For example, I don’t have much to talk to my friends on the Internet, but in real life I talk a lot. You are also the exact opposite. You are running away and afraid. You're afraid of talking to colleagues or having a girlfriend. You have your own ideas in your mind, and then you stick to them and refuse to change them. Sometimes making some changes can make your life easier. For example, when I'm very stressed, it's because I think about too many things. I think you are the same way. Thinking about too many things adds to the psychological burden. Later, I simply acted like it was none of my business, and had a non-responsible attitude, just to relieve my own psychological pressure. Of course, this is a bit like deceiving yourself, but it really makes it less psychologically uncomfortable.

For example, if you want to have a girlfriend but are afraid of being suspected, you can explain the situation clearly before dating. If the woman is willing to accept it, then there is no harm in talking about boyfriend and girlfriend. And you don't dare to talk to your colleagues in real life, maybe it's because of psychological resistance. I don't know what you are resisting. Is it the face of a colleague, the people around me, or something else. If you say you can see other people's personalities, that's because you think too much. Don't always guess what other people's personalities are like. Communication between people depends on the heart, not guessing. If you're always guessing, you'll never be able to talk to people. Because you unilaterally believe that others can't be friends with you, and you don't actually try to make friends with them. You only rely on your own guesses. This is like dreaming every day, and none of them are real. Whether friends get along well or not, you have to truly feel it. So it's better for you to try your best to interact with others.