover.

3 Do not use any means for fame and fortune

For the sake of face. The most tragic thing about vanity for the sake of face is that it pays a heavy price for psychological satisfaction.

4 You must not be out of tune with the world.

You must be gregarious and follow the local customs. If you are out of touch with the world and do things contrary to the rules of interpersonal relationships, it is tantamount to going in the opposite direction. No matter how much effort you put in, it will of course be in vain.

5 As a human being, you should not hide your illness and avoid medical treatment

No one is a sage. If you have shortcomings, you must accept them with an open mind and never change them. Be arrogant and unable to listen to the advice of others.

6 Be smart and measured in doing things

You cannot rely on your own intelligence and do not consider everything from the perspective of long-term interests. Thinking about immediate benefits or just seeking temporary happiness, otherwise "smartness will be misled by wisdom"

7 Don't flatter others in order to please. Shamelessly flatter others. In the eyes of a gentleman, this is spineless! Once a person becomes flattering, he must be full of evil and devoid of righteousness, and he will be looked down upon by others.

8 Don’t break the rules when you are a man.

< p>As the saying goes: Positive people are like the sun, which shines wherever they go; negative people are like the moon, and people's mentality sometimes determines our view of the past. This determines our future.

9 Be strict with yourself

If your desire is too strong and passionate, it will not only affirm your own existence, but will also deny or cancel the expectations of others. Survival. Desire is not a pure and absolute thing. It requires rational control and restraint. You should always maintain this kind of rationality in life. Don't deny others in order to affirm yourself. You should blame others and forgive yourself. Be forgiving. This is an attitude and responsibility of being a human being.

10 Take the initiative to do what you should do.

Everyone knows that "being a person requires taking the initiative." Take the initiative, we must not expect good things to come to us on their own - even if they do, we must always be prepared for good luck.

There is an old saying in China: "Strike first is the best." This is initiative. Whether it is work, life, or life, you must take the initiative to do what you should do. Turning a blind eye will probably make things worse, but being proactive can win space for yourself and achieve success in life.

11 As a human being, you should "no hesitation and no regrets"

The most important thing in life is: do the right thing from the beginning and do the wrong thing. There is no way to undo it, and there is no need to regret it unnecessarily. . But we should repent, learn lessons from it, and pave the way for doing the right things in the future.

12 Don’t be too vain as a person

Right and wrong fame and fortune can easily lead to vanity in today’s rapidly changing society. The ancients said, "Being indifferent to clarify your ambitions" is to persuade people not to pursue vanity too much, to stay away from fame and fortune, to be indifferent to desires, not to pursue vain things, and not to be fettered by fame and fortune and other external things.

13 As a human being, you should not be obedient to others.

Tell people what they say when you see them, and tell ghosts when you see ghosts. This may be a communication skill that many people envy, but the other side of it is slickness, speculation and insincerity. Perhaps the most taboo thing among friends is not being able to treat each other sincerely, saying one thing and doing another.

Being like a god in front of others, being a ghost behind others. To reach this point in life is to deviate from the social ethics and become a black sheep.

Become a black sheep. Of course, when dealing with others, one must not only be upright oneself, but also judge whether others are upright and whether they are submissive or not. This is important especially for people who are going through good times.

14 Don’t be blind in life

Some people say, “Success is saved by using the ladder of goals.” Indeed, it can be said that the fundamental difference between people is not talent most of the time. Or opportunity, but rather with and without goals.

For blind people, the passage of time just means the growth of age. They can only repeat the instructions of others day after day. Because blindness is like a rope hidden in the world, leading confused people to a goal that only one person has succeeded in, just like looking for sporadic nutrients in the leftovers chewed by others. The most terrifying thing is that sometimes we are blind to the point of stupidity, and even lose our way between beauty and ugliness.

15 As a human being, don’t take your anger out on others

There is a saying in Buddhism: “You must always forgive all living beings. No matter how bad they are, or even if they have hurt you, you must let them go. Get real happiness."

And "not expressing anger" means letting go when you encounter something unhappy, and not blaming others for your own mood. This is It is a high state of being a human being.

So when Duke Ai of Lu asked Confucius which of his disciples could truly inherit his knowledge, Confucius said that only Yan Hui could do so, because Yan Hui "does not express his anger and does not make mistakes".

In life, it cannot be said that there are no people who can really do this, but what is certain is that there are people who cannot do this.

16 Being a human being requires duty

Being a human being is an art and doing things is a technique. Only those who learn how to be a good person can do things well. The most fundamental art of being a human being is to "keep a respectful distance from the insults and be fair. Otherwise, it will not work."

17 You can't be a person who benefits from the situation

You can't just be a person. Look at the benefits and not the harms. If you always want to make profits everywhere, and even risk your life for a small gain, the gains will not be worth the losses in the end.

Confucius once said: "A gentleman is like a villain. Yu Yuli. "However, "Metaphor for profit" is something that everyone can do naturally, but "Metaphor for righteousness" is not that simple, so people basically "rich and noble are easy to live in, but happiness is hard to live by." Therefore, Lao Tzu also has a famous saying: "The less you get, the more you gain." The more you have, the more you gain." In Buddhist scriptures, troubles are also called "gets". The more troubles you have, the more confused your thoughts will be.

18 Don’t be opportunistic in life

There is no free lunch in this world. Only when you pay can you be rewarded. If you try to obtain benefits by opportunistic methods, you will end up working hard in vain, and the gain will outweigh the loss. . Opportunism is also a sign of impetuousness. You may gain temporary fame and fortune, but you will lose more.

As a human being, you should not save people from the well

It is a good thing to help people, but it depends on whether the help is appropriate. If you are wishful thinking and act indiscriminately regardless of the actual situation, not only will it not help, but it will also It only increases your own risk.

19 Don’t be a man without self-interest

As the saying goes: "A gentleman loves money and gets it in a wise way." What is "Tao"? Probably everyone has his own standards, but one thing is that he cannot sell his soul, let alone his conscience. In life, one should not neglect one's own interests. Benefits are short-lived, but benefits are long-lasting.

20 Don’t be overly selfish in life

Some people say that selfishness is human nature, and some even say that "If a person does not serve himself, he will be punished by heaven and earth." In today's era of self-emphasis, this statement is recognized by many people, but the final result proves that selfish people ultimately hurt themselves. Therefore, you should not be too selfish as a person, otherwise you will eventually swallow the bitter fruit of "selfishness".

21 To be righteous, you must first be sensible

People help each other when they live in the world, and it is inevitable to ask for help from others or be asked for by others. When we ask for help, we hope that others will act righteously. When we are asked for help, we hope that we will act righteously. People who never take action are said to be selfish and scolded when they recognize others. People who often take action are said to be righteous. Everyone loves and respects them and keeps close to them. However, righteousness is not a child's play and must be mastered.

22 When acting righteously, we must also act within our capabilities

An ancient Chinese saying says: "It is important for a person to know himself."

The most important thing in life is to understand yourself. Only by being able to "know yourself" can you be considered a sensible person.

As Lao Tzu said, "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise." It means that a person who can correctly understand others can be regarded as a wise person, and a person who can correctly understand himself can be regarded as smart and capable. But it is a pity that a person's wisdom is like a person's eyes. Although he can see things in the distance clearly, he can never see his own eyelashes. So we have to borrow a mirror to look at it, but it’s hard to say what the result will be. There are both positive and negative aspects.

23 Be free and easy in your life

There is a saying that contains the meaning of Zen: "Whenever you let go, you will have no worries." This is indeed the case, as a Zen poem says: " There are flowers in spring, moonlight in autumn, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter. If there is nothing to worry about, it is a good time in the world. "Spring, summer, autumn and winter all have their own time, and in the end we just return to nature." Therefore, when it comes to fame and fortune, we might as well be more open-minded and tolerant, so that we can be more free and easy. In fact, some of my own tolerance not only brings me freedom and ease, but also makes people convinced.

24 Suffering a loss is a blessing in life

The ancients said that "suffering a disadvantage is a blessing" is very reasonable. Because you suffer a loss, you become a giver, and you have added a bargaining chip in the scale of dealing with others. In a sense, suffering a loss is a state of mind, a kind of self-discipline and generosity, and a kind of sublimation of personality. In terms of material interests, one should not spend every penny, one should not take precedence over others in terms of reputation and status, and one should not be dominant in interpersonal interactions. Being proud and happy to suffer losses in this way is bound to win people's respect and admiration.

25 Don’t do bad things with good intentions

As the saying goes, "A fence has three stakes, and a hero has three gangs. For everyone to be happy, the world needs warm-hearted people." Between people We should indeed help each other and be kind to others. But when helping others, you also need to see whether you are doing the right thing and whether it can bring benefits to others. If you can't do this, it's better not to help, lest your good intentions ruin someone else's good deeds.

26 Be cautious when making friends

Some people say that when you choose a friend, you choose a lifestyle. Lu Xun's poem says: One confidant in life is enough. It can be seen that the key to making friends is quality, not quantity. There is a famous saying in "Zengguang Xianwen": "One word with you is worth ten years of reading books." A conversation with outstanding talents is better than ten years of studying poetry and books. In fact, the principle of making friends should be as Zeng Zi said: "Use friends to assist benevolence." It is to promote your own progress and avoid your own mistakes. Such people should be friends. Good friends also follow this principle when interacting with others.

27 When interacting with others, choose the good and follow it

Kindness is a road sign, pointing out the way forward when you lose your way; kindness is a clear spring, when you are thirsty When you are helpless, it will give you the nourishment of life; choosing kindness is a pair of powerful hands that will give you great help when you are helpless. Therefore, the destination of the soul must be to choose the good, no matter how big or small it is.

Zengzi said: "To learn alone without friends is to be lonely and ill-informed." Therefore, choosing kindness not only lies in personal morality, but also in making friends. As the saying goes: "Those who are close to vermillion are red, and those who are close to ink are black." In the actions of interacting with others, you can also choose the good and follow them. Only in this way can you create an excellent self and have a lot of wealth in the bank of your life. , can pave the way forward for yourself.

28 It is essential to be on guard against others

Confucius has a famous saying: "Serious words make people look more beautiful, and benevolence shines brighter." Therefore, you must not be fooled by sweet words, otherwise you will only "hear the sound of your heart." Injured by bad intentions."

There is an old saying in China: "It is essential to be on guard against others." Although the human world is not as diverse as animals and plants, human qualities and personalities are indeed eccentric. A person who looks vicious may have a heart as warm as the sun; a person who looks honest may have a snake-like heart. Regardless of whether the person you are dating has a vicious acquaintance or a kind-hearted person, you must weigh his words carefully before you believe them.

29 Don’t have any intention of harming others

It is completely legitimate to release people to protect yourself from harm; but to harm others is also for yourself, but it is despicable. "God's way is good." God is just. If God is despicable, there will definitely be no good results.

30 Harming others will end up harming oneself

The result of harming others is not only to make enemies and trouble for oneself, but more often, it is to shoot oneself in the foot and harm others in the end. Harm yourself.

31 Take action when it’s time to take action

We often say, “Endure the calm for a while, and take a step back to open up the world.” This is indeed a great realm of life. However, tolerance and concession here must be based on principles, not blind concession without limit. If you think you give in, you will only lose your fundamental interests, so take action when it's time to take action.

32 Don’t force things that don’t belong to you

There is a song that goes well: “What’s yours is yours, and if it’s not yours, let it go.” There will always be encounters in one’s life. If you want to keep many of your favorite things as your own, you will definitely cause trouble for yourself. Therefore, it is said: possession may not be a good thing, and possession may not be happiness. We must know how to give up appropriately.

33 Don’t sacrifice your righteousness for small gains

Forgetting your righteousness at the sight of profit is the biggest obstacle to being a human being, and it will ultimately make you lose more than you gain.

Mencius said it well: "Life is what I want; righteousness is also what I want. You cannot have both, and one who sacrifices life for righteousness." In front of the word meaning, life is the capital. It’s okay not to have it, not to mention the benefit? If you see benefits in your eyes, you will inevitably be blinded by the benefits, and even be blinded by the benefits. By then, it will really be like losing the watermelon and picking up the sesame seeds.

34 Don’t be eager for quick success

As the saying goes, "You can’t eat hot tofu in a hurry." When doing things, you must do it step by step. If you just want to "skyrocket to 90,000 miles" all at once, then It can only run in circles.

35 If you greedy him for a bucket of rice, you will lose half a year's food

You can't take advantage of the immediate advantage. The trick of the liar is to let you taste some small sweetness now, and wait for you to be taken advantage of. When they are deceived and relax their vigilance, they can act boldly. In the end, it is you who are greedy for cheap who suffers the big loss.

36 When dealing with others, you must know how to give up

In life, there are always gains and losses, and it is impossible to be perfect. Therefore, the same is true in dealing with the world. You must understand the mystery of giving and gaining.

The modern writer Mr. Jia Pingwa has an article that also talks about "willingness" - people who know how to live, or people who are successful, actually understand two words: "willingness". If you are reluctant to give up, you will gain more if you give up more.

37 Money is something from outside the province

When you spend a lot of time and a lot of experience in exchange for a lot of money, you will find that money is in your life You will never be at the top.

Having said that, there are a few people throughout the ages who have been able to avoid being confused by it. There are many lessons learned from the past that "people die for money, birds die for food", but there are still people who lose their integrity, their integrity, and even their lives for the sake of money.

38 You cannot get rich by yourself as a human being

As long as life exists, money can make it richer, more unrestrained, and more comfortable. However, if you lose your life for money, then even if you are rich, it is meaningless.

39 Know how to repay kindness

Repaying kindness is actually an act of gratitude. "The crow has the obligation to feed back, and the sheep has the obligation to kneel down to breastfeed." Gratitude has always been of concern to the society. Because if a society is "everyone for one and one for everyone," it is undoubtedly an ideal society.

As the saying goes, "A drop of kindness should be repaid by a spring." This is the moral code left to us by our ancestors. Those who give kindness may not ask for anything, but those who receive kindness must know how to repay. The same is true in relationships, whether it is two people or two companies, only by reciprocating courtesy can the relationship last for a long time.

40 Respect everyone

No matter when and where you are, you must not be snobbish, but you must know how to treat others with courtesy and respect everyone - even if it is not at all Even humble people should be given enough respect.

41 Respect your opponents

Respecting your opponents is actually respecting ourselves. Because in the eyes of our opponents, we are also opponents. Society is originally a group, and there is also a cooperative relationship between people.

42 Be generous

There is a couplet describing the big-bellied Maitreya Buddha: "A big belly can tolerate things that are difficult to tolerate in the world; smile often, smile The most ridiculous person in the world." His high posture fascinates everyone. Therefore, everyone should learn to face life with a smile and be more tolerant and generous to people and things.

In life, you should have lofty ideals and care, and treat people and things in a casual manner. Worrying about trivial matters not only adds to your worries, but also doesn't help.

In fact, it doesn’t matter whether you are in the world or doing things. As long as you have a graceful and magnanimous mind, the road will become wider and wider. On the contrary, if there is tit-for-tat confrontation everywhere, the result will be nothing.

43 Don’t stick to the past as a person

Staying in the past and being self-contained are the biggest weaknesses in life and work. Because they don’t know how to adapt and whisper positive social disconnection, everything is formalized, which reduces efficiency and drags down the collective, which should be a taboo for anyone.

Due to different living habits and different educations, it is understandable that there are some deviations in understanding, but it is really sad and hopeless to stick to the old ways and not know how to be flexible. .

44 A person should be well-rounded in all aspects

Being well-rounded in all aspects may sound derogatory, but when it comes to interpersonal communication and dealing with others, being well-rounded in all aspects can make your space wider, and even make you feel better. Your goals are more likely to be achieved.

45 The snipe and the clam quarreled, and the fisherman benefited

The benefits that could have been enjoyed by everyone were entangled endlessly for their own selfish desires, and even turned against each other, but in the end they ended up empty-handed. This lesson is really profound and must be seriously reflected on.

Boil the beans to burn the pods, and the beans weep in the cauldron. They are originally from the same root, so there is no need to fry them in a hurry. Cao Zhi's seven-step poem expresses his emotion about people desperately killing each other. After Xin was blackened by interests, he only cared about the present and ignored what was behind him.

46 connections need to be accumulated

We have to eat one bite at a time and do things one by one. We cannot expect to think that the process is unnecessary after we get the results. Yes.

The same goes for being a human being. The accumulation of connections is not built in a day. Among the many connections, some people agree that you are closer, and some people are closer to you. This requires you to pay true feelings and work hard. Move everyone, so that someone will regard you as a confidant, and reach the highest state of "a scholar who is a confidant will die".

47 Listen carefully and understand what others are saying

Listening is a habit, a kind of respect, and a gesture. It is a kind of kindness, calmness, modesty and prudent courage to take responsibility. posture. With this attitude, you can be open-minded, aboveboard, selfless and responsible. Listening is a kind of respect for people. Therefore, as a person, you must not only listen carefully, but also be good at listening, so that you can understand the meaning of what others say. Otherwise, even if you adopt the method of eating grass on the head of a cow, it will be difficult to understand the true meaning of others.

48 Don’t add superfluous things to things in life

You must know how to stop doing things. If you have to add superfluous things to things that have been done originally, you will often not only fail to achieve the expected results, but will also be self-defeating and make people laugh. .

When things are done, why do some people continue to do so and cannot stop the car? Probably either out of cleverness or greed. Those who think they are smart will most likely end up self-defeating by adding extravagant information, while those who are greedy will often get into trouble.

49 Be diligent and ask questions

No one is born knowing everything. All knowledge and talents are learned later. This is also true when Confucius said, "A person who is quick and eager to learn, and who is not ashamed to ask questions is considered literary."

50 As a person, you should not sacrifice your life to save face

There is an old saying in China called "You must sacrifice your face to save your life and suffer the consequences". Saving face is our Chinese habit, and it is also a major shortcoming. Because once you go too far, you often end up in an embarrassing situation.

51 It is better to offend a gentleman than a villain

China has divided people into two types since ancient times: gentlemen and villains. It can be said that the distinction between Jing and Wei is clear, the boundaries are clear, and there is no need to say much about love and hate. But many times, we can afford to offend a gentleman, but we cannot afford to offend a villain. Because the gentleman talks about the right principles, while the villain talks about the wrong principles; the gentleman pursues harmony, but the villain deliberately causes trouble; the gentleman's words and deeds are consistent, and the villain violates the rules; the gentleman severely criticizes himself, and the villain plots against others; the gentleman is always in the light, and the villain is always in the dark.

51 What you say must be accurate

For those who are good at persuasion skills, they do not constantly deal with the other party, but grasp the key points and make it clear with one sentence. Once you grasp the key, the goal will be clear. Only in this way can you be targeted and achieve success. If this point can be brought into full play, it will not be difficult to achieve great things.

52 When getting along with others, you must learn to restrain yourself

When interacting with others, you can not only not be annoyed when being misunderstood, but also be able to restrain yourself and not hurt. People who respect others are great.

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. Friends, colleagues, and relatives may accidentally make you angry. If you don't know how to restrain yourself and just get angry, the relationship will only become more and more tense. If you can "aggrieve" yourself, things may be different. This is the so-called "bearing peace for a while".

53 Where sincerity reaches, gold and stone will open

The ancient saying goes, "Where sincerity reaches, gold and stone will open." "Zhuangzi·Yufu" records: "The true one is also sincere. , If you are not sincere, you cannot move people." It can be seen that if you want to achieve your goal, you cannot do it without being extremely pious. This point can be said to be vividly demonstrated in China's history.

54 It is important to be harmonious when getting along with others

Everyone who does business probably knows the saying, "harmony brings wealth." Indeed, only by being kind to others will people patronize you and your wealth will increase. This is especially true when getting along with others. Confucius said: "Harmony is the most precious thing in the use of etiquette." This means that harmony is the most important thing in the use of etiquette. Of course, Confucius also said that just doing things in a harmonious way, no matter how big or small, sometimes doesn’t work. This is because harmony for the sake of harmony and not controlling harmony with etiquette is also not feasible. But in general, " "Harmony is precious" is correct.

55 When dealing with things, you must grasp the "heat"

Confucius said: "There are three ways to treat a gentleman: it means to say something that has not been mentioned, to say it is impetuous; to say it but not to say it. It means that when you accompany a gentleman, you can easily make three mistakes: speaking before it's your turn, which is called impatience; not speaking when it's your turn. Hidden; talking without observing words and colors is called blind.

In fact, what Confucius said is a matter of timing, and this is indeed an issue we should pay attention to. The first one is impatient and pushy, rushing to speak before others have finished speaking, which is very taboo; the second one is secretive, not speaking when it is time to speak, which seems to give people a deep feeling, not only You will often lose friends and miss good opportunities more easily; the third is that you don't have eyesight, you don't look at other people's reactions when you speak, you just talk about yourself and don't know if you offend others. Therefore, when speaking and doing things, we must grasp the "heat" and advance and retreat in a measured manner.

56 Don’t be greedy as a person

When getting along with others, you should accept things when they are good, and do not be greedy, otherwise you will only end up "making trouble for them". As the saying goes, "If the human heart is not enough, the snake will swallow the elephant, and the world will end with the snake catching the cicada."

57 You can't do whatever you want in life

When you live in the world, you can't do everything according to your own will. You can do whatever you want. Do whatever you want, but exercise some restraint. Otherwise, once you make a serious mistake, you will not only "get nothing and work in vain", but you will also regret it for the rest of your life.

Although it is said that "no one is a saint, and no one can make mistakes", it is still better to be cautious in everything.

58 Don’t make the same mistake again and again as a human being

A wise man will make a mistake every time he thinks about it. Making mistakes when dealing with others is also inevitable. As long as you know the mistake, correct it. Don’t make the same mistake again and again. That is, "There is no greater good than anything good."

Confucius said: "To make mistakes without correcting them is to make mistakes." It doesn't matter if a person makes mistakes, no matter how big or small, as long as he can correct them. If you make a mistake and don't correct it, this is a really big mistake.

59 Don’t give up halfway as a human being

The relationship between people takes time to cultivate, so you must have the spirit of perseverance and perseverance in order to start well and end well. Otherwise, whatever you do in your life will be half-finished and nothing will be accomplished in the end.

As the "Book of Songs" says: "There is no beginning, there is no end." That is to say, many people can start well in life and work, but few people end well. Many people know the famous saying "An iron pestle grinds into a needle". Although some people disagree, I think you may gain something from revisiting it.

60 Being a human being cannot be accomplished overnight

People hope to do things quickly, but many things are not that easy and must go through a long-term process and be completed step by step. The same goes for relationship management. It can't be achieved overnight, so you have to be patient when doing things and don't hold on to the idea of ????achieving overnight.

As Confucius said: "If there is no desire for haste, there is no small gain. If there is no desire for haste, if you see small gain, great things will not be accomplished." Expecting to achieve it overnight will not achieve the goal.

61 Asking for help requires a man

In life, we will always ask for help from others, but we must carefully choose the person for help. Only a person with good conduct can Really help us. If you choose a villain with despicable conduct, it will definitely be harmful but not beneficial.

62 It is better to ask for others than to ask for yourself

While "asking for others" is unavoidable, it can also be said to be a shortcut to success. However, we cannot place all our hopes on asking for help, otherwise one day we will not be able to ask for help, and it will be too late to regret it.

"What should I do if I cry every day but no one responds, and cry everywhere but no response"? At this time, you can only rely on yourself. As the ancient saying goes, "It is better to ask for others than to ask for yourself."

63 To be a human being, you must judge the situation

There are certain rules for how to do many things. You can only do it according to the principles that should be followed. Only then can things be done. Otherwise, if you don't know how to assess the situation and just take it for granted, no matter how much you pay and do more, it won't help.

As the saying goes, “Without rules, nothing can be achieved.” To be a person with ease, you must have rules for doing things. Without this condition, everything is just a castle in the air.

64 When dealing with people, you must have a human stance

In life, there are many contradictory things. We often analyze the pros and cons and stick to the advantageous approach. However, external temptations and pressures are always there. No matter what, you must resist external pressure and temptation and stand firm. We need to be firm-minded, unswerving in our stance, and the most important thing is to be able to resist temptation.

65 A person must have his own thoughts

Life is very complicated, and people are always surrounded by various opinions, truths and illusions. When encountering this kind of situation, don't be gullible and blindly follow it. You should use your own brain to analyze and find the correct approach that suits you. No matter what you do, only if you have your own ideas can you know how to do it and do it well.

66 When dealing with people, you should take a step back to gain a brighter future

Although we advocate being down-to-earth and doing things seriously, sometimes, if you are a little confused and don't take it too seriously, you can get things done better.

The ancients said: "If you endure the calm for a while, you can take a step back to open up the world." That is to say, when dealing with others, you must "be able to endure and know how to retreat."

67 Be patient

People hope to see results as soon as possible in anything they do, and hope that success can come faster. Some people are eager for quick success, and in order to achieve their goals, they try every means to find shortcuts. The immediate benefits are obtained, but it is not conducive to long-term development.

People often say, "Haste makes waste", and rushing for quick success will not bring any good results. No matter what you do, you must curb your impetuous mentality, keep yourself down-to-earth, and move forward step by step. Only in this way can you lay a solid foundation and make things more successful.

68 Stealing the chicken but losing the rice

Some people use legitimate methods to act for their own benefit. As a result, not only do they not get what they want, but they also suffer damage. Therefore, people must not do unjust things.

As the saying goes: "If you want others to not know, you have to do nothing unless you do it yourself."

69 Don't be quick and easy in life

Some people often change their names in order to deceive the world. , in fact, the essence of the matter has not changed, but many people have been fooled. In life, we must be wary of things like changing the soup without changing the medicine, so as not to be deceived.

The original meaning of the word "chasing and waning" is to change the soup without changing the medicine. It only changes the phenomenon, but the essence remains unchanged. However, later generations confused this word with "Chao Qin Mu Chu", and later it was misunderstood. "Chao San Mu Si" has become a capricious meaning, but its original meaning is still used here.

70 When you are a human being, don’t sacrifice the fundamentals for the minors.

Things are often divided into priorities and major differences. However, some people do things in a reverse order and neglect the fundamentals for the minor ones. This will make a joke and mess things up. , and may even lead to serious consequences.

71 A person must be self-aware

This world is dominated by one person. To live well in this world, people must first know themselves, understand themselves, and have self-awareness. This way you won't be deceived by others and you won't do anything wrong.

72 To be a human being, talk less and do more

It is good to have rich theoretical knowledge, but you must pay attention to practice. If it is just empty talk without the ability to actually do things, then nothing will be accomplished.

73 Don’t be wishful thinking in life

In many cases, success cannot be achieved through one person’s unilateral efforts. It requires the support of relevant people. If you do it based on wishful thinking regardless of other people's interests and ideas, it will be difficult to achieve any good results.

74 There are methods to do things

No matter what you do, you cannot just do whatever you want. You must use correct and appropriate methods, so that things can be done well.

75 Don’t spend your energy on unnecessary things

Although all roads lead to Rome, there is always one that is the closest. The same goes for doing things. If you have the most direct and simple way, don't go through all the trouble and waste your energy. A person's energy is originally limited, and the limited energy must be used in unlimited work and life. How can it be wasted indiscriminately?

76 Long-term pain is worse than short-term pain

Many times, people will get into a dilemma, and they will suffer if they do this, and they will suffer if they do that. However, the lesser of two evils, between short-term harm and long-term harm, people should understand that long-term pain is worse than short-term pain.

As we said in "Origin", "Chaos leads to authority." In fact, it means that as a person, you must know how to give up at the right time, and cannot cling to the past and suffer a long time. Only in this way will it be beneficial to the future. success.

77 Don’t miss the opportunity you get

There are many fleeting opportunities in life. Some opportunities are crucial to us. If we grasp them, they may bring about great changes in our lives. On the contrary, they can also affect our lives.

As the saying goes: "Don't miss the opportunity, the time will never come again."

78 To interact with people, you need to know them

We always have to interact with all kinds of people. people to deal with. Only by seeing clearly other people's talents, personalities and conduct can we communicate and cooperate with others better and avoid making things worse.

The ancients said: "It is difficult to paint the skin of a tiger, but it is difficult to paint the bones. Knowing the face of a person but not the heart." In the process of interacting with people, to know people is to know the heart, otherwise you will inevitably be hurt.

79 When getting along with others, don’t be indifferent to right from wrong

Distinguishing right from wrong is one of our essential abilities. Otherwise, we may misunderstand others, cause trouble to ourselves and others, and even misunderstand things. Done badly.

80 If you agree, don’t make excuses

Be honest, make promises to others, and keep your promises no matter what happens. If you make excuses of one kind or another, you will be breaking your trust.