The customs of Shangyouxi and Xiayouxi are different. Shangyouxi is more like southern Fujian and Hakka, while Xiayouxi is more about Fuzhou customs.

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Marriage: In feudal society, marriages of Youxi people were arranged by their parents, and they got married after negotiation and engagement. When negotiating a marriage, a matchmaker usually sends "Geng Tie" to each other's family. After receiving the bride's wedding invitation, the groom's family will ask a "fortune teller" to arrange the marriage, and the bride's family will ask the bride's family to make a proposal for the betrothal gift. Engagement is commonly known as "Xie Ji". The groom’s family must prepare four colors of fruits (5 kg each color), a rooster, thread and a set of the woman’s clothing, shoes and socks, as well as tokens of marriage (such as rings, necklaces, etc.) for the woman’s family, and the woman’s family also Give a token in return. To get married, men must be over 17 years old and women must be over 15 years old. Before getting married, the groom's family pre-selects an auspicious date, writes a red note to solicit the woman's opinion, and then decides on an auspicious date. The day before the wedding, the groom's family must send sufficient bride money and gifts according to the agreement. On an auspicious day, a sedan chair should be sent to welcome the bride, and the "Three Generations" ritual book and "Bai Tie" should be exchanged. Most of the bride's family's dowry items only include boxes and cages for clothing. If there are beds, cupboards, tables and stools, tin candlesticks, teapots, wine bottles, etc., the man must be asked to bring 10 kilograms of each of the four colors of fruit when tying the wedding ceremony, which is called a double gift. The woman who asks for double gifts is usually from a wealthy family. In the dowry, a new toilet (called the descendant bucket) is required, which contains red eggs, oranges, a small red envelope, a pair of palace lanterns (meaning the birth of a child), a pair of fire cages (meaning intimacy), and a red hand stick (meaning intimacy). The weaving tape contains a book called "shoe book" in common folklore, which contains men's and women's shoe patterns, rags, scissors, rulers, awls, needlework, red and white belts, etc.). When the bride arrives at the groom's house, the sedan is carried straight to the living room. After the sedan stops, the groom's family selects a pair of boys and girls to go to the left and right of the sedan door to invite the bride to get off the sedan. Then the groom's respected elders, who are full of descendants, open the sedan curtain door and lead the bride. The bride gets off the sedan chair, holds a worship ceremony, enters the bridal chamber, and drinks a glass of wine at night. When the bride removes her makeup, the groom first lifts the headcloth with a weighing pole and removes a red flower in the middle of the bride's head. Then the groom's mother, aunt, and sister-in-law remove the flowers.

Before the Republic of China, people with the same surname in Youxi did not intermarry. Historically, the She people named Lan, Lei and Zhong in the county have intermarried with themselves and not with the Han people. During the Republic of China, the law only prohibited marriage between close relatives, and only a few men and women with the same surname married. During this period, opportunities for young men and women to come into contact gradually increased, and voluntary marriages began where both parties could interact and fall in love. However, marriage discussions and engagements are still restricted by the parents of both parties. She and Han also began to intermarry. During this period, a few people also used the public auditorium to hold a wedding ceremony in which the officiant, groom, bride, introducer, and witnesses signed and stamped the marriage certificate.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the Government Affairs Council promulgated the "Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China", which established the freedom of marriage and prohibited arrangements, sales and interference. The age for marriage was 20 years old for men and 18 years old for women. Engagement was not required. From then on, most of the marriages took place through the introduction of men and women to each other, talking and falling in love, and then visiting each other's homes. With the consent of both parents, they registered with the government to receive a marriage certificate, and both parties agreed to select a date to hold the wedding. After the 1960s, wedding sedans have gradually disappeared, and women are now led to the groom's home by bicycle, motor vehicle or on foot. The worship ceremony gradually faded away. However, the custom of "Xie Ji" is still followed today. Before the wedding, the groom's family should send a certain amount of gifts and gifts to the bride's family, and the bride's family should buy clothes and utensils as a dowry. Among them, the necessary items include: toilet (now a spittoon or a red plastic bucket with a lid), a palace lantern. Yes, the custom of a pair of fire cages (some use hot pots instead) is still popular, and some farmers still make it a necessity. Nowadays, many families have rejected the old law and implemented independent marriage. Young men and women can fall in love freely. After obtaining the consent of their parents, they can independently decide to register for marriage, choose a date to get married, and be picked up and dropped off by a car. The dowry is mostly gold and silver jewelry and household appliances. According to the actual financial ability, a simple, grand, lively and memorable wedding will be held. Many people choose their wedding date to fall on International Labor Day, National Day or New Year's Day. Some young people also choose to travel and get married.