First, get out of the misunderstanding of family education.
1. Push all the tasks of teaching and educating people to the school.
I have been a class teacher for more than 20 years, and I often meet parents who say, "Teacher, the education of children depends entirely on your teacher. As parents, we know nothing and can't coach anything. Now our knowledge is too difficult ... There is sincerity in eyes and helplessness in words. They think they are too young to educate their children. Indeed, schools are places to teach and educate people, and teachers shoulder the responsibility of teaching and educating people, but parents often ignore that a large part of the task of "educating people" is to be completed by parents. Professor Yu Dan of Peking University once explained this point: Family education is the inheritance of family style, and what kind of family education can a family have. Therefore, parents must first understand that the formation of children's moral character must not rely solely on the school, and the family is their first school.
2. Every generation will be coquettish when making love.
Today's children are basically only children, and parents, grandparents only have this baby pimple, so naturally they all love it and love it. The child is spoiled like a "little emperor". Especially now many parents in rural families have gone out to work. In recent years, there are more and more left-behind children in rural areas, and more and more single-parent children. Most of them are brought by grandparents. Old people not only take care of everything in their children's lives, but also ignore their growing shortcomings. When their children are in conflict with others, grandparents' doting and connivance becomes unprincipled, blindly protecting their own shortcomings. As teachers, even if they communicate with their families, most of them don't get enough attention from their parents, which leads to more and more obvious unhealthy psychological performance of children, which makes many left-behind children's rebellious and paranoid performance particularly prominent after they reach middle school.
3. Replace love with money
Nowadays, children have to go through too many tests to grow up. Many rural parents have completely pushed the task of educating their children to schools. They think that the superior material condition of children is love. Many middle school students wear brand-name clothes and bring brand-name mobile phones, which are not far from home to school. If something happens, the teacher will inform the parents in time. No matter how much the teacher emphasizes that learning to bring a mobile phone will affect children's learning, parents still disagree. This is particularly prominent in single-parent families. In order to make up for the lack of paternal love or maternal love, they will meet all the requirements of children, making their material desires more and more inflated and their interest in learning less and less. Children who used to live in single-parent families should be in charge as early as possible, but they become arrogant and overbearing. This way of replacing love with money has unconsciously eroded the healthy mind of children.
Second, what kind of family education should be given to children?
1. Understanding good and evil
When my son was four or five years old, he once went to his grandmother's house and saw a flock of goslings with fluffy fur. When the adults were not looking, he drove them into a stone pile, moved the stones to build a nest, put all five goslings in, and then left to play something else. When the adults found out, three goslings had suffocated to death. At this time, the child's grandmother was not angry because of the death of gosling, but persisted because of her grandson. The child was a little scared. Because of her grandmother's smile, she also killed the gosling with a stick. At that time, I seized this opportunity to put the lively goslings and the dead together, and let him observe the lively and lovely simplicity of goslings and feel the beauty of life. By comparing the two rigid bodies, I let him know that it is because of his own fault that these two little creatures can't grow up and play with their companions like he and his children ... When he spoke, the child stopped laughing and tears began to appear in his eyes, and I knew he understood. In fact, each of our parents will encounter such a thing when their children grow up. As long as parents seize the opportunity and guide them correctly, then those things that kill people and send videos online, but smile and shoot with their mobile phones when their companions are drowning, will become less and less until they disappear.
honest
Our generation grew up listening to the story of "lying and herding sheep". My parents have no education, but they know the simplest and simplest truth: they must educate their children to be honest. Today's children are not short of stories since childhood, and parents often ignore what kind of stories their children need for their growth. In fact, as parents, it is not difficult to find that children lie, but since most children are only children now, parents often give their children maximum tolerance for lying. A child doesn't understand the dangers of lying. He will be complacent about his success in deceiving adults and feel a sense of accomplishment for his victory over adults. Lying for a long time, how can people without trust survive? To do this, parents should set an example and be honest. Children like to imitate. They observe and imitate the behavior of adults all the time. Therefore, in order to cultivate children's honesty, parents should set a good example for their children.
3. Dare to take responsibility
Responsibility is the concrete embodiment of responsibility. There are many reasons for children's lack of responsibility, but a large part of them are caused by parents' own doting and arranged education. Many parents unilaterally believe that love for their children is unrequited and should be paid without regrets. Those "great" parents who only know how to sacrifice for love but don't know how to ask for anything in return turn out that their grandchildren are reluctant to let their grandmothers bite popsicles. If parents want to change their children's situation, they should let their children play a certain role in the family and do their own things well. Rural families have land and many jobs. Try to get the children to try some labor. Let children understand that it is not enough to do their own thing well. They should also help the family share some things, because he is still a member of the family, and he has the responsibility to do his part for the family. Only in this way can the child be trained to be a person who dares to take responsibility and does not evade responsibility.
In a word, children's growth is a project, which needs the joint efforts of family, school and society. Among many factors, family education is the first, and parents are children's first teachers. Regardless of our children's achievements in cultural classes, we hope that they will be polite, know right from wrong, know filial piety and dare to take responsibility. Education is everywhere in family life. I hope that parents in rural areas have enough knowledge of their children's family education, and schools can give parents artistic guidance through parent-teacher conferences, which will certainly be of great help to the healthy growth of children!