It’s not that serious! I still have to thank grandma!

If you have phobia, I have the following text. You can read it and you can adjust it:

First, improve your cognitive level.

Improving your cognitive level can enable you to identify and eliminate unnecessary fears, and reduce your fear level through rationality. Regarding this, you can read some books and discuss it with more people. Speaking of fear, everyone has it. It is actually a natural instinct of human beings. The purpose is to avoid risks and prevent harm. Fear has its positive significance, so don’t deny it or reject it blindly. Sometimes people should also have a heart of "reverence" and not "play with fire". Only in this way can they be safe and long-term.

Two, increase experience.

Increasing experience, experience, and getting in touch with more people, things, and things will definitely be helpful to people. As the saying goes: Once born, twice cooked. Life should be practiced more. People always feel uneasy and fearful about unfamiliar things and things because they don’t understand them. For example, your first time swimming, your first time riding a bicycle, your first time giving a speech, etc. And when you experience it more times, understand it, and have some grasp of it, you will reduce the level of fear. Most people may not be able to do it twice, but after ten or twenty times, it will be much better.

Third, failure is the mother of success.

In the face of difficulties and challenges, you can retreat or move forward. Combined with the above point, some people give up after being frustrated once or twice. Of course, they cannot overcome difficulties and fear; but outstanding people will become more courageous with every setback, and through practice again and again, they will eventually succeed. Failure is not terrible, as long as you sum up experience and lessons, failure is worth it. The future is bright, but the road is tortuous. There is no easy success, and there is no so-called victorious general. You must have resilience, endurance, and be mentally prepared to fight a protracted war.

Fourth, be normal and cheeky.

A normal mind means that in life, you should look down on successes and failures, honors and disgrace, gains and losses, don't always care about trivial things, and don't care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations. "Everything will pass." Please look at the problem from the perspective of change, long-term, and development. In a few years, it will have a new look and atmosphere. Please think more about your future and don't be limited to the immediate gains and losses. The same principle applies to being thick-skinned. Don't be afraid of failure or setbacks. As long as you have a goal and a direction in your mind and you move towards your goal, you'll be fine.

Five, one hero has three gangs.

Telling you not to care about other people's opinions and evaluations does not mean that you should be independent and pretend to be noble. In fact, if you can make more friends and build good relationships, you will feel the powerful power of praise, solidarity, encouragement, and support, and this power can also be turned into your motivation to move forward, helping you overcome difficulties and eliminate fears. . Of course, in addition to friendship, the power of family, love, and even the power of the country and the collective cannot be underestimated. Sometimes, if you have an organization behind you, you will have the confidence to speak and do things.

Sixth, correct beliefs in three views.

It is worth pointing out that a person’s three views (world view, outlook on life, values) and beliefs can often determine his inner strength. If a person has a broad vision, lofty ideals, and cares about his family, country, and world, he will often not be troubled or intimidated by ordinary difficulties and things. In addition, in daily life and work, if we have more of a "truth-seeking and pragmatic" style, "tell true feelings and do practical things", we can fully understand the most essential and fundamental connotation of interpersonal communication, which is "exchanging feelings" and " If he wants to collaborate on things", he will "grasp the real and let go of the imaginary", look down on some boring details, and throw away some unnecessary distractions, so as to go into battle lightly and be more calm and calm in being a good person and doing things well.

Seven, learn to adjust and relax.

It is also necessary to learn to relax and rest and maintain strong energy. Decreased energy, overwork, busy life, excessive distraction and other factors can also reduce people's sense of control in certain aspects. Speaking of adjustment and relaxation: take a deep breath, this is a common adjustment method. In addition, you can also recite, speak, and sing. From a long-term perspective, sports are an excellent way to regulate the body and mind. When you encounter irritating events or sensitive things, you can temporarily avoid them. Then, gradually, from shallow to deep, get in touch with it and adapt to it bit by bit.

Specifically, you can search for "system desensitization method" online. Of course, if you have the opportunity, you can see a psychologist, I believe you will gain something!

I wish you good physical and mental health and a happy life!