As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. Everyone wants to be with people who are similar to themselves, and with people who recognize themselves. The three views tend to be consistent, with words and conversations, comfortable and carefree. There is nothing wrong with this book. But it falls into the trap of interpersonal relationship, that is, making the mistake of narcissism principle.

If you sit right, girl, I am a highly narcissistic person.

My circle of friends is basically at the same level: either it is similar to myself or it is not as good as mine. Being with people who are not as good as yourself can satisfy your self-esteem and breed some secret sense of superiority. Even if there is something unsatisfactory in life, you will feel that life is sweeter than honey. From emotion to psychology, it is more stretched. Similar to myself, there are many topics, and their views on many phenomena are surprisingly consistent. The tacit understanding of "Yes, that's it" makes this wave of close friends hang out all day like adhesive.

this situation has always spanned my whole student days.

It's not that I haven't thought about taking a step forward and making friends with people who are better than myself. But to take this step, we must overcome great psychological obstacles, that is to say, we must be strong enough inside. Those who have better grades than themselves will always feel like dwarfs. Those who have more active interpersonal relationships will lose their sense of existence. Those who are outstanding in other aspects always feel that they are a supporting role and a green leaf. How can they be content?

So, with admiration and awe for excellent partners, stay away from them.

On the contrary, you can't learn the essence of learning from those schoolmates, realize the truth of dealing with people from those children with wide popularity, and see a wider world from those students who bring their own light.

You can't have your cake and eat it. The fact tells me how important it is to take this step to trap yourself if you want to live a wonderful life.

Going abroad means that you have another dimension to see the world, which opens another window and door for you. The scenery you see here is much richer, more interesting and more wonderful than before.

My brother and I are diametrically opposed to each other. He has always been associated with a higher level than my family. Even if his family is ordinary, he must have something different from others. I don't know where my brother got his self-confidence. Almost all the friends around him are all-powerful figures on campus, and my brother is also passively shrouded in a layer of light. The influence of these friends on my brother radiates in many ways. From consumption concept to values to outlook on life, it is completely different from me. I can't say it's bad, but at the critical moment, I am more open, willing and forbearing than I am. Intuitively, my younger brother's world is much wider than mine. These friends helped my little brother through many difficulties in his life in the following years.

"Ode to Joy" describes four different worlds in which women struggle for their lives. If I had a choice, I would most like to have a girlfriend like Qu Xiaoyu. Help you see the social reality clearly, help you peel off the disguise of human nature, and help you go straight to the topic to solve the problem. She has seen too much worldly wisdom, felt too much apathy, and let the truth of all facts emerge effortlessly in the gag, but it is difficult for us ordinary people to have such an ability, which stems from her knowledge and vision.

if you don't take the initiative to attack, it's not a hierarchy. how can you make such friends?

most of the time, we need someone who can wake you up, make you make up your mind to cut the gordian knot, let you take fewer detours and reach your goal directly, and let you get rid of interpersonal troubles and make wise decisions. The friends around us have the same perspective, the same feelings, the same experience and the same level, so the advice given is often difficult to get to the point and disorganized.

thinking determines the way out. People with different experiences look at problems from different angles. When you meet a high-ranking master, you may solve a puzzle in your life in a whisper, so you have to spend tens of millions of dollars just to have lunch with Buffett, and the value brought by this lunch is not just tens of millions.

if we are surrounded by great gods, we will become great gods ourselves one day.

This article, for self-awakening, also provides some life experiences for young people. If you had this understanding ten years ago, your life situation would be completely different.